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A Guide to Writing & Delivering an Appropriate Eulogy

Last Updated: April 6, 2024 Fact Checked

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This article was co-authored by Rebecca Tenzer, MAT, MA, LCSW, CCTP, CGCS, CCATP, CCFP and by wikiHow staff writer, Raven Minyard, BA . Rebecca Tenzer is the owner and head clinician at Astute Counseling Services, a private counseling practice in Chicago, Illinois. With over 18 years of clinical and educational experience in the field of mental health, Rebecca specializes in the treatment of depression, anxiety, panic, trauma, grief, interpersonal relationships using a combination of Cognitive Behavioral therapy, Psychodynamic therapy, and other evidence-based practices. Rebecca holds a Bachelor of Arts (BA) in Sociology and Anthropology from DePauw University, a Master in Teaching (MAT) from Dominican University, and a Master of Social Work (MSW) from the University of Chicago. Rebecca has served as a member of the AmeriCorps and is also a Professor of Psychology at the collegiate level. Rebecca is trained as a Cognitive Behavioral Therapist (CBT), a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional (CCTP), a Certified Grief Counseling Specialist (CGCS), a Clinical Anxiety Treatment Professional (CCATP), and a Certified Compassion Fatigue Professional (CCFP). Rebecca is also a member of the Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Society of America and The National Association of Social Workers. There are 8 references cited in this article, which can be found at the bottom of the page. This article has been fact-checked, ensuring the accuracy of any cited facts and confirming the authority of its sources. This article has been viewed 2,877,540 times.

A eulogy is a speech given at a memorial service in memory of the deceased. Being asked to deliver one may seem overwhelming at first, but you don't have to be a great writer or orator to deliver a heartfelt and meaningful eulogy that captures the essence of the deceased. If you want to know how to write a eulogy in spite of being in grief, keep reading as we walk you through how to write and deliver a great eulogy.

Tips for Writing a Eulogy

• Introduce yourself and your relationship to the deceased. Describe their family life, accomplishments, and notable hobbies.
• As you talk about the deceased’s qualities, speak from the heart and tell stories from their life that support these qualities.
• Don’t be afraid to use a bit of humor to break the tension. A bit of laughter can help the audience feel better.

• A good eulogy reflects the personality, character, and achievements of the deceased while typically incorporating personal anecdotes from the person delivering the speech.
• Every eulogy is different, but the most important thing is that it is heartfelt and accurately depicts the person being honored.

How to Write a Eulogy

• Ask the deceased’s loved ones for stories. To make the eulogy personal and heartfelt, ask their friends and family to tell you about them so you can get a full picture of what they were like. [3] X Research source

• When deciding on a tone, consider the way the deceased passed away. If you're giving a eulogy about a teenager who met an untimely death, your tone should be more serious than if you were giving a eulogy about a grandparent who happily lived to see their ninetieth birthday.
• Every eulogy is unique, so base the theme around the deceased’s life. For example, if they traveled a lot, talk about all the adventures they had. If they were family-oriented, talk about the cherished memories they shared with their children.

• If the deceased was religious, you can also begin your speech with a prayer.
• For example, try something like “My mother loved Fleetwood Mac, so I’d like to open with a line from their song “Landslide.”
• Or, “When I was a child, my father would always tell me ‘Life is like a box of chocolates. You never know what you’re going to get.’ He always acted like he came up with it himself, so imagine my surprise when I saw Forrest Gump for the first time.”

• If you aren’t related to the deceased, this is also a good time to offer your condolences to the family.
• You can also describe how you met the deceased if you aren’t a relative.
• For example, say, “My name is Jane and I’m the daughter of Robert. I’m here today to celebrate my father’s life and tell you all what an incredible man he was.”
• Or, “For those of you who don’t know me, my name is Ted. I’m proud to say I’ve been Gary’s best friend for forty years.”

• Write down the names of the family members especially close to the deceased, like a spouse, sibling, child, or parent. You may forget their names on the big day because you're overwhelmed by sadness, so it's advisable to have them on hand.
• Make sure you say something specific about the family life of the deceased to honor their living family members.
• For example, say something like “John was a family man and is survived by his wife Susan, his daughter Christina, and his son Nicholas. He worked hard to build them their dream home where he proudly taught his children to ride a bike, drive a car, and be strong, independent people. He always said his family was his biggest accomplishment.”
• Or, “Lois was a globetrotter. She spent the majority of her life traveling and seeing the world. She’d tell me stories about visiting countries I’d never even heard of and all the adventures she had.”

• If the deceased is remembered for being kind, talk about the time they helped a homeless man get back on his feet.
• If the deceased is known for being a prankster, mention their famous April Fool's prank.
• For example, you could say “My mother was the kindest person I’ve ever met. She was the type to give you the shirt off her back. I still remember when I was 8 years old, she paid for a family’s meal at Olive Garden when she noticed their card was declined. We didn’t have much money then, so it was a complete act of selflessness. Ever since then, I’ve tried to be half the woman she was by helping out whenever I can.”
• Pretend that a stranger is listening to your eulogy. Would they get a good sense of the person you're describing without ever meeting them just from your words?
• The average eulogy is about 3-5 minutes long. That should be enough for you to give a meaningful speech about the deceased. Remember that less is more; you don't want to try the patience of the audience during such a sad occasion.

• For example, if the person was difficult or inordinately negative, either avoid talking about it or allude to it gently by saying something like “He had his demons, which were a constant battle.”
• Or, say something like, “We all know Harry was a stubborn old man, and he’d tell you that himself. Underneath that rough exterior, however, was a kind soul.”
• Avoid making jokes or comments about the deceased that would be a mystery to the majority of the crowd, as well.
• A good rule of thumb is if you think something could be offensive to the deceased or their loved ones, don’t include it. If you made a joke that might be risky, get feedback from some of the deceased’s loved ones beforehand to determine if it’s appropriate.

• For example, if the deceased did a lot of charity work, you may encourage the audience to carry out their memory by doing some volunteer work themselves.
• If the deceased was religious, you can say something like “My mother was a good Christian woman and as she goes to live with God in Heaven, I’d like to leave you with her favorite Bible verse.”
• You can be heartfelt and still keep things light. If the deceased was the type who didn’t want their funeral to be too sad, try saying something like, “Buddy, I sure am going to miss you. You always said you wanted everyone to crack open a beer for you when you died, so once we’re done here, I encourage everyone to pour one out for the best friend anyone could ask for.”

• You can also ask someone to help edit your eulogy. Since you’re the only one who will be reading it at the funeral, it doesn’t have to have perfect grammar, but your friends or family members can help you add smoother transitions or remove repetitive phrasing.

How to Give a Eulogy

• Rehearsing the eulogy will also help you learn to control your emotions and not get choked up over the speech.
• Try memorizing as much of the speech as you can, or even just reading from notes. Though you should have something to fall back on if you forget what you were going to say, your words will sound more heartfelt if you’re not reading every sentence right off the page.

• Tell yourself you’re not there to win a speech-giving contest or to impress anyone. You’re there to convey your heartfelt feelings about the deceased and that’s it.

• Remember to sound like yourself, not some formal version of yourself. You can use a conversational tone as long as you don't use inappropriate language or too much slang that might confuse the older members of the audience.

• Write and speak in your own voice. If you wish, augment your eulogy by reading a poem. Thanks Helpful 2 Not Helpful 1
• The best eulogies are factual, honest, and respectful. Talk about the deceased and what they did in their lifetime. If they died young, show that you express regret about that. Thanks Helpful 0 Not Helpful 0

• Don't use humor that is either inappropriate or being used just for the laugh. Make it relevant and tasteful. If in doubt, leave it out. Thanks Helpful 4 Not Helpful 0
• Don't think that a eulogy has to be a biography of the deceased. On the contrary, you shouldn't sum up their entire life. Instead, tell your story—that is, your relationship with the deceased and how they impacted your life. Thanks Helpful 0 Not Helpful 0
• Avoid mentioning how the deceased passed. Depending on the situation, this can be a very sensitive topic and may greatly upset their loved ones. Thanks Helpful 0 Not Helpful 0

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To write a eulogy, consider the audience and try to focus on the positive aspects of the person’s life while remaining honest. At the beginning of the eulogy, introduce yourself and talk about how you knew the deceased. Continue on to talk about their life, including their family members, where they lived and grew up, what their career achievements were, and what hobbies and interests they were passionate about. Try to include specific examples of the qualities that they possessed by telling stories. When the eulogy is written, be sure to practice before the big day. To learn more strategies about how to read the eulogy in front of others, keep reading below. Did this summary help you? Yes No

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Death is a part of life, and so are the funerals and memorial services held to mark an individual’s passing. But when we’re called upon to speak at these occasions, many of us are at a loss for words. Here are some basic guidelines for writing a eulogy, from palliative specialist BJ Miller and writer Shoshana Berger.

When you leave a memorial or funeral having imagined the fullness of the person being memorialized, you know the speakers got it right. The first rule for eulogists is that this is not about them. It is about paying close attention to the way a person lived and drawing out the most meaningful, memorable bits.

Summing up a life in writing isn’t easy, but it’s an important exercise that serves a dual purpose. It obliges the writer to call up memories — which is a way to honor the person and process one’s loss — and it creates an atmosphere of deep community with other grievers. Do your best to be honest in your eulogy, instead of presenting some idealized portrait that others won’t recognize. Steve Schafer, a pastor who helps people write eulogies, offers the following guidelines.

• Aim for 1,000 words, or about six to seven minutes’ speaking time.

• Always write down what you’re going to say, even if you plan to abandon your notes. It’s a good way to gather your thoughts and make sure you’re not missing any important details.

• Be personal and conversational. This isn’t a formal speech; it’s an appreciation.

• If you aren’t introduced by the emcee or by another speaker, do so yourself and say what your relationship to the person was.

• Start with a story about the person. People come alive through specific anecdotes.

• Be humorous. The best eulogies are respectful and solemn, but they also give mourners some comic relief. A bit of roasting is fine if it suits who the person was and the family has a sense of humor.

• Close your eulogy by directly addressing the person who died, something like “Joe, thank you for teaching me how to be a good father.”

Here’s an example of a great eulogy, written by a woman for her grandmother. Before each section, we’ve explained what she’s done.

[Start with an introduction that paints a portrait of the person’s character. Beginning with your memories of the person is a great way to go. Try for descriptive details — the Almond Joy moment below — rather than broad, abstract statements such as “She was kind” or “She was a loving caretaker.”]

From my earliest memories, she is right by my side, taking me on walks through the miniature golf course near our house, dutifully preparing my odd lunch requests for cheddar and mayo sandwiches and sneaking me Almond Joy candy bars away from the gaze of my mom.

[Draw out important moments that signify lifelong connection.]

I was so close to my grandma that around the age of 23 I grew increasingly anxious that she might not live to attend my wedding unless I hurried up. Well … she did live to attend that wedding, and also to witness my first divorce, my second marriage, and to know and love my two children. She liked Jeff from the beginning and one day before we were engaged, she boldly told him, “Well, you better put a ring on it!” quoting Beyoncé without knowing the reference.

[Talk about advice passed down — values, sayings and anecdotes that capture the person.]

The most remarkable qualities about my grandma as she aged were her gratitude and her humility. She often told me to live for myself and not worry about her — to work, focus on my family, and come visit when I had time. She loved every minute of our visits but never pushed for more.

I once asked her if I should have a third child and she replied, “Why, honey? You already have the perfect family.” The most important things to my grandma were family and faith; she didn’t care for material possessions. In fact, she was known for giving items away because “there was someone who was more in need.” This selflessness and service for others leave a legacy that I will try to model for my children. Time with her family was the greatest gift and even with that, she was not greedy.

[Thank-yous to other family members who helped with caretaking.]

I am deeply thankful to our family who cared for, loved her, and relished spending time with my grammie as she aged. Knowing she had Adie to take her to church and lunch every Sunday punctuated her week with a joyful event she truly looked forward to. Dave and Aileen always arrived with a box of her favorites See’s Candies, essentially confirming the Pavlovian model as she began to drool as soon as they walked in the door. And to my mom, who cared for my grandma for the last 10 years of her life with compassion and unrivaled duty. I thank her not only for giving back to her mom, but for modeling care and respect for our elders.

[The eulogy goes on a bit longer and then ends with a closing quote, poem, reading, or other good-bye.]

“When my friends began to have babies and I came to comprehend the heroic labor it takes to keep one alive, the constant exhausting tending of a being who can do nothing and demands everything, I realized that my mother had done all of these things for me before I remembered. I was fed; I was washed; I was clothed; I was taught to speak and given a thousand other things, over and over again, hourly, daily, for years. She gave me everything before she gave me nothing.”

— Rebecca Solnit, from her book The Faraway Nearby

Excerpted from the new book A Beginner’s Guide to the End: Practical Advice for Living Life and Facing Death by BJ Miller and Shoshana Berger. Copyright © 2019 by BJ Miller and Shoshana Berger. Reprinted by permission of Simon & Schuster, Inc, NY.

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Shoshana Berger is the editorial director of the global design firm IDEO. She was a senior editor at Wired magazine and the cofounder of ReadyMade magazine.

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Eulogy Examples: How to Write a Eulogy for a Loved One

By Bernie Flowers

How do you distill a lifetime of memories and experiences into a 15-minute eulogy? It’s an honor to hold the responsibility of eulogizing your loved one, but it can feel like a challenge to fit everything you want to say in one speech.

Instead of making the funeral attendees feel like they are reading an encyclopedia from cover-to-cover, look for ways to highlight the rich life experiences that matter most. A eulogy should be a sampling of the best the person had to offer including accomplishments, personality traits, and memorable stories.

When it comes to eulogy writing, you can search online for ideas and examples. But the most important thing you need to keep in mind: quality over quantity .

All this being said, we would advise having a professional write your Eulogy for you and you can avail of our Eulogy Writing Concierge Service

What is a Eulogy?

Giving a eulogy means that you are sharing a remembrance speech with the purpose of paying tribute to a loved one. This speech is given at the funeral or memorial service by a family member or close friend.

A good eulogy highlights the lasting impact of the person on their family and community. Through your speech, you’ll have an opportunity to share their unique qualities, as well as the ripple effect of positivity and change they created in the world around them.

How can you best honor  your loved one? A eulogy can be a part of your healing, and a beautiful way to reflect on the details that were most special about them.

Eulogy Examples

One of the simplest ways to write a eulogy is to review a eulogy speech example that matches your own preferred tone and style. What makes a eulogy unique is the unique details you’ll share about the person themselves, which is why it’s essential to customize your eulogy to honor and celebrate the personality of your loved one.

You may want to start with our primer on how to write a eulogy . Then, use the following outline and eulogy examples to create a strong speech  that communicates the message you want to share about the person who meant so much to you.

Eulogy Sample Outline

Using a eulogy sample outline is a proven way to create a great speech. Remember those Mad Libs books from your childhood? This process is similar: follow the outline and plug in the personal details applicable to your loved one. 

These eulogy samples help you overcome writer's block and keep you focused on the details that matter most. Aim to cap the eulogy at a maximum of 10 minutes total. The simplest eulogy outline can be broken down into three parts, so you’ll need to consider how much time to spend on each section:

• Set the tone by beginning with a poem, quote, or scripture that was meaningful to the person.
• Names they were known by, including nicknames and maiden names.
• Cause of death (an optional detail).
• A brief insight into your relationship with the individual.
• Accomplishments
• Major life events
• Stories or fond memories
• How the person affected others
• Childhood years
• Travel adventures
• Marriage and children
• Any other thoughts you want to share about the person
• A final take away from your theme
• How you want family and friends to remember the individual
• What the person would want you to remember them for
• Quote, scripture, or song lyric
• Thank attendees for participating

Eulogy Examples for a Friend

It can be helpful to write this eulogy as if you were talking to a friend. Common talking points might include:

• Common activities enjoyed together
• What you like most about the person
• Personality traits or phrases they often use
• How you would describe the person
• What will you remember them by?

Here is a eulogy example for a friend:

I can’t imagine how empty it will feel to spend time on the basketball court without Jim by my side. Our relationship was built with a basketball in hand, and evolved to share many family gatherings and other activities together over the years. With his passing, Jim is leaving behind a legacy of kindness, compassion, and generosity.

Jim shared good humor and a big smile with everyone he met. Even though people often cursed at his practical jokes, he was an integral part of creating a solid foundation of friendship in our group. When times were difficult, he could always put a smile on my face. He held his head high until the end, showing what it looks like to finish strong.

Eulogy Examples for Your Father

Writing a eulogy for your dad may be really tough. How do you memorialize your hero amid grief and emotion? We hope these tips and the example below will help you in your process. 

• Share childhood experiences when spending time with dad
• Talk about his best qualities
• Capture his essence through “dad jokes” and the things that made you laugh
• Tell about the things you will miss most about him
• Describe his role in your upbringing

Here is a eulogy example for your father:

My dad was my hero. He could make every person feel like they were the most important person in the world. Growing up, I knew that I could always ask Dad for help – and he would be willing to drop anything to lend a hand. He was a rock of stability in my childhood and a source of strength for our whole family.

My father was a man who infused fun into the most mundane tasks. I remember how he would turn our bedtime routine into an adventure that included highlights from our favorite storybooks. He was a kind and thoughtful person. Every night at the dinner table, he encouraged us to talk about the things we were grateful for, and always had yummy treats for us kids hidden in the back of the pantry. I will miss you, Dad, and I’ll always hold onto the amazing memories we shared together.

Eulogy Examples for Your Mother

How can you ever do justice to a eulogy for your beloved mother – the woman who was always there with love and guidance through the ups and downs, the celebrations and challenging moments of your life? Here are a few tips for writing a eulogy for your mother:

• Describe the way she showed her love for you
• Celebrate the small ways she turned your house into a home
• Highlight the impact she made throughout the community
• Explain the smells, sounds, and feelings you felt when arriving home
• Share stories from childhood and adulthood that reflect her character

Here is a eulogy example for your mother:

Today we are honoring, celebrating, and remembering {mom’s full name]. She was a woman of grace and courage, with a stubborn streak that showed up when she set her mind to something, like going back to school to become a nurse at age 40. 

My mother was truly my best friend and I am humbled by the challenge of describing the fullness of her beauty and caring here today. I don't know how she did it, but Mom always found the perfect balance between work and home. Even though she worked 40 – 50 hours a week to support us, she prioritized family dinner. That time was sacred to our family. Her love and kindness were infused in everything she did, whether she was baking cookies for a bake sale to help the hospital or sewing our Halloween costumes by hand year after year. 

She had a magical way of bringing joy every time she walked into the room. No one who met her could forget her smile. And I’ll never forget the advice and the lessons she taught me. Her wisdom will forever guide the decisions I make through the rest of my life. I love you, Mom.

Eulogy Examples for Your Grandmother

How do you share the details about the love you felt through your relationship with a grandmother? Follow these tips to write a good eulogy for this important woman:

• Talk about the fun traditions she brought for your favorite holiday
• What was she known for in the community?
• How did her influence touch your life?
• What are the daily moments that will remind you of her?
• Share funny stories that showcase her quirks or sense of humor

Here is a eulogy example for your grandmother:

My grandmother paid attention to the details – it was the little things that added the finishing touch to every experience. Whether she was setting out the treat jar on the kitchen table or clinking the glass while drinking her iced tea, she always prioritized food and drinks.

Since she loved to shop, grandma would often take us to the mall when we were visiting for the weekend. We would have fashion shows in the dressing rooms and often come home with bright, frilly dresses that were perfect for twirling.

When grandpa was away for the war, grandma was an example of always getting back up again when things get hard. She never complained; just worked hard and supported her family at all times. Despite the personal challenges, she always looked outside of herself – which is why she will be remembered as a beacon of light in this community.

Eulogy Examples for Your Grandfather

What are the details that make your grandfather larger than life? Here are a few ideas to help when writing a eulogy for this great man:

• Explain the qualities that best describe his personality
• Tell about the details that made him stand out from other grandparents
• What hobbies or passions did he share with the family?
• How will the neighborhood or community remember him?
• Talk about stories that were life-changing moments for him

Here is a eulogy example for your grandfather:

Even though my grandfather didn’t like to be the center of attention, he had an undeniable impact on the community. If he was here with us today, he wouldn’t want us to share grief and sorrow. Instead, his desire would be to focus on the happy memories and joyful experiences shared over the years.

Grandpa was a man who set a lasting impression on everyone he met. His deep laugh and kind eyes warmed the room and brought life into the most boring daily activities. Grandpa loved spending time with his grandkids because he said that it made him feel young at heart.

He was a great teacher and a dependable friend. His advice and guidance will continue to carry me through the joys and challenges that life has to offer.

Eulogy Examples for Your Brother

Siblings share a special bond, giving you deep insights to share about your brother. Follow these tips for writing a good eulogy:

• What was it like growing up in the same house together?
• Describe the way your relationship changed in adulthood
• Share funny stories about sibling rivalries
• Explain the lasting impact he left on you and the family
• List his favorite hobbies and food

Here is a eulogy example for your brother:

While it’s tragic to think about Kyle leaving us too soon, he left behind a lifetime of memories that we can celebrate. Kyle was always ready for a fun day with friends – he would have been the one showing up today with the perfect playlist for the event.

Even though my brother was a few years older than me, he always included me in the adventures with his friends. I never felt like the little brother he was dragging along. He made me feel special and included in the group, and helped me build confidence along the way.

Kyle was my best friend and I can’t imagine what life is going to be like without him sending me funny cat memes every night. But I know that his memory will live on when I eat his favorite pizza or hear his favorite band on the radio.

Eulogy Examples for Your Sister

If you’ve lost a sibling, we are truly sorry, Writing a eulogy for your sister can be a way to honor her through your memories of your childhood and growing up with her, as well as the milestones of her life. A few ideas for this eulogy include:

• Share her notable life accomplishments
• Retell your favorite stories from growing up together
• Highlight the kind of person she was
• Summarize your relationship in a few short words
• Talk about what she meant to you and how she influenced your life

Here is a eulogy example for your sister:

My sister, Kim, might have been a little shy at the first introduction. But once she warmed up to a friendship, she always had plenty to say every time she talked. Kim loved to share stories from her time volunteering at the children’s hospital and she had a beautiful gift of making everyone feel like the most important person in the world.

We were only a year apart, which meant that I was the younger sister who was often stealing her clothes or listening in on her conversations with her boyfriend. Even though I was the pesky sibling who cracked jokes about her unique style, she was everything I wanted to be when I grew up. She was independent, strong, and beautiful. She was a free spirit who wasn’t afraid to act boldly, like moving to Paris after college and starting her own business. She was my partner in crime, and I could always tell her everything. She will never be replaced. . My dear sister, I love you and I will be forever grateful for every moment we spent together.

Short Eulogy Examples

Short and sweet is a good rule of thumb to follow when writing a eulogy. Consider these important talking points if you want to write a short eulogy:

• Highlight the person’s passions or interests
• What were the most memorable times you spent together?
• Sum up the person’s character using a story or memory
• Express your gratitude for the impact the person had on your life
• Talk about their influence on family and community

Here is a short eulogy example:

The years I spent with Kathy in my life were filled with excitement and adventure. She showed up for life in the biggest way possible. From the moment she shared her cookie with me on the first day of kindergarten, I knew we would be best friends.

She spent many years working as a teacher, and her heart was big enough to offer individual attention to every child that walked into her classroom. Kathy made a difference in the lives of hundreds of children over the years, and her kindness and positivity will leave an unwavering legacy in this community.

Funny Eulogy Examples

Sometimes a bit of humor is the perfect way to lighten the mood and showcase the personality of your loved one. Consider these tips if you want to add a few jokes into the eulogy:

• Point out the person’s comedic qualities
• Be specific about sharing their jokes or pranks
• Look for ways to communicate what the person would say if they wrote the speech
• Find the right balance of humor to share laughs without being irreverent
• Share a funny poem or a quote from the person’s favorite movie

Here is a funny eulogy example:

Anyone who met Josh quickly learned that there are always laughs to be shared. It was impossible to spend time with him without enjoying a gut-busting laugh at some point in the conversation. Josh was known as the class clown, and his jokes were quick-witted and hilarious.

Who could forget the time Josh showed up to the family reunion wearing that ridiculous blow-up dinosaur costume? He chased the kids around the park until everyone laughed until they were crying.

Many funny memories came out of our family camping trips. He couldn’t sit down to enjoy a peaceful campfire. Instead, the s’more making always seemed to turn into a marshmallow fight – with white puffs flying through the air when you least expected it. Josh kept a smile on my face through the ups and downs of life, and I will keep on smiling in his honor.

Personalizing the Eulogy

As you read through these funeral eulogy examples, the most important thing to remember is that there isn’t a right or wrong way to write a eulogy. Instead, consider the best way to share the person in the way they would want others to remember them. It’s your chance to verbalize your love and honor the memories of your loved one.

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How to Write a Eulogy and Speak Like a Pro

If you have been asked to write and give a loved one’s eulogy—a speech honouring their life—at a funeral or memorial service, you probably have mixed emotions about it.   

While part of you is honoured by the request, another part of you is nervous or overwhelmed with how to accomplish the task.   

All of these emotions are perfectly normal, especially if you aren’t an experienced writer or public speaker.  But don’t worry—we’ve got you covered.

The first step is to consider whether it might be a good idea to hire an  hire an affordable and professional eulogy writer – it’s more affordable than you think!

If you are keen to try writing the eulogy on your own, we also cover:

• Writing a Eulogy Yourself? Let’s Start With the Basics…

How to Write a Eulogy in 6 Easy Steps

Infographic on how to write a eulogy, how to properly practice a eulogy.

• How to Speak Confidently
• Video Interview with Renowned Public Speaking Coach, Jay Miller

Summary of Our Eulogy Tips

How to Hire an Affordable and Professional Eulogy Writer (if Writing Feels Too Hard)

Does writing a eulogy just feel too hard?  You are not alone!  Many people feel exactly the same as you do.

Between the grief, the time it takes to plan for a funeral, and the fact that most people aren’t eulogy writing experts, writing a eulogy can feel like an overwhelming task.

But not to worry.  There is a solution!

Do yourself a favour and hire eulogy writing expert, Steven Schafer, founder of The Eulogy Writers .

Let him bear the responsibility of crafting a meaningful eulogy!

Not only does he have 30+ years of eulogy writing experience, he truly cares about helping people during this most difficult time.

Here is what a few clients who have used his services had to say:

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  I can’t thank you enough for your help in preparing the eulogy for my Mom. You took my scattered thoughts and memories and composed the most beautifully written eulogy that really captured her essence. I’m so happy I found your website. Many blessings to you.  ~ Edie M.

I am so impressed by how you were able to take all the “stuff” I gave you and write the story. I am sure, doing this as you do for many others, it is impossible to put in all of the memories that flood one’s heart upon the death of a loved one, yet you were able to take the important points and see the whole story. This was done wonderfully well. Thank you very very much. ~ Paula D.

Many people mistakenly assume that hiring a professional eulogy writer like Steven is unaffordable.

They’re surprised (but delighted!) to learn that it’s ONLY $278 for a beautiful and highly-personalized eulogy .

Not only it this half the price of other eulogy writing companies you’ll find on the web, there are no extra fees and no hidden charges .

For example, unlike other eulogy writers, Steven does not charge extra for revisions or for getting the work done within 24 hours.

To quote Carl H., another satisfied client: “Amazing! An awesome eulogy — and done by the next day!  I’d have gladly paid twice what you charge.”

You won’t find a better eulogy writer or a more lovely human being than Steven Schafer.

If you are ready to offload the overwhelming task of writing a eulogy, you can contact him a number of different ways:

• E-mail [email protected]
• Phone (734) 846-3072.  (Don’t forget to add the country code for the USA to the beginning of the phone number if you are calling from another country.)
• Contact form on his website

If you are having a virtual funeral service, maybe because your family is scattered geographically, it is still a great idea to have a eulogy professionally written by Steven because a eulogy is a centre-point of any funeral service, including a virtual funeral service.

Steven is now accepting new clients in the USA and from overseas, so contact him today!  You’ll be so glad that you did.

Writing a Eulogy Yourself?  Let’s Start With the Basics…

If you’ve never attended a funeral, or are not particularly knowledgeable about eulogies, here are the basics.

How Long Should a Eulogy Be?

A good length for a eulogy is 3 to 5 minutes (10 minutes max). With a longer speech you risk loosing your audience’s attention. Instead, focus on making a couple of key points about the person that passed away and what they meant to you.

How to Write a Eulogy?

Find biographical information about the deceased (e.g. important dates and places). Ask family and friends about special memories. Draft a eulogy that presents events in chronological order. Include stories that illuminate the character of the deceased. End the eulogy with what he/she meant to you. Finally, say goodbye.

Can You Give Me an Example of a Eulogy?

No problem.  Here’s a short eulogy example to inspire you to get started with writing a eulogy today:

“Good afternoon, everyone.  We are gathered here today to celebrate the life of Maria Elizabeth Rickley.  For anyone who doesn’t know me, my name is Hannah Rickley and Maria was my grandmother, or Nona as we all called her.

My Nona was an incredible woman.  She was adored by her husband, Paul, as well as her three children and six grandchildren.  Her hard work, her caring nature, her humour and her love of life are some of the many traits that characterized this amazing and loving person.

My Nona was born on July 19, 1935 on a small farm in Caserta, Italy.  Her childhood can be best described as humble, but full of adventure.  Working with her family on their family farm in Italy, Maria learned how to sheer sheep, milk cows, and the secret recipe of the Depetrillo tomato sauce that has been in our family for generations – and is better than any restaurant or family recipe I have ever tasted.  She enjoyed walking the fields with her mother, Liza, moving the cattle from pasture to pasture, and sharing stories – stories that my Nona would later tell me while I sat cuddling in her lap.

When she was 14 years old, my Nona, her little brother, Ricco, and her parents, Liza and Antonio, moved from their small farm town in Italy to Canada.  Her family made a home in Sault Ste. Marie, Ontario, where she attended Korah High School.  In her third year at Korah High, my Nona met Jonathan Rickley.  She was a cheerleader for the high school football team and he was a running back. 

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The two met after my Jonathan caught the winning touchdown in their championship game. My grandfather says to this day that she was the most beautiful woman he has ever laid eyes on and that it was love at first sight.  The two high school sweethearts married four years later after their fateful meeting.

After Maria graduated from teacher’s college, she began teaching the third grade at St. Joseph’s Elementary School.  Before long, Maria and Jonathan gave birth to their first child, Sarah.  In short succession, Maria and Jonathan had two more children: Daniel and Anthony.  Maria continued to teach at St. Joseph’s until her retirement at the age of 60, at which time she received a lifetime achievement award from the school board, which she proudly hung in the kitchen.

My Nona was the definition of “young at heart”.  Nothing gave her more joy than a good joke or a funny prank.  I remember one sleepover I had at my Nona’s.  It was April Fool’s Day and I woke up and walked out of my bedroom and saw that all of the photos hanging on the walls of the house were turned upside-down and all of the cupboards and drawers were open.  I burst into laughter as she came out of the kitchen acting like this sight was completely normal.  Nothing put a smile on her face like seeing her grandkids laugh.

My Nona was not only funny, she was exceptionally bright.  She was always seen doing a crossword or Sudoku puzzle.  If I ever needed help with my homework, she always knew the answers.  However, she never just gave me the answers.  Instead, she helped me to find the answers myself.   She had a special way of bringing out the best in people and making them believe in themselves.

I love my Nona very much and will miss her dearly.  Her life touched so many people and I will continue to live my life the way that she taught me to, to work hard, to be kind to others, and to not take myself too seriously.  Her humour, kindness and selflessness will continue to inspire those who were lucky enough to know her and be loved by her.  Rest in peace, my sweet Nona.”

If you are looking for more eulogy examples, please see our companion post you will find 30+ beautiful examples of eulogies that you can use today.

How to Give a Eulogy?

Practice your eulogy often beforehand. Time how long it is (shouldn’t be longer than 10 mins). Get feedback from someone you trust. At the funeral, do vocal cord warm-up exercises and deep breathing. Speak slowly, don’t rush. Make eye contact with the congregation. Be yourself.

Writing a eulogy can feel very overwhelming, which is why we’ve created this easy-to-follow step-by-step guide to get you started.

1. Brainstorm Ideas for the Eulogy

Before you start writing a eulogy, brainstorm ideas for points to include in your speech and get organized.

Gather Material and Stories that You Might be Able to Use in the Eulogy

Gather biographical information about the deceased.  (For example: date and place of birth; name of relatives; date of marriage; career achievements; etc.)

Speak with family members and friends that knew the deceased well for stories or insights about the deceased.  They will be happy to be included in the process.

All the various stories that you hear might help you create a central theme in the eulogy (for example, the deceased’s constant kindness).

Organize Your Ideas

The eulogy should have a logical flow to it.

Organize the information and stories you gathered using the order outlined in the eulogy template below.

Write a checklist of all the points you wish to make within each section of the eulogy template.

Consider How Much Humour is Appropriate to Use in the Eulogy

RELATED: 27+ Eulogy Examples to Inspire Your Eulogy & Help You Get Started

Decide on how serious or high-spirited you want the eulogy to be.

If done tastefully, adding a bit of humour to a eulogy can help convey the personality of the deceased.

You should note, however, that the amount of humour that is appropriate ultimately depend on the circumstances surrounding the death of the deceased.

If a child met an untimely death, the eulogy should take on a more serious tone than if you are giving a eulogy about a grandparent or parent who lived a long and happy life.

Review Examples of Eulogies

Reading eulogy examples may inspire you when writing the eulogy for your loved one.  You might find lines and phrases that resonate with you and that you can borrow.

Eulogy examples is also useful in helping you understand how the information that you present should flow.

2. Write the Eulogy’s Introduction

 Use this template for writing the 1st paragraph of the eulogy.

In the opening statement, a cknowledge why everybody is gathered— i.e. to celebrate the life of the deceased and to say goodbye.

For example:

• “We are here today to celebrate the life of John Doe, and to say goodbye to a wonderful man.” OR
• “We are gathered here today to remember the life of John Doe, and celebrate what he meant to us all.”

In the next line, introduce yourself and explain your relationship to the deceased.    

• “For those of you whom I haven’t yet had the pleasure of meeting, I am Paul Doe, the youngest brother of John.” OR
• “For anybody that doesn’t know me, my name is Todd Smith.    I was John’s best friend for over thirty years.”

Next, thank the funeral guests for attending the service.     You might make a special mention of anybody who travelled from far away.   

• “I would like to thank you all for coming here today to mourn the loss of John with me and his family.” OR
• “I would like to thank you all for coming here today to mourn the loss of John, with special thanks to the Glenn family who travelled all the way from their home in New Zealand.”

3. Write a Short Biography of the Deceased’s Life

For paragraphs 2 to 5 of the eulogy, give the funeral guests a short overview about the deceased’s life by using this template:

First discuss  when and where the deceased was born, who was in his or her birth family, significant family events, and any other interesting family details.  

• “John was born on December 12, 1952, in the small town of Smithville, Idaho.    His parents, Wilma and Fred Smith, settled in the town in 1939 and were corn farmers.    John was the oldest of five boys, Fred, Lincoln, Garry and Paul.    The family suffered a devastating loss in 1960 when Lincoln died from polio.”
• “Jane was born in Auckland, New Zealand, on June 12, 1972.  She was the youngest of three children.  Her older sisters, Mary and Ann, travelled from New Zealand to be with us here today.  Their parents, Mike and Hannah, moved to New Zealand in 1962 when Mike was offered a promotion with the electrical company.”

Next, m ention other birth family members that the deceased was particularly close to, and any special memories.    

• “John was especially close to his grandfather, Brian Doe.    He always spoke fondly of all the weekends they would spend fishing together on the Chelsea river.    His grandfather also bought him his first car, a red Chevy, which he proudly drove around town, until the night when he and his three buddies crashed it into a tree.    His grandfather’s only comment was:    “Better the tree go than your skull.”
• “Jane was especially close to her cousin, Ashley, as they were the same age and virtually next door neighbours.  They spent many happy hours in their tree house and riding their horse, Marigold.”

Next, if the deceased was married at the time of his or her death, talk about his or her spouse.    Also mention any children and grandchildren.    

• “John first met Linda at university in 1969 where they were both enrolled in the teaching program.     I had the privilege of being a groomsman at their wedding a year later.    John always said that marrying Linda was the best decision he ever made.    Together, they had three beautiful children, Rowen, Alexis and Holly.”
• “Jane was happily married to Graeme for 10 years.  They were thrilled to welcome twin girls Sally and Jessica four years ago.  Jane’s death has left a huge void in all of their lives, and they miss her very much.”

4. Include  Special Memories, Stories, and Qualities of the Deceased in the Eulogy

For paragraphs 6 to 9 of the eulogy, share special memories and stories about the deceased.  Use this template to cover these topics:

After you have covered biographical information about the deceased is the time to delve into   any special memories or stories.

You can use some humour here, if you wish.  But be careful to use humour that is appropriate for the occasion and that others will find tasteful.

• “My dad would always volunteer to be the coach for our football team.  We loved going camping and fishing with him on the weekends, though we spent more time joking around than actually catching any fish.  Family was the most important thing to my dad.  He would always say, “Family will always be there to watch your back, so be nice to your brothers!”
• “My sister Jane was a huge animal lover.  She had many pets and volunteered her time at the local animal shelter.  We would always joke that she can never wear black without being covered by cat hair.”
• “My favourite memory of James is the time we took a road trip across the country together.  Our goal was to get across the country within one week.  However, the trip ended up taking two weeks because John had brought with him an out-of-date map, and we ended up taking the longest route possible.  Or, as James liked to put it, the “scenic” route.  James was always a positive person and found the best in every situation.”

Next, talk about the deceased’s life achievements, talents, hobbies and passions.

• “Mary was a pediatric doctor for over 30 years.  She was a wonderful mentor for many students, many of whom I see sitting in the congregation today.  Many people don’t know that Mary would volunteer her time and energy working with inner city kids on weekends.  Mary was generous and selfless, which was reflected in all that she did.”
• “Steve owned his own mechanic’s business for over 20 years with loyal customers.  He was known as a trust-worthy business man and a fair boss.  When he wasn’t at the shop, he liked to fix classic cars and show them off at car shows.”

Finally, d iscuss the special qualities of the deceased— e.g. kind, funny, smart, selfless, generous, out-going.

• “Anyone who knew Sandra knew that she never took life too seriously.    She was always pulling pranks and cracking jokes.    April Fool’s Day was her favourite day of the year.    I will never forget the time that Sandra flipped all the photos hanging in my house upside-down – every single one!    Months later we were still finding random photos that were still hanging upside-down.”
• “Andrea had the kindest heart.  She could never walk past a homeless person on the street without given the person a couple of dollars and a few words of encouragement.  Her friends and family would turn to her in times of trouble because she knew how to make you feel supported.”

The best eulogies tell lots of stories as stories are the way that we remember loved ones and keep their memories alive even after they are gone.

Audiences connect with stories more than facts and figures. Stories will help the congregation relate to the person being honoured and gives them greater insight into the kind of person they were.

RELATED: 17+ Funny Obituary Examples With Appropriate Humour

Use stories that everybody can appreciate, rather than stories than involve some type of inside joke between a few people, or a “you had to be there” kind of story.

When preparing your eulogy, you should talk to family members and friends about their special memories of the deceased.  They may also have some interesting or funny stories that you could use in the eulogy.

Even if you can’t use all of the suggestions from family and friends, (as a eulogy should be 10 minutes at most), sharing stories helps the grieving process.

It is okay to use some gentle humour in your eulogy .  Funny anecdotes can offer insight into the character of the person that passed away, and help the audience reflect on the good times.

However, it is critical that you choose the right anecdotes.  We cannot stress this point enough!  As a general rule of thumb, do not attempt to be funny about:

• The situation:   For example:  “The only time we get to see you folks is when another old timer in our family has died.”  Trust us, nobody is going to find this remark funny, only uncomfortable.
• Aspects of the deceased’s life that he/she was embarrassed about or that aren’t flattering:  For example:  “We had to get a bigger hall for this funeral service because we couldn’t fit in all of Tammy’s ex-husbands.”  It’s not a great idea to poke fun at the deceased.
• How the person died:   In case this one isn’t obvious to you, it’s a terrible idea to mention how the person died at all your eulogy, let alone make light of it.  Any mention of the manner of death is likely to send an already emotional situation into overdrive.

For any funny anecdotes you plan to use, it would be wise to run them pass a couple of trusted family members or friends first.

You want to check, and double check, that your stories don’t cause shame or distress for your loved ones.

It would be a shame to ruin the whole eulogy with one, ill-conceived story that went too far.

5. Close the Eulogy With Words of Comfort and a Final Goodbye

For paragraph 10 of the eulogy—the final paragraph—give the congregation some words of comfort to dwell on using template.

Talk about the lessons that the deceased taught you and how he or she impacted your life.     

• “Emily taught me to work hard, be kind to others, and never take life too seriously.    Her humour, selflessness and kindness will continue to inspire those who had the privilege of knowing her.”
• “Greg taught me that a loyal friend is worth more than anything in the world.  He was always there for us, not matter what. We were all so lucky to have such a great guy in our corner.”

Then close your eulogy by saying goodbye to the deceased.   

You could address your comments either to the audience, or to the deceased.   

• “We all loved Mary very much and will miss her dearly.    She touched so many lives.     Because of Mary, I will live my life the way that she taught me to, to work hard, to be kind to others, and to not take myself too seriously.    Her humour, kindness and selflessness will continue to forever inspire those of us who were lucky enough to know her.”    OR
• “Goodbye, dear sweet Mary.    We all loved you very much and will miss you tremendously.    You touched so many lives.     Because of you, I will live my life the way that you taught me to, to work hard, to be kind to others, and and to not take myself too seriously.    Your humour, kindness and selflessness will continue to inspire us forever.    Rest in peace, darling Mary.”

6. Proofread the Eulogy

You need to proofread your eulogy a couple of times to ensure that all the information is correct and that it strikes the right tone.

It would be best to have a trusted family member or friend check it for you also to ensure that the facts are correct, that your humour is not too much, and that it is well written.

We know that this is a lot of information to remember so we’ve created a super easy to follow infographic summarizing the key points for each step of writing a heartfelt eulogy for your loved one.

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Here are 3 super-practical tips for how to practice your funeral speech before the big day so that you can walk up to the rostrum with confidence.

1. Read the Eulogy Aloud as Many Times as Possible

You will most likely have butterflies in your stomach when it’s your turn to stand up and deliver the eulogy.    This is only natural.   

But you will feel more confident once you’re up there if you had practiced your speech many times beforehand.

You are likely to be very emotional while you are speaking.    The loss is so fresh, and the memories so powerful.    Under such circumstances, it is easy to lose track of your thoughts.

Practicing your eulogy several times beforehand will help you remember the general points you wanted to make, even if you forget the exact order you wanted to make them in or a specific joke you wanted to tell.

Rehearsing your eulogy over and over is a highly effective public speaking tip.     Repetition will help you memorize your speech, which will really help you when the nerves on the day set in.

You should have some notes to fall back on in case your mind goes momentarily blank.   

Keep in mind, though, that your eulogy will come across as more genuine and heartfelt if you are not reading it word-for-word off a piece of paper.

Reading the eulogy out loud to yourself in the days leading up to the service will help you recognize which parts are likely to make you emotional.    Being forewarned might make it easier to get through those parts on the day.

Reading the eulogy aloud is also an effective way to improve the flow of your speech.    Words sound differently when read aloud than when you are reading them.    Through this process you will be able to improve your eulogy.

2.    Read Your Eulogy Aloud to a Family Member

In addition to reading the eulogy aloud to yourself, in order to work out the kinks and to memorize it, you should also read it aloud to a trusted family member or friend in order to get constructive feedback.

Everything might sound great to you, but others might find that one of your jokes is a little inappropriate or that your wording is a little awkward or confusing.   

It can be really helpful to get a second opinion from someone whose feedback you value.    This will only make your eulogy better.

Lastly, family members and friends might also be able to give you ideas or stories that you could incorporate into your eulogy.    As the old saying goes: “Many hands make light work.”

3.    Time Your Eulogy

Once you have a final draft of your eulogy, it is important to time how long it takes to say out loud.     A good length for a eulogy is 3 to 5 minutes (10 minutes maximum).

You might feel as if 10 minutes is not enough to talk about all the things you want to. With a longer speech you run the risk of loosing your audience’s attention.

The reality is that you won’t be able to cover everything; there will never be enough time.    You should focus on making a couple of key points in your eulogy instead.

How to Speak Confidently

By the day of the funeral or memorial service you will have practiced, practiced, practiced!

But it’s still natural to have some butterflies when it’s crunch time.  So here are 5 tips to help you give the eulogy like a seasoned public speaker.

1.    Do a Deep Breathing Exercise Before You Speak

One of the most effective public speaking tips there is involves doing a deep breathing exercise before you get up and speak.

For the best result, breathe in slowly through your nose (for about 4 seconds), hold the breath for about 7 seconds, then slowly exhale out for (exhaling should take around 8 seconds).     Try and focus solely on your breath, and let go of other thoughts while you do the exercise.

The exercise will definitely help you to steady your nerves and clear your mind.

Once you are at the podium ready to give your eulogy, take a few deep breathes before you start.    (They won’t be as long and deep as the ones you did in the exercise beforehand.)

If at any point during your eulogy you find your nervousness returning, remind yourself that everyone there is there to support you and to join you in celebrating and remembering the life of your loved one.    You are there to speak from the heart, and are not in a public speaking contest.

Another good tip is to ensure that there is a glass of water at the podium.    Having a sip of water will help if your mouth becomes dry during your eulogy, (a common symptom of nervousness).    It will also help if you become overly emotional during your speech.    You can simply take a few sips of water and give yourself a few moments to recover.

2.    Don’t Expect the Eulogy to be Perfect

Remember that you are speaking in front of family members and close friends who are grieving the same loss as you are, so they don’t expect you to be perfect! Everyone will be grateful that you have undertaken the task that many would be unable to face.

Everyone who is there and listening to you speak are there to remember the person who has passed away, not to judge your public speaking skills.    It’s not as if they are keeping a mental score of how well you are doing or how effective your speaking abilities are.

What is the worst that could happen?    You lose track of your train of thought, or you get choked up and need to pause and take a few deep breaths.    No one in attendance is judging you.    This is an incredibly emotional time for everybody, so people will understand if you are struggling to deliver the eulogy.    In fact, they are most likely admiring your strength in doing such a difficult task.

3.    Be Yourself

As we said at the outset, there is a reason that you were chosen to the deliver the eulogy.    You likely had a very close relationship with the deceased.    It is that relationship, and what that relationship meant to you, that should shine through in your eulogy.

Authenticity matters a great deal more than speaking perfectly.    Don’t try to speak to the congregation in a formal public speaking tone.    A good tip is to talk to the audience like you would talk to your friends.    Be yourself and your speech will come across as genuine and heartfelt.

4.    Connect With the Congregation through Eye Contact

In addition to being yourself and using a conversational style of talking during your eulogy, you can connect with the congregation through eye contact.

Eye contact will make everyone in attendance feel as though you are talking to each and everyone of them individually.   

They will connect far more with you and your words if your eyes are scanning the room throughout your eulogy instead of staring down at your notes the whole time.

5.    Don’t Rush

The last of our top 10 effective public speaking tips is to speak slowly.

It is natural when you are nervous to speak faster than normal, in an attempt to get through it as quickly as possible.     Phrases will lose impact because you are rushing.    The audience won’t have the necessary time to absorb and digest your key points.

Slowing down  will make you seem far more poised and confident.    It will also give you time to gather your thoughts, and present your speech in a clear manner.

At the top of any notes you might take to the podium, write yourself a reminder to:

S-L-O-W     D-O-W-N!

Video Interview with Renowned Public Speaking Coach, Jay Miller

Jay Miller is a public speaking expert and a professional voice coach, and is the founder of  Jay Miller Voice & Speech , a company based in Toronto.   

He has additional—and invaluable—practical tips to help you prepare and deliver a wonderful eulogy.

What are the Most Common Mistakes that People Make With a Eulogy and How Can You Avoid Them?

The most common mistake that people make when they are not used to public speaking is that they underprepare and under-rehearse the eulogy.

“So the best thing that someone can do is make sure that you get working on the speech as soon as you find out that you have been selected to deliver a eulogy.   

“Get your notes prepared as quickly as possible and give yourself time to run through the speech, out loud, several times before you have to deliver it,” states Miller.

Another very common mistake is that people over-rely on their notes when delivering the eulogy.    This hinders, rather than helps, their performance.   

Extensive notes are better suited for reading than they are for speaking.    The notes you take to the podium or pulpit should list the main points you wish to make during the eulogy, and not the whole speech, word-for-word.

With your notes, make sure that they are easy to read.    “Make sure you’re using at least 14 point font or larger, and make sure that there is plenty of white space on the page so that the text is not squished together too much,” advises Miller.

The third big mistake people make when giving a eulogy is that they do not take their time when they speak.    “This puts a lot of pressure on yourself, which then creates a lot of anxiety and nervousness,” says Miller.

The final big mistake is that people are too quiet and reserved when delivering the eulogy.    “They are working with a level of voice and a level of energy that is appropriate for private conversation, but is not suitable for public speech,” says Miller.

How Should You Prepare For Delivering a Eulogy?

Make sure you start preparing the eulogy right away.    “Do not wait until the night before to start writing the eulogy because you need time to rehearse,” warns Miller.   

The sooner you get the eulogy ready, and the more time you have to rehearse, the better the eulogy will be.

The best way to practice the eulogy is to stand and deliver the eulogy in the same manner that you will do at the actual funeral or memorial service.   

“Reading over your speech while sitting on your couch does not count as rehearsal,” advises Miller.    “You need to get on your feet and practice going through it out loud.”

Although this seems like a really obvious part of preparation, it is actually quite frequently overlooked. “No car company would introduce a new model of car without extensive testing,” says Miller.   

“The same thing goes with a speech.    Why would you want the first time going through your speech to be in front of the listeners?    You wouldn’t.”

It is important to give yourself as much as possible to rehearse the eulogy beforehand.    Repeated rehearsals will help you identify which parts of the eulogy are easy to get through, and which parts of the eulogy might be more challenging.

You should also time how long it takes you to give the eulogy.    Most people are told the amount of time they have been allotted at the funeral or memorial service to speak.    If you don’t time your eulogy, you won’t have an accurate idea of how long it is.

“What might look like the right amount of time on paper can easily go over,” warns Miller.    When you go the time that was allotted to you for giving the eulogy, it is a sure sign that you have not prepared and have not rehearsed.

“At the risk of sounding too blunt, it is also disrespectful to the family and the organizers if you go over time,” says Miller.   

Therefore, when you are rehearsing the eulogy, make sure you time it.    If the eulogy is too long, make sure you edit it so that it fits within the time that you have been allotted.

What Should You Do Immediately Before Giving a Eulogy?

You should warm up your vocal cords with some breathing and vocal exercises.    (YouTube has plenty of vocal warm up exercises that you can follow.)

You should also arrive early at the place where you are going to be delivering the eulogy so that you can familiarize yourself with the room and the podium or pulpit.   

In fact, you should stand behind the podium or pulpit so that you can have a preview of what the room will look like from that perspective.

Miller also suggests that you check that there is adequate lighting at the podium or pulpit.   

“One time, I remember I was giving a speech where I rehearsed during the day, but the event was at night and the light was so dim that I might as well have had a candle as my only source of light to refer to my notes,” recalls Miller.   

“You don’t want to get caught in a situation like that.”

You should also test the microphone system beforehand to ensure that it is working properly and to ensure that you are not shocked by the sound of your voice over the sound system.   

Does the position of the microphone need to be adjusted? What is the best way to adjust the microphone at the beginning of the eulogy?

In the minutes leading up to the eulogy, Miller suggests that the best way to calm your nerves it to focus on the task at hand.    Don’t think about how nervous you are.    Think about the words you are going to speak.

How Can You Stay Composed While Giving the Eulogy?

“The person who is most composed is not necessarily the most effective speaker,” states Miller.   

This is especially the case during a eulogy where one might expect to see some feeling.    If there are some tears, or if your voice quivers, no one is going to fault you.    Emotion is to be expected.

However, you don’t want to be so overwhelmed by your emotions that you are unable to give the eulogy.    Again, rehearsing the eulogy is key.

Miller advises:    “It is in your rehearsal that you start to process the feelings that are attached to what you are going to say.”   

“It’s not just about making things sound good or getting everything in the right order, because it’s in the rehearsal that you give yourself permission to feel the sadness, the loss, to feel the bittersweet moments you might be talking about, or the gratitude and humour.”  

“Give yourself permission to feel those emotions every time that you rehearse so that that when you get up in front of your audience, you’ve already been through it.”

A technique you can use when you are giving the eulogy to keep your emotions in check is to be aware of the connection between your feet and the ground underneath.   

“When you are aware of having both feet planted on the ground, it tends to keep you in your body and in the room, present and not off somewhere with your feelings,” advises Miller.

One final piece of advice Miller has on this subject is that it is important to understand that emotions may come up, and if they do, just let them flow.   

He states:    “Give those emotions away as you speak.    Do not try to ignore them, control them, or put a lid on them, because I guarantee that your emotions are stronger than you are. Emotion needs to flow.    So imagine it flowing through you and through your voice.”

What if You Lose Your Place or Train of Thought While Giving the Eulogy?

In Miller’s expert opinion, if your notes are too dense, it could result in you loosing your place while delivering the eulogy.   

On the other hand, if you don’t have enough notes, you could loose your train of thought.    (Just like the baby bear in Goldilocks, you need notes that are “just right” in terms of the amount of detail.)

With that being said, if you do happen to loose your place or train of thought, simply pause, take a deep breath, and gather yourself.

“No one is sitting there judging you.    Pauses are actually good to have in a speech.    It gives the audience time to digest what you are saying.    So if you loose your place or train of thought, just pause, regroup, and continue,” advises Miller.

He also advises that you format your notes in a simple way to decrease the risk of loosing your place, as well as make it easier to recover if you do.

Why is Eye Contact With the Audience Important When Giving a Eulogy?

Miller emphasizes the fact that effective public speaking is all about relationships.    It’s about having a conversation and connecting with your listeners.   

Eye contact is one of the most basic things you can do to start establishing a connection with the audience.

“I’m not a fan of advice that says ‘look at the tops of people’s heads,’ or ‘look at the back wall just above the last row,’ because this is not making a connection with your listeners,” he says.   

“Eye contact has to be real.    If you are afraid that making eye contact with certain people might bring up too much feeling for you, there are plenty of other people you can make eye contact with”

Take Heart: A Eulogy is Not About You.    You Don’t Need to Be Perfect!

Miller has two final pieces of expert advice for people preparing a eulogy.

First, remind yourself that a eulogy is not about you.

Miller explains:    “Yes, you are at the front of the room and everyone is watching and listening to you.”   

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However, at the end of the day, it is not about you.    It is about the deceased, the family, the experience of the people gathered there.   

You are there to serve them.    You are there to give a gift.    You have a job to do.   

If you go up to speak expecting that people are going to be judging you and what you are doing, you go into defensive mode.   

If you keep in mind that you have a job to do, to get this message to those people as effectively as you can, you stay in ‘giving mode.’    And this is so much more conducive to giving a great eulogy.”

Second, you don’t need to be perfect.

“You are not aiming for perfection, but for authenticity,” says Miller.    “Let us see who you are.    Be sincere and speak from the heart.    If you do, no one will pay any attention to mistakes you have made.    It’s not about perfection.    It’s about authenticity.”

Well before   the day of the funeral service, you need to:

• Practice your eulogy as much as possible;
• Read it to a trust family member or friend and get some feedback;
• Time how long the eulogy is.  It should be 5 to 10 minutes in length.

Immediately before  you get up to the pulpit to speak, you should:

• Get a glass of water to take with you to the pulpit.
• While you are getting the glass of water, do the deep breathing exercise for 5 minutes.

When you are  at the podium or pulpit , you should:

• Take a couple of deep breaths or a sip water before getting started.
• Speak slowly – don’t rush.
• Speak authentically – be yourself.
• Gaze around the audience – don’t stare down at your notes the whole time.
• Tell stories about the deceased, but avoid stories that would be embarrassing for the deceased or their family.
• Relax – nobody expects you or your eulogy to be perfect.

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Writing a Eulogy: Flow, Sample & Guidelines

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19. That’s how old I was when I was asked to deliver my first eulogy. It was for my grandfather who passed away due to old age. Since then, I have seen and given quite a few eulogies.

As a speaker, many people have asked me what would be the best way to deliver a eulogy. But I am often of little help here. The tips of delivering a eulogy are quite different from a public speech.

However, there are some guidelines on how to start and write a eulogy to help you frame your eulogy a little more authentically while offering some standard dos and don’ts.

Just remember, these are simply suggestions. The important thing to keep in mind is to speak from the heart out of respect for whoever it has passed. As long as your eulogy is authentic, you would have done well.

So, let’s get started…

What is a eulogy?

I’m assuming you’re reading this because you have been asked to deliver a eulogy. But some of you might be here to simply understand what the heck a eulogy is. Let me explain that shortly.

A eulogy is a piece of writing or speech which is (usually) a tribute to someone who has recently passed away. They are usually delivered at funerals.

How to pronounce eulogy?

It’s not hard. But I have some people asking me this.

So, say it with me: yoo-luh-jee.

What to Keep in Mind When Writing a Eulogy?

Share a personal story.

A eulogy is, for obvious reasons, a very personal speech. So it’s probably a good idea to add a personal story you of an incident have shared with the deceased.

A story within a eulogy can be anything as long as it’s genuine, of course. Usually, people include a cherished memory that they have shared with the loved one.

What the story entails depends on your personal experience. You can maybe talk about something that happened on a trip or a get-together. Don’t be afraid to include some delicate humor here as well (more on this later)!

One great way to add a personal story into your eulogy is to share some advice or learning that the deceased has passed on to you.

This keeps the story positive, personal and shows the impact that person had on you.

Keep it focused on the deceased, not yourself

This happens rarely, but it still does happen. Some eulogy speakers end up talking for long mainly about themselves, forgetting that the whole point of the eulogy is to celebrate the one who has passed.

So try and keep the talk centered around the deceased.

Speaking of long talks, a eulogy should ideally be short and concise.

How long should a eulogy be?

In most cases, a eulogy of about 2 to 5 minutes would do. It can even go up to 10 minutes but try and not exceed that time limit.

A 5 minutes long eulogy will be approximately around 1000 words whereas a 10 minutes long one will be 15000 words, if spoken at a medium pace with appropriate pausing. It should be kept in mind to not rush through a eulogy.

To learn more about how to give a speech with appropriate pauses, check out our article on How to Harness the Power of Pausing in Public Speaking

While people may have a lot to say about the person who has passed away, one should still try and keep it short. Here’s why…

It’s not that people do not want to listen to you speak. You are most likely asked to deliver the eulogy because you’re close to the late person. But think about it this way:

The audience most likely comprises of 2 types of people, one who were genuinely close to the deceased and the other who have come more so to pay their tribute out of a formality.

Both these audiences could benefit from a shorter speech. One is still mourning and the other is not that close to be interested for too long. It’s a hard truth. But even a eulogy, at its core, is a speech. And long speeches are rarely a good idea in such contexts.

Rather keep your speech short to get your point across while you can still hold the audience’s attention.

Read our extensively written article on How to Deliver a 1 Minute Speech: Tips, Examples, Topics & More to know more about how to keep your speeches short.

Try and rehearse

A eulogy is an emotional matter. I myself broke down while delivering a eulogy for a close relative. And I’ve seen many people go through the same, unfortunately.

Our emotions take over and we just can’t help but choke up.

To help reduce these chances, try and rehearse your speech before you deliver it in front of people. Saying it out loud a few times can help normalize the words a little more and reduce the chances of choking up while saying those words.

Definitely do not go to speak without writing down some pointers. Even after rehearsing, there’s a chance of breaking down while delivering the eulogy because the mood of the funeral can sometimes take over us.

Having a small sheet with some pointers on it will help you gather your train of thought in case you lose track.

Learn more about how to practice a speech by reading our article on Surprisingly Simple But Effective Processes to Practicing for a Speech .

Include other close friends and family members in the speech

A good way to make a eulogy more inclusive is to add in stories about the deceased’s other friends and family members who are in the crowd.

This also helps the other close ones honor their relation with the deceased publicly and can offer a somewhat sublime cathartic experience.

One eulogy I had heard from a grandson about his late grandfather included a personal story from a trip the entire family had taken a few years before the passing. The story included bits and anecdotes of how the grandfather used to play pranks and cutely annoy different members of the family.

Everyone in the audience was tearing up with a joyful smile. A lot of the relatives could recall these instances because they were present at that trip. It also allowed them to remember their loved one in a positive light – even if it was just for a moment.

Should humor be used in a eulogy?

Humor, as I mentioned before, is not a bad thing in a eulogy. Of course, one must understand the situation they are in.

For example, you shouldn’t make humorous comments in the case of an untimely death of a child. That’s would be considered inappropriate to say the least.

But for people who have passed away from natural causes, whose deaths were expected in some way, a little humor for their eulogies can go a long way in easing the mood.

This one time, I was attending my friend’s father’s funeral. And I remember how gloomy the mood was (as it is in most funerals). Towards the end of the ceremony, there was a moment where all of us friends (including he who had lost his father) happened to cluster in one tiny circle.

One of my friends reminded us of something mildly funny that this deceased father had done a few years ago. And then, in a moment out of utter reverence and aloofness, all of us just burst out laughing. And, just for a second, all of us forgot the reality of the tragedy.

This is not a eulogy example, I know. But it’s just to give you some perspective on the powerful effects of humor even in dark situations.

Laughing has an amazing therapeutic and cathartic power.

Humor…can afford an aloofness and an ability to rise above any situation, even if only for a few seconds. Dr. Viktor Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning

The Flow of a Eulogy

Start with greetings

‘How to start a eulogy?’ is the most commonly asked question. Starting a eulogy with a simple greeting could be a good option. Usually, I never recommend people to start speeches with a normal “Good Morning”, “Thank You”, etc.

But for a eulogy, you don’t really need an extravagant start.

You can simply start by thanking everyone for being there.

Introducing yourself

After starting the eulogy with a greeting, next, introduce yourself. Everyone present in the funeral might not know who you are.

So start by saying your name and how you’re related to the deceased. Nothing fancy to add here, as well. Just keep it simple.

Introduce the deceased

After introducing yourself, also introduce the deceased. Of course, most, if not all, people present there will be familiar with who the deceased is. But just a short intro about who they are could help.

For example, “We’re here today to pay our respects to John Brown – a husband, a father of two and a dear friend. John worked in hospitality in his early years, slowly progressing the ranks until one day, years later, he owned his own restaurant. That restaurant is where the entire legacy of our family begins and stands to this day….”

And then you move on. This gives some context of who John is, who were his loved ones and what he did while his time on earth.

Now that you have greeted everyone, introduced yourself and spoken a little about the deceased, narrate a small personal story that you share with the deceased.

I already covered this earlier so I’ll spare you the details. But essentially, a small genuine story can go a long way in communicating what that person truly meant to you and what place they hold in your heat.

Mention the good deeds

My grandfather was a kind man. I know that because he did a lot of good for people who had lesser than him. Not just in money but through his time and emotional effort as well.

But he rarely ever spoke about it and very few people outside the family knew about his deeds.

When he passed, I was asked to deliver the eulogy and I told myself I would definitely talk about all those random acts of kindness that he committed.

Some people do not like to talk about their good deeds. They keep it to themselves. So, if you’re given the chance to talk about them, do it. They don’t anymore and the world usually deserves to know.

End with the legacy that the deceased wish to leave behind

Finally, begin to end your eulogy with the legacy that the deceased had in mind for their family, their work, and their world.

If the person was old, this might be easier to decipher. However, if the person was young and the death was untimely, it can be hard to put forth what legacy they would wish to leave behind.

At such moments, go back to their stories, their values. Speak to people closest to them and understand what they considered to be most important to them.

This changes with different instances, of course. For my grandfather, I spoke about his legacy of a world where everyone becomes a giver a like him. For my uncle, I spoke about how family should always come first no matter how much success you may achieve. For my cousin, I spoke about how short life can be and how we must seize every day, just like she did.

Figure out what matters most to the deceased. And leave behind their legacy for them. 

This is why a eulogy is so much more than just any other speech. It’s so personal.

Always conclude on a positive note

Finally, end by telling the audience how the deceased themselves would have wanted to be remembered after death. Would they like you to mourn? Or would they like you to celebrate and move on to achieve our purpose in life, knowing full well that they will always be with us in spirit.

Things to not say in a eulogy

1. don’t list out events.

It should be kept in mind that while giving a eulogy you are not supposed to list out the events of the deceased, as it is not a CV. 

It is very easy to fall into the trap of listing the person’s events in a chronological manner while writing a eulogy but make sure to be aware of this. The focus should rather be on telling the stories.

2. Don’t bad-mouth the deceased

The deceased may not be related to you but while giving a eulogy, you are not supposed to judge their behaviour or criticize any negative traits of the deceased. Any long-term grudges or questionable behaviour must be left out of the speech. 

A eulogy is no place to mock the deceased. Although humor is always welcomed it has to be respectful.

3. Makes jokes about death

Making jokes about death in a eulogy may put you in an uncomfortable position. Although you may be trying to lighten the mood, jokes about death are highly inappropriate and should be avoided at all costs.

Eulogy Sample Speeches

Sample eulogy 1: from a grandson to his grandfather.

Thank you for being gathered here to pay your respects. I’m Joe and Mr. Al here was my grandfather. Pa grew up in a home not so privileged as the one he left behind. As a child, he was offered little education, minimum wage and enough food to keep his stomach from being empty. Pa was a quiet man as well. Even in his youth, based on the stories I’ve heard, he was always the last to speak. That doesn’t mean to say he didn’t have things to say, ideas to offer or opinions to share. He just preferred acting on them instead of talking about them – a lesson a lot of people in my generation, including me, can learn from. And in his quietness, he worked – slowly slowly transforming the world around him. Having his humble beginnings from a small village to creating a business that not only served his future family extremely well but also changed the way the industry functioned. Money, recognition, a great family – it all came to him eventually. Despite his quietness, he most enjoyed talking to us kids. I remember one day, back when I was 12, he had called all of us kids over to his home. No one was allowed to be on their phone or play video games. We just had to sit there and listen to him talk for hours telling us stories about his extraordinary life. And we would just listen. Those nights were something to remember. We were just speaking about those nights a couple of hours back when my brother said, “It just sucks that we couldn’t have more nights like those.” The most memorable of his stories ended with a moral that I try to live by ever since. He said, “Don’t judge your accomplishments by the money you earn, but the lives you positively impact.” And he impacted a LOT of lives in the most positive ways you can imagine. But in all of these accomplishments, he never lost his routes. He still went on, humble as ever, feeling like he could do more to help his world. A lot of you may not know this, but most of his wealth was given away by him. He rarely ever donated to charities though. He would always like to oversee the charitable operation so he would often just end up doing the actual work himself. This way he made sure that every penny was being used for the betterment of somebody. And this attitude of quietness, humility and giving is something he would have hoped to imbibe in us all. And that’s what I hope to be as I grow a little more each day. A little quieter, a little humbler, a little more giving. And I hope you do too. God bless you, Pa. Thank you.

Sample Eulogy 2: From a son to his father

Hi everyone, I am James, Colin’s son. First of all, I would like to thank everyone for coming to honor my dad. My father was a funny man. He liked playing pranks on people and loved it even more when people played it on him. He always used to be the heart of any party or gathering, making people laugh with his silly bits and funny jokes.  In my summer break, when I used to come home, my dad and I had this secret tradition of playing pranks on each other and recording them. While growing up, this used to be something that I would look forward to. It was moments like these that really brought us close. One such prank that I remember very vividly was when Dad’s friend – Uncle Ryan was invited by Dad for dinner at a restaurant on the 1st of April. I still remember Uncle Ryan calling Dad to ask if he’d left and realising later that it was a prank. These memories still manage to bring a smile on my face.  One of the most important lessons that I learnt from my dad was the ability to laugh at oneself and one’s mistakes. Laughing at oneself is the hardest humor skills but he managed to do it with the most ease without taking things to heart.  He always used to say that, “Son, don’t take life too seriously because if you do, you’ll forget to live one.” Today, I truly understand what he meant by that. I hope we can all learn to live our lives like Dad before it’s too late.  I cherish the memories I share with my father and I am sure he is smiling down on all of us. Once again, I would like to thank you all for coming today to celebrate the memories of my father.  Thank you.

Sample Eulogy 3: From a daughter to her mother

Thank you everyone for coming today to pay respects to my mother Julian, who was loved by all. I am her daughter, Jane. My mother and I shared a very special relationship as she was more of a friend than a parent. She has always been there for me and supported me irrespective of what she believed in.  My mother and I really bonded when I was in my teens. We had a ritual of telling each other how our day was at the dinner table. Even when I left for college, I remember her calling me everyday to hear about my day and how I was doing.  She was a wonderful person who would always be ready to help others in any way possible. At times she would also go out of her way to help others as she always believed that the world would be a better place if we all took a little extra effort for others. It was this positive attitude that she had, which helped her tremendously in her professional life. For those who do not know her very well, she was a therapist by profession and was always there for her clients. One of the things that I learnt from her was her dedication towards her work. She loved her work and was always committed to it. There were times when she had other commitments but she made sure that they never affect her work or her clients. Her devotion for her work was something that I would love to inculcate in my life.  She felt that if everyone does their job or fulfills their responsibility to the best of their capabilities, people will be a lot more happy and satisfied. I hope we can all imbibe such devotion for our work in our lives. It would be an understatement to say that I miss her today but I am glad to have spent time with her in her last few days. She is and will always be remembered by all of us. Mom, you will always be in our hearts.  Thank you.

Sample Eulogy 4: From a friend to another friend

Hello everyone. Thank you for coming to honor my friend, Liam. I am his friend Josh. I know some of you have traveled long distances to pay your respects, Liam would have loved seeing you all here.  Liam and I met in college and I instantly knew that I had to be his friend. Liam was a gem of a person. His amiable nature was something that I loved. Making friends for Liam was like a cakewalk because people loved his personality. He would always make sure to talk to everyone at a party or also in the class. Moreover, he was also a good listener. Liam and I got close through college events and by sharing notes in exams. He had always been there for me through thick and thin. He was like a brother to me. His friendly nature was something that we can all learn from. He always looked out for people and made sure no one felt aloof whenever he was in the room.  I remember the first time I met him was in Economics class where the professor had divided us into groups of 7-8 people and asked us to discuss some topic. I was a little hesitant to share my ideas with the group as I felt awkward. I was sitting quietly in a corner scribbling in my book. That is when Liam comes up to me and starts talking to me, asking me where I was from. That was Liam- for people who didn’t know him. He’d smile at you even if he didn’t know you, always making you feel extremely comfortable in his presence and that is what made him the best person I have ever met. He always felt that the world would be a better place if all of us were a little more friendly, a little more polite and a little more thoughtful of the people around us. I hope we all could learn from that and be better each day.   Today I miss him more than anything but I know he is here with us, in our hearts. I will always cherish the memories I share with him.  Thank you.

To Conclude, Remember to Speak From the Heart

While I have attempted to give you some sort of structure for delivering a eulogy, the best eulogies are often those which are the most genuine. They are spoken truly from the heart.

So, if the opportunity to deliver a eulogy is presented to you, forget the rules. Just speak what you want to speak.

You were asked to deliver the eulogy for a reason. Probably you shared a connection with the deceased that no one else did.

So forget the rules. You can use these points as a guide as to how to start and deliver a eulogy. But if you can take one thing from here, is that as long as you speak with almost a routed sense of authenticity, no way of delivering a eulogy is not correct.

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Tips for Writing and Delivering a Successful Eulogy

Writing and delivering a eulogy or remembrance speech can seem daunting. In addition to the grief and sorrow you're already feeling as you cope with the loss of a loved one, you must find the time to organize your thoughts, put them down on paper, and deliver your speech—all within the fairly compressed timeframe between the death and the funeral or memorial service .

While only you can determine the unique tone of your eulogy, the following five tips will help you write and deliver a touching, meaningful eulogy in nearly any funeral or memorial setting.  

Keep Your Eulogy Brief

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This is not the time to write the great American novel, so keep telling yourself that "less is more." The truth is that the longer you speak, the more likely you will ramble and make listeners feel awkward, bored, or uncomfortable.

Instead, you should create a eulogy that you can deliver in around five minutes. If possible, ask the funeral director, clergy member, celebrant, or other officiants beforehand how much time you will have during the service, but five minutes is a good rule of thumb.

To help keep your remembrance speech brief, you should focus your eulogy on a specific quality or two about the deceased that you admire, or share a story about the deceased that expresses a significant personality trait or formative moment in their life.

Ideally, try to relate something that you witnessed firsthand or that personally involved you, but if you're having trouble thinking of something, then it's OK to ask a close loved one for some ideas.

By limiting the scope of your remarks in this way, you should find it easier to write your eulogy. A eulogy outline can also help. In addition, you will more likely give your listeners some meaningful insight into the deceased that they will cherish, rather than fill them with the desire to glance at their watches or stifle their yawns.

Make the Eulogy Personal

Listeners will not find your eulogy moving if you merely recite a list of dry facts, such as those found in most obituaries . And avoid simply rattling off a long list of character traits, such as "Uncle Ben loved hunting, motorcycles, the Green Bay Packers, woodworking, etc." This approach is uninteresting.

Instead, share a story that illustrates something your loved one enjoyed—especially if you were also part of that story.   If you can't think of a firsthand story to share, then talk to a close family member or friend and borrow one from them.  

For example, if you and Uncle Ben once took a road trip on his motorcycle to see the Packers play football, that is the story to tell. Not only would this convey a deeper sense of his love of motorcycles and the Green Bay Packers, but you would also find it much easier to share other insights that listeners will find meaningful.

Keep the Eulogy Positive

Many movies and TV comedies have focused on the main character struggling to write and deliver a eulogy about a person he or she despised, such as an overbearing boss or unfaithful ex-spouse.

Assuming you're not tasked with eulogizing somebody like Ebenezer Scrooge, you shouldn't have a problem finding enough words to focus on the positive things.

If you struggle, remember that listeners will not be there to judge you on the thoroughness of your remarks. If the deceased was a difficult person or led a troubled life, then just trust that those in the audience already know that and it's not your job to break the news to them.

In some cases, you might feel it's impossible not to reference something negative or unflattering about the deceased, even though you're trying to focus on the positive.

If you find yourself in this situation, then you should resort to a euphemism to help get you past the awkward point in your eulogy and to avoid adding greater pain to those mourning.

Make a Written Copy

Even people who earn a living making speeches use a written copy of their remarks. Often, these are projected on teleprompters for easy and inconspicuous reference. Sometimes, a speaker will simply have a printed copy on a podium or even just an outline on index cards in a pocket.

If the professionals use a written copy of their speeches, then you should too. While you definitely need to practice your eulogy several times to make sure it's long enough and that you become familiar with it, there is no reason to feel you must deliver your remarks from memory.

Moreover, if you write your eulogy or remembrance speech on a computer, print it out using a font size that you find easy to read, and double-space the printout so it's easier to keep your place.

In addition to your printed eulogy, it's also a good idea to have a handkerchief or tissues with you in case you grow a little emotional, and a bottle of water should your throat feel dry.

It can be a nice touch to give a copy of your eulogy to the grieving family. You may want to bring extra copies along or have it available in an email to give to people who will request a copy.

Use a Conversational Tone

Public speaking traditionally ranks among the greatest fears that people hold. Despite this, most people have no problem talking to their family members, friends, co-workers, or even strangers if the situation calls for it. The difference, of course, is that nobody is watching you in those latter situations.

To help you deliver your eulogy effectively, and to make it more interesting for listeners, speak in a conversational tone—as if you were simply talking to a family member or friend. This should be easier if you've followed the advice above and you're sharing a story or other firsthand insights.

In addition, remember to look up at your listeners from time to time and make eye contact. Doing so will help your delivery feel more like a conversation, and you will be less likely to rush through the eulogy and/or deliver it in a monotone voice.

If you don't feel you can look at your audience without growing emotional, however, then keep your focus on your written remarks and don't feel self-conscious if you need to pause for a moment to compose yourself.

A Word From Verywell

Often, a memorial service takes place soon after you've experienced the loss. You and the other mourners may be early in the phases of grief .

As time passes, you may find that a  grief support group  can help you, or you may recommend one to others who seem to be struggling with the loss. Grief can become complicated grief and you may need further assistance.  

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By Chris Raymond Chris Raymond is an expert on funerals, grief, and end-of-life issues, as well as the former editor of the world’s most widely read magazine for funeral directors.

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How To Write a Eulogy ✍️: Tips, Structure, & Examples [Guide]

Whether you want to give a memorable eulogy, or you’ve been asked to give one, it’s a lot of pressure. 

You may not have given a “public” speech since high school, and now you’re expected to give one for a loved one you’ve lost, to a room full of those (including yourself) grieving their decades of life?

Thankfully, writing a beautiful eulogy is not that hard. 

In fact, on this page I set out a step by step guide on exactly how to write a eulogy, including how to structure it, what to include, how to give it at a funeral or memorial service, and many useful eulogy examples.

All you need is a pen and paper (or computer to type on), a desire to honor the departed’s legacy, and the ability to recall a few memories or accomplishments that best represent them. By the time you reach the end of this page you will have written a meaningful eulogy that truly pays tribute to their memory.

In This Article

What Is a Eulogy?

A eulogy is a type of speech given at a funeral or memorial service to pay tribute to and celebrate the memory of a person who has passed away. It is typically delivered by a family member or a close friend of the deceased, although it may also be delivered by a priest or celebrant.

While it may sound daunting for someone who doesn’t have much experience writing “speeches”, any eulogy that manages to fulfills the four following purposes will be one you should be proud of:

• Reminds funeral attendees of your loved one’s positive impact on their family, friends, community, and world around them,
• Chronicles the person’s life and unique accomplishments,
• Paints a portrait of their best personality traits, the ones that made them special,
• Honors their legacy.

Preparing to Write Your Eulogy

Now you know what they are, you can begin preparing to write a eulogy.

There are two things you want to try and determine at this stage: How long your eulogy will be and the key things you will include in it.

How Long Should Your Eulogy Be?

The exact length you should be aiming for when writing a eulogy depends on how much time you have been allocated in the funeral schedule.

That said, a good eulogy length to aim for is 5 to 10 minutes, or about 600 – 1,200 words . This allows enough time to paint a picture of the person’s character, personality, and accomplishments. Some eulogies can be longer or shorter while still honoring the person’s memory.

As long as it achieves the purposes set out earlier, there is no such thing as a eulogy that is “too short”. You can make a strong impact with few words. There is, however, such a thing as writing a eulogy that is “too long”. So it’s wise to err on the side of short and sweet.

However, I wouldn’t worry too much about that quite yet. Just keep it in mind for the eulogy writing process to come.

Brainstorming: What To Include in Your Eulogy

Before starting to write, you should brainstorm ideas of what you want to include in your eulogy. There is no right or wrong way to do this.

Generally, one to two meaningful anecdotes or fond memories you have of your loved one is a good amount to aim for. If possible, these memories could include other members of the deceased’s family who are in attendance at the funeral. However, don’t let this distract from sharing a good memory that is personal to you and reflects your loved one’s personality and character.

Other things to jot down at this stage to include in a eulogy are:

• Nicknames the deceased was known by
• Details of their relationships, close friends, and children and/or grandchildren (if any)
• Accomplishments and great things they achieved in their lives
• Their work and hobbies
• Thinks they liked (music, interests, traveling, likes and dislikes)
• Anything special or unique to them
• An overall chronology of the person’s life story with as much detail as you wish

If you intend to include a quote, poem, or song lyric in your eulogy, it is a good idea to think about this now too. You may also wish to discuss this part of the process with the deceased’s friends and family – they will likely have thoughts and ideas you haven’t considered.

How to Write a Eulogy In 8 Simple Steps

1. set out your structure with sections.

Now that you have brainstormed your ideas, you can start forming the structure of your funeral speech. To some people, the idea of writing hundreds of words can be a lot, so being able to break it down into 5 – 7 logical “sections” of much less words can be really helpful.

How you structure it is ultimately up to you, but the following is a good guideline:

Eulogy Sample Outline:

• Introduction
• Life Details
• Memory Three (Optional)
• Conclusion: Legacy 
• Closing Remarks

2. Write Your Introduction

Now it’s time to write your introduction.

If you had a quote or poem that you wanted to include in your eulogy, this can be a good place to put it. It also gives you something to flow from into your “introduction proper”, acting as a springboard.

You could also start with a funny story relating to your lost loved one or their personality. This is a slight deviation from the proposed outline above, but there’s nothing wrong with that.

Regardless of exactly how you start, you want to move into:

• Introducing yourself and your relationship to the deceased ( briefly , the eulogy is not about you),
• Thanking everyone for coming.
• Paying condolences.
• Introducing any of the nicknames (if any).

Here’s an example:

Meaningful Eulogy Introduction Example:

Good afternoon to everyone. I thank you all on behalf of John’s family for coming, and I am sure he would be happy to know that you are all here today. For those of you who don’t know me, I’m Jane, John’s wife.  Johnny was the love of my life, my partner in everything, and the rock that held our family together. I am truly sad that he is gone, and as much as I hurt, I express my sympathy for everyone else here who has lost him the same way I have. It is through him that we are all connected. 

3. Add The Deceased’s Important Life Details

Moving on from the introduction, you want to paint an overall image of the lost person’s life that captures their essence.

Alongside using descriptive language to express their personality and character (e.g. caring, loving, kind, funny), you can use the key factors that you noted down earlier, including their work, hobbies, achievements, interests, and unique characteristics. You should mention their important family members.

Eulogy Life Details Example

Emily was a caring and loving woman, but that doesn’t mean she wouldn’t say it like it is! I recall many times in her company when I didn’t know whether to cry, blush, or laugh – and that’s just how she was! She had a varied life. After being born in our small town of Ruddington, she moved into the big city of London for many years for work. But we know Emily, the city life was never for her, and she ultimately returned to Ruddington with the birth of Tommy and Matt, who she loved so much. I know she’s up there looking down on you two.

4. Include Your Memories and Anecdotes

The next step in writing a eulogy is incorporating the cherished memories, significant life moments, and anecdotes you wrote down earlier. I suggest no more than three anecdotes, but I would personally aim for two.

This is a little bit more freeform than the other steps. There is no set structure I suggest following, just write from the heart. It can be helpful to write as if you are telling the story to a friend.

These stories can be touching, funny, or whatever you want them to be.

As you write, it’s a good idea to be considering themes and common threads in your anecdotes. Do they tell you anything about your lost loved one’s character?

For example, if I had chosen two stories about how my Gran liked taking us on holiday and buying my siblings candy without my parent’s knowledge, a common theme would be the love and adoration my Gran had for her grandchildren, so much that she spoiled us!

Finding themes like this will assist with the next sections of your eulogy.

Eulogy Anecdote Example

I remember when I met Gwen, it was the day JFK was elected. She was ecstatic about that – me? Not so much. But it didn’t matter, because the moment I laid my eyes on her I knew she was the one. And I think she knew too, because there wasn’t a single day we didn’t see each other since then. And of course, less than a year later we were married and Jack was on the way. It was a hard time explaining that one to her father! Our relationship moved fast but those early days were just as special as anything that came since, driving in my chevrolet, talking until the sun came up. She always knew how to talk – and teach.

5. Conclusion: Set Out Their Legacy

Using all of the content you’ve written for your eulogy so far, you can now bring it together to do what I refer to as “setting out their legacy”.

In effect, you will be using the anecdotes and deceased’s life information to paint the complete picture of the impact they have had on you, their family members and the world. This is like writing a conclusion to a book.

Eulogy Conclusion Example

And the reason I share all these stories is, simply, John was an amazing person, both in his heart and mind. He was an amazing husband, more than I could have ever asked for, and an even better father, raising two beautiful boys who are here with us today.  He lived life to the fullest, whether working, fishing, or taking the dogs for a walk, he was always looking for the best in people and seeing the good in the world. Despite the challenges that life presented to John, the loss of his parents, the loss of our home in the flooding, he always kept his head held high and never lost his love of life. He was a constant source of inspiration and guidance to those around him and will be greatly missed by everyone who knew him.  

6. Closing Remarks

Finally, you want to include short closing remarks. You have already concluded your eulogy, so this is really just an opportunity to say goodbye to the one you’ve lost, express your own grief, and thank those who have joined you in honoring their legacy again.

Eulogy Closing Remarks Example

Today we say goodbye to a woman who left a lasting impact on everyone she met. Her love and her memories will live on in all of us, and she will forever hold a special place in our hearts. Rest in peace, Emily. Thank you all for joining me in saying goodbye.

7. Practice Your Eulogy With Family Members and Close Friends

You don’t want the first time you read your eulogy out loud to be at the funeral. It’s a good idea to practice a few times to see how it flows, see how long it is, and ensure you are happy with it.

Once you’ve practiced a few times by yourself, it’s a good idea to practice with someone close to you, and someone you feel comfortable sharing it with before the service. 

A family member or a good friend will be an option. Ask them for feedback. 

If there are any specific parts of your eulogy speech you are unsure of, ask them about those bits specifically. A good question to ask is if you are giving your speech at a good pace – many people talk too fast, especially when they are nervous, so being consciously slow is a good idea.

8. Edit and Finalize

With your feedback, you can go back and edit your eulogy to bring it to exactly where you want it to be for the memorial service.

It’s a good idea to have a final draft of your eulogy a few days before the funeral so you have time to practice the “final version”. Making last minute changes may cause you to stumble on the day – although this is fine, no one is expecting perfection.

Tips to Remember When Writing Your Eulogy

Humor is fine, but don’t go overboard.

Most of the examples of sections of eulogies we’ve given above are quite “dry” and absent of humor, but that doesn’t have to be the case for your eulogy.

Including humorous and funny anecdotes, even jokes, is completely appropriate and can enhance your speech.

However, it’s important to not go overboard. At the end of the day, a funeral is supposed to be a somber event. Jokes are fine, but you are not writing a standup routine.

Writer’s Block? That’s Okay

Writing a eulogy can be hard – there is no denying that. In fact, in part, it’s probably what’s contributed to you being here reading this article on how to write a eulogy.

If you do get writer’s block, or you don’t know where to start, here are a few tips:

• Instead of writing, try recording your thoughts into the recording app on your phone. You can then adapt your voice notes later.
• Talk to your family and friends, ask if they have any ideas to help you with writing your eulogy or if they have any anecdotes about your lost loved one they are willing to share.
• Take a breath, sleep on it, and try again tomorrow. Unless the funeral is today, you have time. If you can’t write right now, try again a different day once you’ve had some more time to think and reflect.

Topics to Avoid: What You Should Not Say In a Eulogy

Your eulogy will be personal to you, and you are likely to know intuitively what is and isn’t appropriate to include in your unique speech. However, if you are unsure, here are some topics that you should typically avoid:

• Grievances you had with the deceased (or that they had with others),
• Character flaws,
• Family drama,
• Negative memories you have of them,
• Their cause of death,
• Anything else that is generally negative.

Preparing for the Day of the Funeral or Memorial

The day before the funeral, sleep well and stay hydrated. You want to be energetic, fit, and healthy for the service. 

You can practice your eulogy again a few times the night before, but on the day it’s best to stay in the moment and celebrate the life and memories of your lost loved one with their family and friends.

Before giving your eulogy, remind yourself to speak slowly and with clarity. Your eulogy is not a race. You want to give funeral attendees time to listen to and process your words.

When giving your eulogy, you may cry. This is very common. You are giving an emotional speech, at an emotional event, about someone who was very close to you. For most people, taking a few deep breaths and pausing is enough to recompose themselves . In a worst case scenario, if you have your eulogy written out, someone can take over for you. There is nothing wrong with this if it happens.

Once you’re done, feel proud of yourself. You did it. You wrote, and gave, a beautiful, good eulogy that truly honored the one you lost. 

Eulogy Examples

Beyond the examples we’ve included above, here are a few more eulogy examples to inspire and assist you. You may also wish to view our article on the best eulogies ever written .

Eulogy for a Partner

William was an exceptional man. Not only was he a loving husband, but he was also a devoted father, friend, colleague, and more. His ability to make everyone feel loved was his greatest gift. I met William 40 years ago and it was love at first sight. We would see each other every week at the skate rink. We took things slow at first, he was always a gentleman. But I saw how his infectious laugh and good nature made him instantly likable to everyone he met and knew he was special. William loved nature, and we would often spend weekends camping in Nottingham forest. When we had our son, James, William was overjoyed. He was a fantastic father and James went to him with anything.  William was a hard worker who was always dedicated to his locksmith business. Whether he was at work or fishing with friends, he always encouraged everyone to live life to the fullest and never stop pushing forward. William was my soul mate and my inspiration. He supported and loved us all no matter what. Goodbye William. I love you.

Eulogy for a Sibling

I remember when Stacey was born. I was ecstatic. I ran to my teacher at primary school the day after she was born, boasting. For a few years following that… yeah. She was my little sister. I should have been nicer. But we knew we loved each other.  And as Stacey became an adult my love and care sustained. I saw her meet Tony, get married, get elected, I was so proud of her every step of the way. Stacey was special. If you needed help, she would be there. I once called her from two states away in a broken down car and she drove overnight to come and save me. That is the kind of woman Stacey grew into. Stacey may be gone now, but she will never be forgotten. She will be in my heart, and I’m sure the hearts of everyone else here, for the rest of our lives. Stacey, I wish you could still be here. But I know you’re up there now, looking down on us. And I promise, whenever anyone needs my help, I will be there for them, in your memory. Thank you all for coming.

Eulogy for a Friend

I met Dave at university. We were in the same class at law school. I remember on the first day he showed up late. I begrudgingly moved seat so he had somewhere to sit, but it was one of the best decisions I ever made, because he was my best mate ever since. Dave was special. He wasn’t like most friends. He was someone you could share anything with, and I mean anything, no matter what. Relationship problems, family problems, health problems. He was someone who would listen. Even during the busiest of times, exam time, or in the middle of a case, he would drop everything to listen – because he put his friends first.  The world is a worse place without him. Dave was. Dave is. My best mate. I love you man. Thank you all for coming.

Eulogy for a Parent or Grandparent

Today, we remember Margaret Smith, a woman of grace, courage, and love, and a beloved mother. After raising three children, she went back to study at 45 years old to become a teacher, something she had always dreamed of. It’s not like she had to work, it’s something she wanted to do. She wanted to be a positive influence on the world. Raising three children wasn’t enough, she wanted to help hundreds. Mom was selfless. Her entire life, she has lived, happily, for others. Whether it be organizing local events, helping me find an apartment, buying me my first ironing board (and teaching me to use it!) when I moved into the apartment, she was always there. I couldn’t have asked for a better mom. Someone so full of love. Her advice will forever guide me. I will always hold her dear and cherish her memory. I love you, Mom.

Frequently Asked Questions

Who traditionally gives the eulogy at a funeral.

A eulogy is typically delivered by a family member or a close friend of the deceased, although it may also be delivered by a priest or celebrant. However, this is not set in stone, and it is common for those not so close to the loved one who passed, such as colleagues or grandchildren, to give eulogies as well. 

Can there be more than one eulogy?

Yes, it is common for there to be more than one eulogy at a memorial or funeral service. This allows for multiple perspectives to be shared, which can provide a more well-rounded tribute that better honors the memory of the person who has passed away.

If you are only one of multiple people giving a eulogy at a funeral, it may be worth discussing your eulogy with the others to minimize overlap in stories/anecdotes.

How are eulogies different from obituaries?

Eulogies and obituaries are both forms of tribute to a deceased person, but they serve different purposes and have different formats.

A written eulogy is a remembrance speech or tribute typically delivered at a funeral or memorial service. It usually consists of personal reflections, memories, and stories about the deceased, and its purpose is to pay homage and honor the life of the person who has passed away.

An obituary , on the other hand, is a piece of writing that announces a person’s death and provides information about their life, such as their date of birth, education, career, family, and achievements. Obituaries are usually published in newspapers or online and are often more factual and straightforward in nature than eulogies.

The Bottom Line

Eulogy writing can be hard, but it doesn’t have to be hard.

Follow our step by step guide, refer to our examples, discuss with a friend or family member, and you should be able to write a touching, beautiful, tribute, that celebrates your lost loved one.

If you have any further questions about writing a eulogy anything else beyond life, please feel free to leave a comment below or get in touch .

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Eulogy examples to help you write a eulogy for a memorial service

Funeral speech examples from around the world.

By:  Susan Dugdale  

How do you begin to write a meaningful eulogy?

And how is it possible to say everything you want to about a person's entire life story in a few, very brief, minutes?

Both those questions are natural responses to having a eulogy to write for a funeral service.

Grief, together with the desire to honor your loved-one the best way you can, and the pressure of a tight timeframe, can make it feel like an almost insurmountable challenge. 

That's why reading what others have written in similar circumstances helps a great deal.

What's on this page:

Access to 70+ eulogy examples, the whys and wherefores of the collection: its background, a submission form to use if you want to contribute a eulogy and links to other useful pages on my site.

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• I want to browse and read the example eulogies in the order they have been received . (The most recent is at the top of the list.)
• I want to submit a eulogy I have written .
• I want to read specific types of eulogies : eulogies for mothers, fathers, an older brother, a dear friend...
• I want help with the eulogy writing process.

About these eulogy examples

I am fortunate to be able to make available to you a large, and growing, collection of funeral speech examples. 

They've been written by people from all over the world, who are just like you and me. They too have family and friends whom they care for deeply.

Look and you'll find examples of eulogies for mothers, fathers, grandparents, brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, cousins, mentors, colleagues, a close friend..., in short: loved ones.

The people who've written them have shared them to help people like yourself. Because they've been where you are now with a funeral speech to prepare, they know how it feels to be searching for inspiration, trying to find a starting point.

Some of the speeches are short. Some of them are funny. All of them are heartfelt, and they appear in the order I received them.

To see them, jump to  eulogy samples .  

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 Help to find specific eulogy examples easily

If you're looking for an example of a eulogy for a particular kind of person, and don't want to browse your way through the chronologically ordered list below, use these links to go straight to a collection of:

• eulogies for mothers
• eulogies for  fathers
• eulogies for  sisters
• eulogies for  sons
• eulogies for  grandmothers
• eulogies for  grandfathers
• eulogies for  friends
• eulogies for  colleagues

I've grouped all the speeches I've received through this page according to their type on a new page here: sample eulogies . Whenever a eulogy is submitted, I add its link to the category it belongs to.

The story behind this collection of eulogies

It began with two funeral speeches  I had written. 

Almost as soon as I put them online, they attracted an enormous number of visitors.

It was then I realized the need for more.  

I also knew my examples would not answer everybody's needs.

The one for my sister was different in approach.

The one for my friend and next-door neighbor was not what a grieving person with a eulogy speech to write for a close family member really wanted to see. 

My two were definitely not enough! 

Offering a wider variety of funeral speeches 

To be really useful there needed to be a wider variety of funeral speeches. We needed eulogies for mothers, fathers, sons, sisters, brothers, aunts, uncles, colleagues, friends, people who died unexpectedly and suddenly...

And we needed them to reflect the diverse countries and faiths of the people visiting the site.

I decided to ask for more. Lo and behold, they began to arrive through my   eulogy submission form below.

Help to make writing a eulogy easier.

After you've read a few eulogy examples, and you want help to prepare your own speech you'll find it here:  how to write a good eulogy .

The article has step-by-step instructions, examples, a very useful free 15-page printable eulogy planning template to download , as well as comprehensive answers for 13 FAQs about eulogies :

• how do you start a eulogy ?
• how do you end a eulogy ?
• do you read a eulogy or memorize it?
• how do you stop from crying when you give a eulogy ?

Why do people share a deeply personal speech?

The people sending their eulogies to me to publish fully appreciate that writing a funeral speech under pressure can be a difficult, sad and lonely task - sometimes one of the hardest things they've ever done.

They know from experience having examples to read can lessen that burden. It's a good way of starting to find the right words to tell their own personal stories and share their favorite memories about a person they have loved.

Theirs is a kind and generous act, one that's been repeated over 70 times already. 

Wonderfully, some of the people who've come searching for help to write their own eulogy, have returned to share what they've written.

(Read Craig's comment below his eulogy for his Grandmother, Bertha  or Byrona's below her  eulogy for her Dad  for verification.

Both were helped by funeral speeches they found here and wanted what they had written to assist others in the same way.)

So, if you've written a eulogy...

Would you consider sharing it.

It would help others enormously.

Every day people look for tips on how to a write eulogy or to find  eulogy examples  to read. I know because I see it reflected in my website visitor statistics.

I also know because of the comments people leave under speeches.  They are so very grateful to have found a eulogy expressing how they feel.

For instance, see the comments on Eulogy for my Son , on Eulogy for my Grandmother - Bertha , or Sharon Catley's poem for her Mother,  Journey's End .   

You know how it generally is with a speech of this sort. Typically, there is not much time to prepare, and you want to get it right.

Reading what others have done helps in the best possible way.

These eulogies inspire and give people the courage to do what they need to do.

Despite our differences what we all have in common is the desire to speak about our loved ones the very best way we can. 

The more examples we have, the more likely a person is going to find a speech that resonates and meets their needs.

You too could help by submitting the eulogy you've written. It's very simple to do.

When you're ready ...

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How to Write a Eulogy

Overview: how to write a eulogy.

This guide offers compassionate and practical tips for creating a touching eulogy that honours your loved one's memory:

• Begin with personal reflections and gather stories from others to create a rich, multifaceted tribute.
• Structure your speech with a clear beginning, middle, and end to ensure a coherent and impactful narrative.
• Write sincerely and from the heart, using language that feels natural and true to your relationship with the deceased.
• Personalize the eulogy by focusing on unique traits, stories, and the significant impact of the deceased.
• Practice the eulogy to manage nerves and deliver a speech that is both authentic and comforting to the audience.

Writing a eulogy can feel like a daunting task, especially during a time filled with emotion and reflection. A eulogy isn't just a speech; it's a deeply personal tribute that captures the essence of someone dear to us who has passed away. It's our chance to share the story of their life, the imprint they've left on our hearts, and the memories we'll treasure forever.

In this blog post, we'll guide you through the steps of crafting a eulogy that not only honours the memory of your loved one but also resonates with those who gather to remember them. Whether you're a seasoned speaker or this is your first time addressing a crowd, our aim is to provide you with clear, compassionate guidance. We'll help you find the right words to express your feelings and celebrate a life well-lived, ensuring your eulogy is as meaningful and special as the person it's about.

Understanding the Purpose of a Eulogy

What exactly is a eulogy, and why does it hold such significance at a funeral or memorial service? Simply put, a eulogy is more than a farewell speech; it's a powerful way to celebrate the life of the person who has passed away. It's an opportunity to share the story of their life — the joys, challenges, achievements, and even the small, everyday moments that meant so much.

In a eulogy, we share these memories and stories to not only remember the person we've lost but to also offer comfort and connection to others who are grieving. It's a chance to paint a picture of the departed, showcasing their personality, their beliefs, their relationships, and the legacy they leave behind. Through a eulogy, we can express our love and respect, share our grief, and start the healing process, both for ourselves and for others.

But what should a eulogy include? While there's no one-size-fits-all answer, most eulogies have some common elements. Below is an infographic that breaks down these key components, helping you understand the structure and content that can go into creating a heartfelt and memorable eulogy.

Remember, a eulogy is a personal tribute. While this guide provides a general structure, the most touching eulogies come from the heart and reflect the unique relationship you shared with the person you're honouring.

Preparing to Write a Eulogy

Before you start writing your eulogy, gathering your thoughts, memories, and anecdotes about the person you're remembering is a vital first step. This process is not just about reflecting on your own experiences; it's about piecing together a complete picture of the individual from various perspectives.

1. Start with Your Memories: Think about your time spent with them. What moments stand out? It could be a conversation that stayed with you, a particular day, or even a small habit that brings a smile to your face now.

2. Collect Stories and Anecdotes: Reach out to family and friends. They might have stories you've never heard before or a different take on a shared experience. These contributions add depth and variety to your eulogy.

3. Look for Inspiration: Sometimes, objects like photos, letters, or even a favourite book of the deceased can spark memories or provide insight into their life and character.

4. Organize Your Thoughts: With all these memories and stories, it can be overwhelming to decide what to include. That's why we've created a downloadable worksheet to help you organize your thoughts. This template can guide you in selecting the most meaningful and representative elements for the eulogy.

Remember, this preparation stage is not just about collecting content for a speech. It's a journey through the shared and individual experiences that shaped your relationship with the departed. Take your time with this process; it's a significant step in both celebrating their life and your journey of remembrance.

Structuring Your Eulogy

Creating a structure for your eulogy is key to ensuring your words flow smoothly and capture the essence of the loved one you’re commemorating. A well-structured eulogy generally consists of a beginning, middle, and end, each serving a unique purpose in the narrative.

1. The Beginning: This is where you introduce yourself and your relationship to the deceased. Start with something that immediately engages the audience – it could be a poignant quote, a brief touching story, or a significant moment you shared. The opening should set the tone for the rest of the eulogy.

2. The Middle: This is the heart of your eulogy. Here, weave together personal anecdotes with general information about the deceased. Balance is key. While personal stories bring the eulogy to life, general information (like their career, interests, or community involvement) helps those who may not have known them as well to understand their character and impact.

3. The End: Conclude with a message that leaves a lasting impression. This could be a final tribute to their legacy, a note of gratitude, or a comforting message to the audience. The ending should provide closure and reflect the overall spirit of the eulogy.

Remember, while this structure serves as a guide, the most effective eulogies are those that feel natural and heartfelt. Don’t be afraid to adjust the structure to better fit your memories and experiences with the person you’re honouring.

Writing Tips and Techniques

Crafting the words of a eulogy is both an art and a heartfelt expression. Here are some tips to help you with the writing process, ensuring your eulogy is a fitting tribute that captures the essence of your loved one.

1. Choose the Right Tone: The tone of your eulogy should reflect the personality of the deceased and your relationship with them. Whether it’s solemn, lighthearted, respectful, or even humorous, ensure it feels appropriate and genuine.

2. Use Accessible Language: Write as if you’re speaking to a friend. Avoid overly complex language. The goal is to connect with your audience and make your words easily relatable.

3. Keep It Concise: A good length for a eulogy is usually between 5 to 10 minutes. This allows you to share meaningful stories and details without overwhelming your audience.

4. Handling Emotions: It’s natural to feel emotional while writing and delivering a eulogy. If you feel overwhelmed, take a moment to pause and breathe. Remember, it's okay to show emotion; it reflects the depth of your connection.

Real-Life Examples: Excerpts from Actual Eulogies

Solemn and Respectful Eulogy Excerpt Example:

"Today, we gather to remember and celebrate the life of Elizabeth Johnson, a remarkable woman whose strength and compassion touched us all. Elizabeth led a life marked by unwavering dedication to her family and an enduring commitment to her community. Her selfless acts, whether big or small, were a testament to her loving nature. I recall a particular moment last winter when she quietly organized a fundraiser for the local shelter, a reflection of her deep empathy and concern for those around her. Elizabeth's legacy is not just in the grand gestures, but in the quiet moments of kindness that defined her character. As we bid farewell, we carry forward the lessons of generosity and grace she embodied. Her spirit, a guiding light in our lives, will forever remain in our hearts."

Lighthearted and Affectionate Eulogy Excerpt:

"Mike was a man who could light up a room with his humour and infectious smile. I can’t count the number of times he turned a bad day around with just a well-timed joke or a silly face. Like that summer barbecue when he wore that outrageous Hawaiian shirt – you know, the one with the flamingos – and declared himself the 'Flamingo King'. He had this incredible ability to make everyone feel included and valued, a gift that made him not just a great friend but a cherished part of our community. Mike's love for life and his playful spirit were truly one-of-a-kind. As we remember him today, let's not forget to smile and laugh as he often made us do. In his own words, 'Don’t forget to enjoy the ride!' And what a ride it was with Mike."

These excerpts demonstrate how different tones and styles can be effectively used in a eulogy, providing you with inspiration for your own writing.

Remember, there's no single 'correct' way to write a eulogy. The most touching eulogies come from the heart and are delivered with sincerity, regardless of their style or tone.

Personalising the Eulogy

A eulogy becomes truly special when it reflects the unique personality and life story of the person you're remembering. Personalization is key to creating a tribute that resonates with all who knew them. Here are some suggestions to help you add that personal touch to your eulogy.

1. Highlight Unique Traits: Think about what made the deceased unique. Was it their sense of humour, kindness, or perhaps a passion for a particular hobby? Mentioning these traits helps paint a vivid picture of who they were.

2. Share Personal Stories: Include stories that showcase their personality. These could be funny anecdotes, touching moments, or significant life events. Personal stories create an emotional connection with the audience and bring the eulogy to life.

3. Mention Their Impact: Talk about how the deceased affected those around them. This could be through their actions, words, or simply their presence. Highlighting their impact shows the breadth of their influence and legacy.

4. Authenticity and Sincerity: The most impactful eulogies are delivered with honesty and sincerity. Speak from the heart. Your genuine emotions and respect for the deceased will resonate more than any poetic words.

Remember, personalising a eulogy isn't about creating a perfect speech; it's about capturing the essence of a person’s life in a way that feels true to who they were. Your personal insights and memories are what will make the eulogy a beautiful and fitting tribute.

Finalising and Practicing the Eulogy

Once you've written your eulogy, it's time to fine-tune it and prepare for the delivery. This final stage is crucial in ensuring your speech not only reads well but also sounds natural when spoken.

1. Editing Your Eulogy: Read through your eulogy several times. Look for areas where you can simplify sentences or clarify thoughts. It's also a good idea to ask someone you trust to read it over. They can offer valuable feedback on how it sounds and feels.

2. Practice Makes Perfect: Practice reading your eulogy out loud. This will help you get comfortable with the flow of words and identify any tricky parts that might trip you up. Practice as much as you can; the more familiar you are with the words, the easier it will be to deliver them.

3. Dealing with Nerves: It's natural to feel nervous about speaking in public, especially at an emotionally charged event like a funeral. To manage nerves, practice deep breathing techniques and remember to pause for breath during your speech. Focus on the reason you're there – to honour someone important to you.

4. Delivery Tips: While delivering your eulogy, try to make eye contact with the audience, even if it's just a brief glance. This creates a connection and makes your words more impactful. If you get emotional, it's okay to take a moment, take a deep breath, and continue.

Remember, the goal of finalizing and practicing your eulogy is to make sure you feel prepared and confident. Your sincerity and dedication in delivering this tribute are what truly matter.

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We'd Love to Hear From you 

We understand that writing and delivering a eulogy is a deeply personal experience, and each journey is unique. This is why we'd love to hear from you. Sharing your experiences can provide comfort and guidance to others facing similar challenges.

1. Share Your Experiences: If you've written or delivered a eulogy before, feel free to share your story in the comments section below (or even add it to your loved one's Memorial Story on their QR Code Memorial Plaque ). Your insights could be incredibly helpful to someone else in their time of need. 

2. Offer Your Tips: Perhaps you've discovered a helpful tip or technique during your experience. Sharing these can be a great way to support others who are preparing their own eulogies.

3. Community Support: Our platform is more than just a place for information; it's a community. By sharing and interacting, we can support each other through these challenging times.

Writing a eulogy is a significant gesture of love and respect. It's a way to celebrate the life of a loved one and share their story with others. We hope that the tips and guidance provided here will help you craft a heartfelt and memorable tribute. Remember, the most important aspect of any eulogy is the sincerity and love with which it's delivered. Your words, infused with your memories and emotions, will honour the life of your loved one in the most beautiful way.

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Eulogies are pieces of writing or funeral speeches that are typically shared at a funeral or gathering for someone who has passed away. The speeches often contain a description of the person who passed away, the kind of person they were and personal memories that the person delivering the eulogy finds meaningful to share. That being said, eulogies can be fully customized to fit your writing style and needs and can come in all types of formats. Somber eulogies, eulogies filled with stories, short eulogies, and funny eulogies are all common. The best eulogy speeches are those that are written from the heart.

How to write a eulogy

Outstanding eulogies posted on ever loved, example eulogy templates, eulogy examples for a friend, eulogy examples for a father, eulogy examples for a mother, eulogy examples for a grandmother or grandfather, eulogy examples for a son, eulogy examples for a brother or sister, eulogy examples for a grandson or granddaughter, eulogy example for an infant, eulogy examples for a parent, eulogy examples for a wife, eulogy examples for a coworker, eulogy examples for various professions.

Not sure where to start? Don’t know how to write a eulogy for a mother? Friend? Sister? Grandfather? Try to relax and remember that many people don’t know how to write a eulogy, especially for someone important in their life. To start, the main parts to include in a standard eulogy are as follows:

Introduction

A brief introduction usually looks like “Thank you all for being here” or “Thank you all for coming”. You’re acknowledging the audience and thanking them for sharing this time with you and yours.

Short story

Including a short story about your loved one is customary and is usually a story that really shows their personality or what about them made them special. If you’re interested in a lighter eulogy, consider sharing a funny story. For more somber atmospheres, stories about lessons taught by the individual or a story about their achievements is a great alternative. Other popular story topics include major accomplishments, life events, the impact the person had on others, childhood memories and years, stories about traveling, marriage, family, children, or other important stories.

Favorite memories

Similar to the story, it’s not unusual to see eulogies include one or two favorite memories the person had with the deceased. These memories can be of simple or complex moments; this is up to you and what feels right.

Important quote

If your loved one had a favorite passage, verse, quote, or poem, you can include it in the eulogy itself. Alternatively, if you have a passage or quote that you feel is relevant and important to share, you can include that as well.

You can end the eulogy by summarizing the impact this person had on the lives of others and by acknowledging the family and those who chose to attend the services again. It may also feel fitting to end the eulogy with a treasured quote or passage.

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If you're looking for examples of real eulogies that have been written and read by folks on Ever Loved, here are some outstanding examples. Reading through example eulogies can help inspire you and guide you when it comes time for you to prepare a eulogy.

Shannon McMasters' eulogy

Written by Stephen McMasters Shannon McMasters' eulogy, written and read by her brother, Stephen, is a beautiful testament to a woman who Stephen describes as a "shining star that burned out too soon". Shannon's life was far from easy, but reading about her perseverance, determination, and strength and hearing her brother recount meaningful moments in their life and the impact she had on him and those around her is powerful. Shannon's eulogy is an example for those who are looking to honor the struggles and difficulties their loved one dealt with while remembering other important aspects of their life. Visit Shannon's memorial website to learn more about her life.

Read Shannon's full eulogy below:

Shannon had such a big life and touched so many people, it’s hard to know where to begin. Other than our mother, Shannon was the closest person to me growing up. I was basically raised by my mom and sister. Many of my earliest memories are of the two of us, singing Disney songs together, watching The Breakfast Club on rerun, and of course, fights in the backseat of the car. Later in life, she was the cool big sister. And I wanted to be just like her. I have so many fond memories with Shannon, from the University of Florida to moving cross-country to Los Angeles and on to Atlanta. I would not have done many of these things if not for her. Shannon was my best friend. We laughed at everything together, our sense of humor was nearly identical. We bonded over music sharing two of our top three favorite bands. People even said we look alike, which I was never sure was a compliment or not. The bulk of my life was spent with Shannon; it’s hard to believe she’s gone. She was a shining star that burned out too soon. I don’t know too many people that met Shannon and didn’t have something wonderful to say about her. She truly had a gift to connect to people, understand them, make them feel special and like they mattered. I believe she got this gift from our mother who also had a knack with people. Everyone’s life was brighter having known my sister, especially mine. People think Shannon was lucky to have me, but I was lucky to have her. I know I would not be the person I am today without her. She was always positive and believed in me when I didn’t believe in myself. Because of her, my dreams were bigger, my achievements were bigger, my life was bigger. Shannon was fearless in her pursuits; she accomplished so much in her short life. She graduated from UF, double-majoring in Political Science and Theatre. She then graduated from UCLA Law. She obtained degrees from both institutions while enduring bone marrow transplants. Later she went to cosmetology school at the Aveda Institute in Atlanta. I think it’s fair to say Shannon was dealt a rough hand from the start. In 1997, and again in 2004, she was diagnosed with Aplastic Anemia, an extremely rare disease in which the bone marrow quits producing red blood cells, white blood cells, and platelets. Even with a donor, chances of survival are still not 100%. Fortunately, I was a match. I was Bone Marrow Boy as Shannon liked to call me. Throughout both transplants, she had to undergo chemotherapy, hospital isolation, and months of recovery before returning to her normal life. Her oncologist declared her in remission in 2012, but she suffered from graft versus host disease, which caused numerous side effects both internally and externally. For years she took cancer-causing immunosuppressant drugs to suppress her immune system so her body would not reject my marrow. Not only did Aplastic Anemia do tremendous damage to her body, it wreaked havoc on her mind. Doctors told Shannon she would not live passed 40 and would likely be barren. I can’t imagine hearing this as an 18 year-old. Living more than half of her life with a terminal illness resulted in clinical depression and PTSD. She was also told she may develop mental disorders later in life due to her extraordinary illness. As a young adult, her way of dealing with the condition was to not be emotional or vulnerable. She dealt with her illness by pushing it aside and pursuing her academic and career goals, leading many of us to forget that she was ever sick at all. Music, painting, and dancing also played significant roles in my sister’s healing. Shannon viewed dance as therapy. In 2014, she was a research participant in one of my school projects. She tied her connection to music and dancing directly to her illness. She stated, quote, “It’s where problems don’t exist. When you’re not thinking of everything else going on in your life, therefore your anxiety is reduced. Moving and dancing to music makes you happy. You’re not feeling depressed. It’s all about the whole getting lost in the moment. That’s a lot of what Buddhist practice is, staying in the present.” My sister seemed to have found peace in those moments of presence on the dance floor. She also found peace through painting, which she spent a lot time doing the last five years. I think that’s one of the many reasons we all loved Shannon, she made us feel special every moment we were with her. We were present because we felt her presence. In the summer of 2015, Shannon had her first psychotic break. Later that year, she was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder borderline Schizoaffective Disorder. Mental illness would prove to be the battle of Shannon’s life. She really struggled those last few years. During this time, her mind was changing and she was helpless to stop or reverse it. She lost many of her close connections, not because she OR we didn’t want them, but because she was trying to navigate her new reality that included mania, paranoia, and delusions. Losing our mother in 2021 and her dogs Osa and Kiki back-to-back was just too much to handle. She was hurting and trying to survive the only way she knew how, but I know she did not want to hurt herself and what happened was an accident. She told me not too long ago that she knew she was never going to be the same again, and she hated her illness and what it had done to her. It just isn’t fair what happened to Shannon. In the end, I think she felt misunderstood and no longer accepted, and that’s what hurts the most. I think she felt alone, like she didn’t have anyone. That’s the tragedy of mental illness, not just because of what she went through, but it’s hard for us to understand and even when we try to help, relationships suffer. Unfortunately there were no easy answers or quick fixes, and I underestimated her ability to cope with her illness. The transplants may have saved her life before, I just wish I could’ve saved it again. Sometimes I feel I didn’t do enough and maybe I’ll always feel guilt for that. Shannon recently told me she prayed to God frequently to take her. I think she was ready to go. I think she has been ready for a while. She felt she had a bigger purpose beyond this place. She came into our lives briefly, laughed with us, cried with us, danced with us, made us smile, made us feel special, then left as quickly as she arrived. Maybe that was her purpose here, to have a positive impact on all of us by leaving us better than she found us. I suppose death is what makes life beautiful, knowing that our time here is finite, to make the most of it and remember what is important. Shannon reminded us of that. When she died, a part of me died too, but a part of her and our mother will always live on in me because they make up so much of who I am. While my heart is broken that she is gone and I will never see my sister again in this life, a part of me feels that she is no longer suffering and is at peace with our mother in God’s kingdom. Some birds simply aren’t meant for this world, their feathers are too bright. That’s how I’ll always remember Shannon, and God called her home to be with our mother.

Juanita Pearce's eulogy

Written by Christopher Cost Juanita Pearce's eulogy, written with love and forethought by her grandson Christopher, is a wonderful example for those who are looking for a unique way to deliver a eulogy for a loved one. Christopher gives beautiful insight into Juanita's life by describing one of his earliest memories, describing how she was throughout her life, and what kind of emotional impact she had on all those she knew. Her dedication to her family and willingness to sacrifice for the good of others is detailed throughout his tribute. Additionally, Christopher takes the time to address members of the family, a beautiful departure from the standard eulogy format that makes Juanita's eulogy incredibly heartwarming and unique. Visit Juanita's memorial website to learn more about her life.

Read Juanita's full eulogy below:

Good morning. I am Christopher, Juanita’s grandson from her daughter, Debbie. My nearly 42- year life is right about the length of the job she retired from. She made it to her 89th birthday and then some. From her birth in 1933 to her retirement was just around 60 years. I still have 18 years to get to that point. A lot can happen within that time span. Memory and Truth are funny things. My memory tells me that of all the family, I feel I may have spent the most time with her. The truth is that of all the people that have been in my life, my grandma is the one that has been the most present and participatory. One of my earliest memories of time with my grandma, which is a bit fuzzy at this point in my life, is going to work with her during a summer I was staying with her. She was a manager at Southwestern Bell and visitors had to wear a special badge. What I remember is that I was playing with the alligator clip on the badge and managed to pinch and hurt my finger. I remember my grandma and many other grandmas running to my rescue. I remember my grandma taking me to see these giant catfish that were bigger than me at the time. I remember that I was being a dumb kid and fell and hurt my wrist and she found a way to get me patched up. I still have the scar. My earlier memories may be fuzzy and even failing me, but the truth isn’t: my grandma was always there for me, no matter what. For many of you, perhaps family most of all, that knew grandma before our car accident in 2004, there may be memories of a woman with strong beliefs. You may have memories of her sharing her opinion, and perhaps even memories of some strong judgments and prejudices. For those of us that were especially close to her, we likely also have memories of her always learning and growing into a person that overcame her prejudices. What I remember is she became a woman that even with her opinions, and attitudes, and judgements, never let that get in the way of doing the right thing and rendering aide and support when it was needed. The truth is I’ve only collected two-thirds the memories that my mother and uncle can recall. Her elder sister and only surviving sibling Helen may be able to recall my grandmother’s entire lifetime as memories. The truth is memories are but glimpses and moments and no singular memory or even the collection of memories from a single person will ever adequately define an individual. A lot of you may be blessed by only the last few years of my grandma’s life. I dare say they may be some of the richest blessings you may receive. Truth be told, for as long as I have memories of her, they are made up of sacrifice and offering, one after another. Be it driving to Texas to take care of her grandchildren when my uncle and aunt had to go on a trip or an overnight drive into the mountains of Arkansas to help my mom care for me and my sisters. Or middle of the night runs to the emergency room when one of my sisters or myself had an emergency and mom needed support. No matter the reason, no matter what she was doing, my memories are of a woman who was always there for her family. These last 18 years of my grandma’s life were some of her most challenging. Yet, while she always brought her ornery and cantankerous personality, she also brought every bit of survival fight and strength of character to fill my memories with a woman who scaled an ever-increasing mountain of health and physical and mental challenges. For the 8- and one-half years I directly cared for my grandma following the accident, we tackled daily physical and occupational therapy at my parents’ house and then at the clinic until she could finally return to her own home. We later battled through a relocation to find her and me a new home that was better suited for her ongoing needs and care, to only then face breast cancer before getting into thyroid surgeries. My mother then took over for a few years on daily care before my sister Rebecca took over principal care and support in 2020, just as the pandemic hit. Most of you have your own memories of these last two or three years that I ask for you to recall as I share what I believe of the last few years of my grandma’s life. I believe the truth is that our individual and collective memories tell of a woman that continued to be there no matter what the situation was. They tell of her being a person of support, care, and growth both personally and as an example for everyone around her. And I believe that she will continue to be that person in spirit through the end of each of our lives and the lives of each life we touch. I would like now to speak directly to a some of our family that have been part of Grandma’s daily life and were crucial in the ongoing fight my grandma put up these last 18 years. Kylie, You may never understand how important you were to Grandma Juanita. You were born just ahead of our car accident that changed her life forever. By the time she came to your grandma’s and grandpa’s house for her recovery, you were a source of ongoing reason for her to keep going. I hope that you will from time to time calm your mind and heart to just let her example of love and value for family guide you as you enter your adulthood. RyLee and Lora, She didn’t play favorites often--I should know because I did spend so much time with her--but she does have a special connection with each of you. Ava, Your video calls lighted your Grandma Juanita’s day and gave her a bright smile. To Owen, You don’t understand this today, but Grandma Juanita will always be with you. You were her source of strength and inspiration to keep fighting when her life was turned upside down going from living alone to living with you, your two big sisters and brother, your mom and dad, and the dogs. It was not an easy adjustment for her, but she was able to make that transition because of you. And as your Grandma Debbie and mommy will remind you in the years to come, your partner-in-crime will always be with you, even if you cannot remember her. And, to Kaison and Gavin, the twins, You brought her fresh spirit when her life was yet again shaken with a relocation and then her stroke earlier this year. To my dad, David, Despite your own health, you found the energy to help grandma with her laundry and as always, the two of you continued to keep each other on your toes in conversation. To my brother-in-law Matthew, you helped to clean up messes and did a lot of the heavy lifting with RyLee to relocate her lifetime of things to the new house and storage. To her sister Helen, I know that having a close relationship with you, and your brothers Dillard and Dalford when they were still with us, was very important to her. And, to all of grandma’s family and friends with whom she spoke or saw, there have been so many “cooks in the kitchen,” but she was always grateful for each of you. You each played a role greater than you may know in her ability to continue bringing us blessings and love for 89 years. To my sister Rebecca, who possesses a soul of infinite compassion and caregiving, I want to thank you for the life you were able to let our grandma keep. I may have taken care of her first, but you stepped up and took care of her when she needed support and assistance that allowed her to retain her dignity and privacy in a way a grandson couldn’t provide. And, finally, to her daughter, my mother, You’ve been here as a coordinator and source of medical knowledge and wisdom that completed out and has been no less important than the direct care Rebecca and I provided. Life has thrown you one personal or family health challenge after another, and you have continuing challenges in front of you. Always remember that you too can always calm your mind and heart to allow your mom’s strength and guidance to pick you up when you’re in doubt or facing uncertainty. Death is not the end! It is merely another step we must all take. For those of faith and spirituality that believe Juanita is in Heaven with God, death on Earth is but her means to move to that eternal life. And, for all of us, her death is merely a transition to an ongoing presence on Earth for as long as we each continue to keep her memory within us and grow from her and for as long as you each keep her as part of your truth. In a few hours, some of us will go on a bit of drive to Anadarko to inter her body with her parents and two of her brothers. For as far back as I can remember, this was an annual pilgrimage over Memorial Day weekend. Each year, I can recall the same story as we would pass by Sonic on the highway. Grandma would always remind us that she grew up in a house behind that Sonic. I don’t think that specific Sonic is still there. But for any of you that join us for the burial this afternoon, as you enter Anadarko and see what looks like an old Sonic on your right, let it be a reminder of how precious memories are. For me, I will always remember my grandmother as the woman that took me to the store to get hamburger meat, go home and cook spaghetti and Ragu, spread towels on the floor in front of the TV, and watch movies while we ate on those towels. No matter what memory of her beliefs, opinions, and judgments, I will always know the truth is Grandma loved me, her family, and her friends. The truth is she wasn’t only present, she was actively participating when present. It is in great part through her example and pruning that I am the person I am today. I thank you, Grandma, for every gift and lesson and moment you gave me, and there are nearly 42 years of them to draw on. I love you and carry you with me always!

Barbara Burton Kleinert's eulogy

Written by Christine Maszkiewicz This beautiful eulogy is a wonderful example of how to interweave testament to someone's personality and character with the core occassions of their life. Barbara's eulogy is able to paint a thorough picture of what she enjoyed, what she was passionate about, how she was as a mother, her educational and career choices, and so much more. It's clear that anyone who had the privilege to listen to this eulogy (or to read it in its written form) was given a wonderful opportunity to learn deeply about who Barbara was as a mother, partner, friend, and person. To learn more about Barbara's life, visit her memorial website .

Read Barbara's full eulogy below:

Hello everyone, I am Christie Maszkiewicz, Barbara’s daughter. Today we come to honor and remember the life of Barbara Kleinert. My mother passed away four months exactly from the day my father passed away this year. We sit here in the same spot where we held his memorial back in February. It’s surreal. My family is still dealing with raw heartache from his death and now we are all feeling the pain from hers as well. They both left a void in our hearts. My brother and I are now without our dear parents. My nephews have lost both grandparents on their father’s side. It’s been a tough year so far so I want to thank you all for coming out to remember Barbara and to support this family once again while we are all trying to come to terms with such a great loss. I know many people could not make the trip to Colorado for health reasons or travel reasons. Barbara’s sister Laurie, brother Dave and niece Jenny all are here in spirit and watching online from the east coast and beyond. They wish they could be here today. They joined my brother and I and our spouses in the days leading up to my mother’s passing. We sat around her bed and talked with mom and reminisced about our time with Mom. At times I know for sure that Mom heard and reacted to what we were saying. She was surrounded with family and love in her last days and to me that is the most important thing. Love you Laurie, Dave and Jenny. Thank you, guys, for being there and for being here virtually today. My mom, Barbara was a sincere and warm person. She was a daughter, a grandchild, a niece and then a big sister. She was a close friend, a parishioner, a nurse and a teacher. She was a wife, a sister-in-law, an aunt, and a grandma. To many in her life she was a listener, a singer and a hand to hold. To me she was my mom. My mom loved to care for others throughout her life. My aunt Laurie told me one of her earliest memories was Mom, known as Barbie to Laurie, picking her up out of her crib when she was upset one night, holding and comforting her. During my mom’s childhood she grew up feeling unseen and unheard; she felt she didn’t really fit in or live up to her mother’s expectations. Her heart though was full of love, she turned those feelings of hurt into good. She reached out and helped others to make them feel seen, to make them feel heard. Her passion growing up was very much the church and music. She learned piano but found the guitar to be her instrument of choice and she used it throughout her life to bring song into a youth group or on a mission trip. When she was older, she went to nursing school to help others. Giving of herself was her calling. In her mother’s last year’s my mom was by her side and took care of her and the two eventually made peace. My mother was persistent about peace and understanding between those she loved. Mom was always involved in hobbies that helped others; she even met my dad through her volunteering activities. They met at the U.S.O. in New Jersey where she volunteered. Through her giving spirit she and my dad saw each other through some rough early years. Mom worked nights so dad could work and go to school. She juggled raising a young son while working long hours and supporting her husband. Eventually when a second child came along, she stopped working to be a stay-at-home mother and continue supporting her husband as he continued working and pursuing a Master’s Degree. My brother and I don’t have early memories of daycare, we have memories of being home with mom. Memories of being loved and cared for by her. That was a sacrifice she made, family was very important to her and I know we both appreciate the fact that our parents made that choice. When she went back into the workforce, she had to volunteer to get experience, since a Nursing degree wasn’t enough apparently. She volunteered and eventually worked in the school district with severely handicapped children. The passion she had for helping others became a lifelong career. Mom was always devoted to helping others, through her church St. Michaels in Colorado Springs, she joined the prison Ministry Kairos. I remember as a child answering the phone on weekends when mom was away on a Kairos Retreat. I very politely told the caller that mom was not here right now, she was in prison, could I take a message? My parents always got a chuckle out of that. As a child I connected with my mom’s fun spirit. She was childlike in the sense that she found wonder and beauty in the world where ever she went. She loved animals and nature. As child she had a bunny named Thumper that she adored. Later when she married my dad they acquired a pet skunk named Flower….I think we can figure out what name a pet deer may have acquired. Growing up we couldn’t have a dog or a cat since dad was allergic. With two kids and a wife wanting a critter he and mom figured out a way to make a guinea pig work with dad’s allergies. We had a spotted female named Cutie for a time and then we brought home Skeezics, a red spiky haired guinea pig. My mother had so much fun with him. We’d let him run around the living room and race down the hallway of the house. Many times mom had to help dad dismantle the huge sleeper sofa to get the guinea pig out from underneath where he was hiding. My mom would also sing various songs to the guinea pig, especially at treat time. That little pig would squeak so loudly when he heard the song….”What Shall we get for the Pig” since he knew he was getting a tasty treat. When we moved from CO to VA it was very hard on our family. Mom made sure to help us kids adjust and get involved in activities. As a horse crazy 8-year-old I wanted my own pony. The next best thing, riding lessons. My mom was at every single riding lesson camera in hand. She stood at the fence cheering me on as I learned new things like cantering or jumping. When I had my first fall she rushed to my side and as the old adage tells you, encouraged me to get back on. I’m sure as a mother that goes against many instincts to encourage a child to continue something that injured them. That next week she got me up early every morning so I could soak in a warm bath to ease my pain. In VA my mother continued with Kairos Prison missions but also got involved in Therapeutic riding for special needs children. I joined her a few times at the farm helping with the horses. She loved working with the children. They would come alive up on horseback, it relaxed them and they responded to the games mom and other volunteers played to engage the children. The smiles were just as bright on her face as they were on the children’s. My mother continued to love critters even after our family didn’t have any more pets. Our deck in the back of the house was not our deck. We didn’t have patio furniture or a hot tub out there. Nope, we had birds and squirrels lined up on every single railing eating the seeds and peanuts placed out there by mom. At night we ended up having raccoons at times. One evening there must have been 12 raccoons eating the seeds and other goodies mom fed to the critters. A special guest was Petey, a Virginia Opossum. This little critter loved noodles with BBQ sauce a specialty my mother whipped up for for her culinary delight. Mom spent hours taking photos of this sweet little creature. One day the opossum was still there in the morning and we watched her run off the deck to the underside of the front porch. She came back out with 10 babies clinging to her back and headed off into the woods. Mom made sure we all there to see it and she took pictures of the spectacle. Growing up loving animals just like my mother I didn’t have to look far to find a fuzzy or feathery friend to enjoy. My mother would often take in the birds that flew head first into the window. She would let them rest in a darkened aquarium until they came out of shock and then released them back to the woods. One such incident occurred with a little Tufted Titmouse, aptly named Tufty. He hit the window and needed help. When mom went to catch him, the little guy flew into the house and into the powder room that I was just exiting. My mom and I spent 15 minutes trying to catch that little bird to get him back outside. As I got older and moved on to college and beyond, I acquired the pets I didn’t have growing up, the fuzzy allergy triggering ones. My mother and father loved their grand-dog Spencer. He was a silly little Jack Russell Terrier. Mom never begrudged the fact that I didn’t want children of my own she accepted her four legged grandchildren. Every time I brought Spencer over you would hear the shrill voice of mom bellowing “Grand-Dog! Grand-dog”. He certainly was a spoiled grandchild. When I finally got my pony, my mother was there to meet her, happy as a clam to see me with Daenerys and to share the moment. My mother was constantly documenting our lives with photos. This was before digital photos which now everyone takes pictures of EVERYTHING. My mom invented that; out would come the camera and us kids would groan. Now we have boxes and boxes of memories to sort through that I know we will cherish as we walk down memory lane and thank her for being the shutterbug she was. Kodak stayed in business for a long time because of mom! My mother was the ever-present cheerleader and moral compass of our family. She brought a light to our lives, she often instigated fun but was also patient when we stepped out of line. Surviving my teenage years is a testament to the patience and love my mother had for her family. One hard part I’ve learned about losing someone is having to go through their belongings. Though I will state this act can shed light on memories that will warm the heart. So honestly this burden is one my brother and I are happy to take on. While looking through some books I came across a note mom wrote. She made many notes and comments in nearly every book she read. This particular note though was about parenting. She wrote that parents will make many mistakes. These mistakes shouldn’t really matter if the child knew they were loved. And mom, yes….we knew we were loved. Very much so. This year has been a hard year but with all the tragedy and difficult times we’ve had to endure, this year has been a year full of love, last moments and memories. I cherish these memories and they bring me comfort that there was so much love. I hope each of us can reflect on the memories we have of my Mom, Barbara….and that those feelings can bring us all comfort. We will love you forever Mom. We will love you forever.

Barbara Fritsche Olmanson's eulogy

Written by Leif Olmanson Written in the form of detailed descriptions of different memories Leif had with his mother, Barbara's eulogy is a perfect example of the how the accumulation of small moments woven together end up creating a beautiful landscape of a life well lived. Leif's description of each memory that he cherished with his mom is a perfect way for the reader to gain an understanding of the type of woman Barbara was and the effect she had on those around her. For those looking to share a eulogy that's built on memories, Leif's eulogy is a wonderful place to gain inspiration. To learn more about Barbara's life, visit her memorial website .

Read the full eulogy below:

Remembrances of Mom: When she was ten years old our mother was baptized at St. Peter’s Episcopal Church in New Ulm, but I think one reason she chose the Church of the Holy Communion for our family was because of the beauty of the church and its history. I recall being told that the ceiling was designed to look like an upside-down ship—basically a vessel to bring the parishioners to heaven. And that the stained-glass windows came from England by sailing ships and overland by ox cart. The Dodd family grave in the back of the church evokes pioneer history. Mom had a keen interest in local history, and this Episcopal Church building is a living reminder of that history. The obituary focuses on Mom’s love of travel, especially their long trip to Burma and their service to a disadvantaged part of the world under difficult conditions. I think this was a formative experience for them—at times a trial by fire. In some ways, they must have been different people by the time they returned to resume their life in St. Peter. It was a few months after they returned to St. Peter that I (Leif) was born, and my little sister Lori followed shortly. With six kids you would think that the adventures would stop, but that was not the case. Although sometimes they traveled without the kids, often they brought all of us or some of us along. There were memorable trips to the Boundary Waters, Canada, the Black Hills, Florida, Yucatan, and the Cayman Islands. These trips instilled a sense of travel in all of us. Long after we all left home, when Mom was 70 and my sister Trudi was 40, she decided to fulfill her bucket list. It started with Trudi and Thor traveling with my parents to Ecuador and the Galapagos Islands. Other adventures included Peru - Machu Picchu and Lake Titicaca, Panama (with Trudi and Eric), Norway and Germany (with Trudi and Eric), and Trinidad and Tobago (with Trudi, Leif, and grandkids Britta and Anders) where I made the mistake of calling my parents elderly when we were inquiring about a boat trip. I was set straight by Mom right away but had reason to be concerned since the docks were in bad shape and the captain had to time the waves to get them on and offboard. There were also several trips to Mexico with each of her children and several grandchildren joining them. The most memorable trip was for Mom’s 80th Birthday where Trudi and I were with them for the entire 21-day trip and all but one of the other siblings and Anders joined for a week. We started in Puerto Morales (a great discovery and location we returned to many times for easier traveling as our parents aged) and then went to Tulum. From there we headed to Xcalak (which was one mile from Belize) and ended up staying at a scuba diver training facility which was cool since they had students from around the world and for the diving trips, we were outnumbered by diving instructors. Mom and Dad enjoyed the snorkeling and bird-watching trip. For such a small fishing village they had some great restaurants with some interesting locally sourced gourmet dishes. We were having a great time and I was using my iPod to text my brother Thor to tell him to come to Xcalak. He misunderstood my messaging and indicated he would meet us in Punta Allen. When Mom heard that we were off to meet Thor in Punta Allen. The travel books said the road from Tulum to Punta Allen was anywhere from 1 to 4 hours depending on road conditions. Well from Xcalak we had a 4-hour drive to Tulum and what turned out to be another 4 hours to Punta Allen. (This long drive was the first time I noticed signs of Alzheimer’s in my dad.) Amazing how well my mom and dad were able to cover it from us. So back to the story. It had been raining so the roads were more like small lakes than a road. With mud puddles covering most of the road and as it turns out it was the route for the adventure Jeep tours you would see if you would go on a cruise or to a big resort. So, there we are in our Jetta size car with luggage and five passengers, Anders on the hump in the back seat. Since the few people that lived on this route did not like the jeeps ripping up the road, they would put in Jeep size road bumps to slow them down. So, every time we came upon one, I would stop and have everyone get out of the car to make it over the bump. After we finally got to Punta Allen the streets were not any better since they were also flooded. We met up with Thor and his girlfriend at the time and had a wonderful time with some great food and company. The adventure continued with Schelli, and Lori joining us Back in Puerto Morelos and trips to Chichen itza to recreate childhood photographs and Ek Balam. A great and memorable trip. Other memorable occasions: Dad and Amby were working on the Ford Model As that were being used for Schelli and Amby’s Wedding parade. Right before the ceremony, Mom saw Amby and took him into the bathroom of the church and said no man would marry her daughter with greasy hands, so she helped him scrub the grease off. When she was babysitting Marty when he was 3, he helped her pick berries and make jam. When Schelli picked him up, he had dark red around his mouth, and she said “the jam must have been good”. Mom gave her a funny look and brought a washcloth over and said, I think he got into a Woodtick that fell off the dog. Picking Morel mushrooms, canoeing, her amazing cooking inspired by traveling including braunschweiger dip, kawswe, elderberry Kiekle, Burmese curry, homemade sauerkraut, and her conch ceviche Mom was always willing to go, whether it was dancing, fishing, going to the lake and tubing behind the boat, and paddle boarding at 80, and they really enjoyed garage sales. Mom was an anchor for our family. She took care of us when we were sick, fed us, taught us about nature and history, and encouraged our interests. She was the keeper of holiday traditions, adapting her more German Christmas traditions by adventurously adding her husband’s annual Norwegian delicacy: LUTEFISK. Regular Christmas guests were: Violet, Charles, and Pauline Kinson (Violet’s shrimp paste), Bernie Bornhagen (black mustard for the lutefisk), and other friends we adopted along the way. One Christmas when we all arrived Mom said they had noticed an awful smell in the house. They remembered their Springer Spaniel dog (Spike) had a dead squirrel in the yard. Sure, that she must have brought the carcass into the house they did a thorough search of the house and to their surprise, they discovered a piece of lutefisk under a chair. The dog must have grabbed it out of the bucket it was soaking in. Dad told us that he rinsed it off and put it back in the bucket. We were pretty sure he was joking. Lots of great memories and we will miss her greatly!

Juliann Therese Weimholt's eulogy

Written and read by Josef Weimholt In Juliann's eulogy, Josef does an excellent job at delivering many of the details you'd find in a eulogy in a loving, descriptive, and beautiful way. In addition to thanking the community, describing his mother's impact on those around her and her character, Josef includes a beautiful and creative tribute to his mother with additional context and pledges for what he aims to do in the future to honor his mother. To learn more about Juliann's life, visit her memorial website .

Good morning. Before I begin, I want to take the opportunity, on behalf of our entire family, to thank all of you for being here today—in person, in this beautiful, old church that our mom loved so much, or virtually—to help us celebrate our mom’s life. We’d like to thank everyone who travelled from out of state to be here today, including those on our dad’s side of the family who traveled from as far away as California. Let that sink in for a second—there are people here today who flew from warm, sunny California. To Chicago. In February. To attend the funeral of an in-law, essentially. Now, I know they came in part to support our dad in his time of grief, but I think it really speaks to the impact our mom had on people. And that’s been evident as well in the flood of messages we’ve received since Mom passed, which have come not just from close friends and family, as you’d expect, but from those who worked with her briefly decades ago, those who met her only recently—including members of the Breakers community in Edgewater, where our parents have lived the past couple of years—from friends (and friends of friends) of my sisters and mine who may have met her only once at one of our weddings years ago. So many have reached out with a kind note, a memory, a heartfelt message about how our mom affected them. As everyone here can attest, to meet Mom was to know instantly what a beautiful person she was, inside and out; a kind, caring soul; sharp, funny, and fun to be around; someone who brightened the lives of all those around her. I heard it said recently that grief is simply unexpressed love. The moral, I think, is that grief isn’t something we should avoid or try to overcome, but something we should embrace. If grief really is just a reflection of the love we feel for the person we lost, then we should hope to always feel some measure of grief for our departed loved ones. I like that sentiment; I think there’s some wisdom there, and perhaps some solace for those of us who are grieving our mom’s loss so deeply still. But it got me thinking about that notion of "unexpressed love." Unexpressed love: that was a foreign concept to Mom. Like our dad, she never missed an opportunity to tell my sisters and I how much she loved us, how proud she was of us, how happy we made her, how lucky she was to be our mom. And we always reciprocated—in person, on the phone, over text (including, in recent years, through liberal use of heart emojis in any text with Mom). Now, I don’t know whether that has lessened our grief any, but I do know that I speak for my sisters, our dad, our Aunt Mary Kay, and everyone who was on the other end of those exchanges with Mom, when I say that we are incredibly grateful for each of those moments, each of those expressions of love that my mom would simply not let go unexpressed. It was in that spirit that I set out some time ago to put down in writing exactly what my mom meant to me—an impossible task, to be sure. I regret deeply that I didn’t finish it before she passed, but I’m grateful I can share it here today with her and with all of you. I initially intended for it to be a poem, as that’s the language that she loved best, but I’m afraid I didn’t inherit her poetic voice (or talents). So I ended up with something else, I’m not sure what exactly. But I call it, “My Mother’s Son.” My Mother’s Son I knew it was coming, every time I would visit Mom at work—usually to ask for money for the movies or to pick up the car to meet friends or for some other equally important reason—never just to say hi, or ask about her day, or tell her how much I loved her. (There would always be time for that later, right?) “You must be Julie’s son!” It was probably my nose or the shape of my face; perhaps the hazel eyes or brown, curly hair. At first, I was annoyed. I didn’t want to resemble a short, middle-aged woman—beautiful though she was—and rued the fact that I didn’t inherit a chiseled jawline or muscular physique instead. So I usually just smiled sheepishly. But beyond an amusement at the resemblance, there was something else evident in their tone. “You must be Julie’s son!” The front desk staff, her fellow nurses, the doctors and residents, the custodial workers—they always made sure to tell me how much they loved working with Mom—how kind and skilled she was with patients, how supportive and generous she was with colleagues. They were quick with an anecdote or an expression of admiration. Eventually, I came to embrace the comparisons—proudly wrapping my arm around her (and sometimes giving her a playful pat on top of her head, which by then came up only to my chest) whenever a new friend, colleague, or stranger remarked on the resemblance. In her later years, as her health declined and the Parkinson’s loomed like a storm cloud growing nearer and more ominous by the day, I would reflect often on the connection I shared with my mom, on what it meant to be her son. Apart from any physical traits she may have passed down, I knew she would be leaving for her children and grandchildren something truly precious and rare. Something that couldn’t be simply inherited, but would need to be earned—brought to fruition through the countless small acts and daily decisions that make up a person’s life. Now that she has passed, and I think about the man I strive to be for my own family—for my wife, Sarah, and our daughter, Tessa, who will grow up without having truly known her Ama—I find in my mom’s legacy a clarion call, a beacon guiding my way, a pledge I must continually renew: I will be kind to friends and strangers alike—especially the less fortunate, the marginalized, and the forgotten among us. I will be generous with my time, energy, and resources, and will commit to causes greater than myself. I will laugh, loud and often. My patience will know no bounds. I will smile constantly and exude warmth so that others are uplifted even when I’m down. I will be selfless and unfailingly loyal. I will not swoon at the sight of blood, but will swoon over a mariachi band (or really any live music). I will create. I will nurture. I will dance with enthusiasm. I will be open to all things, and constantly seek out new adventures, foods, cultures, and people. I will find happiness in the simple things, and peace in nature. When my health fails me or curveballs inevitably come my way, I will put on a brave face to spare my loved ones their worry, and will fight with a strength and tenacity that will make them proud. I will laugh some more, through everything. I will be grateful for all that I have been given. I will love, and be loved, and the world will be a richer, better place for my having been here. I will, I pray, truly and forever be my mother’s son.

Richard "Dick" Floyd Messalle's memorial speech

Written and read by Renee Messalle In this memorial speech, there are plenty references to memories, passions, hobbies, and delights that Richard took part in during his time. These references help paint a loving and broad picture of what Richard's life was like and the kind of person he was. In addition to the personal stories shared, Renee also includes a beautiful poem at the start which kicks off the metaphor of the Train of Life for the rest of the memorial speech. To learn more about Richard's life, visit his memorial website .

Welcome everyone. Thank you so much for coming today. Carl and I wanted to share a few memories about our Dad before the service started. I wanted to start off by reading this lovely poem that I saw recently. Train of Life At birth, we boarded the train of life and met our parents, and we believed that they would always travel by our side. However, at some station, our parents would step down from the train, leaving us on life's journey alone. As time goes by, some significant people will board the train: siblings, other children, friends, and even the love of our life. Many will step down and leave a permanent vacuum. Others will go so unnoticed that we won't realize that they vacated their seats! This train ride has been a mixture of joy, sorrow, fantasy, expectations, hellos, goodbyes, and farewells. A successful journey consists of having a good relationship with all passengers, requiring that we give the best of ourselves. The mystery that prevails is that we do not know at which station we ourselves will step down. Thus, we must try to travel along the track of life in the best possible way -- loving, forgiving, giving, and sharing. When the time comes for us to step down and leave our seat empty -- we should leave behind beautiful memories for those who continue to travel on the train of life. And let’s remember to thank our God for giving us life to participate in this wonderful train ride. I am so glad that I was on my Dad’s train for 51 years. And thanks to those that joined the train at one time or another. His stop and his step down was so very unexpected for us – but he left so many great memories, and we are so grateful he stepped off on a high note! We have all loved hearing what others thought of my Dad – and am so happy that it was what we knew of him. The prevailing theme – he was such a kind and gentle and smart person. And several people said he was a “Renaissance Man”. And I totally agree – he loved to learn and knew a lot about everything. He was so happy in his recent move to Greenspring where he had a big office surrounded by at least 1,000 of his books, all in one room. And most importantly my Dad loved math and data. He had a bachelor and master’s degree in Math. He worked for the Navy using his math skills. And in going through things in his office – we saw that my Dad doodled math everywhere. And he did at least a sudoku a day. I have great memories of him helping us as kids with homework, which he enthusiastically did, and especially of course with math. My high school friends even fondly remember his tutoring us in math. After retirement, he even spent many years tutoring various students – even his grandsons. Just recently he helped Brandon and me with some math homework and sent us detailed descriptions and steps to help us. And he was still the volunteer Treasurer for the Four Corners neighborhood association, which he had been doing for many years. After grad school with his advanced degree in Mathematics, he met my Mom on their first day of work at US Navy, David Taylor Model Basin as they were both trying to find the math lab! My Mom worked there until I was born. And then, when I was looking for a summer job in college, I decided to apply where my Dad worked. This turned out to be the start of my government career as well, and I eventually worked in the same Directorate with my Dad for the summers and then for 7 years after college. It was a great chance for us to know and see each other in different ways, learn what my Dad did at work, have similar co-workers, etc. After my Dad retired, he had so much fun taking liberal art classes at the community college. He also loved going to see plays with my Mom, so they both ushered at various local theaters for over 30 years. And he even directed and acted in some community theater plays. Despite my Dad’s quiet demeanor – he definitely had had a wild and adventurous side …. He loved rollercoasters. Even as recent as about 5- 10 years ago, he was still going on roller coasters and rides at Disney and Universal with my husband and niece and Brandon, and even on the water slides at the water parks. When we were younger, he took us on a hot air balloon ride. He loved to bike – biked to work, biked with friends, biked long distance rides of 100 miles, and biked as a family. He did Hang gliding for a while – and even bought one. I remember playing in fields while my Dad would hang glide off of small hills. He even bought a Unicycle. He also loved science fiction, and he introduced us to Star Wars as kids. And I was able to take my parents to the new Disney Star Wars theme park in February, right before Covid. And I just took him to the movie theater at Thanksgiving to see the new Dune movie, which he loved. My Dad was always around and involved when we were younger. We always had family dinners, he made breakfast every Sunday (where I was introduced to and then loved scrapple), he washed the dishes every night for my Mom, and was always willing and around to assist us with our school and homework. And then he continued to be present and involved in my life as a grandfather to Brandon, especially since we lived somewhat close by. He set such a great example for me of what a father and what a spouse should be. And I am so happy that he met the love of his life, and that he and my Mom had such a wonderful marriage of 53 years – best friends - truly soul mates. In summary, my Dad had a fun life on that train for 79 years, sharing 55 of those years (70% of his life) with my Mom! He left many great memories for me and for others. Thanks Dad – I love you and you will be missed.

Following you will find some eulogy examples, with most of them being short eulogy examples. Shorter eulogies can become longer simply by adding in stories and memories that you hold dear or different aspects of your loved one’s life you’d like to share.

Thank you all for being here today. I’m honored to share this time with [Name]’s friends, family, and others in remembering [his/her] life.

I met [Name] [number] years ago at [description of meeting location]. I immediately liked [Name]’s [sense of humor / personality / presence] and knew we would make fast friends. Once, when we were [description of memory], [Name] turned to me and said “[Quote]”.

[Longer description of memory]

After we met, I [description of life after meeting person] and [he/she] went on to [description of what they did]. When [Name] met [spouse], everything changed. [He/she] became [description] and was one of the best [husbands/wives/fathers/mothers] a family could ask for.

I know I’ll always miss my best friend and that no one can replace [him/her]. With that, I’d like to leave you all with one of [Name]’s favorite quotes, by [author]: “[quote]”. Thank you.

[Name] was my best friend, confidante, partner in crime, and one of the best people I’ve ever had the honor to know. I first met [Name] in [location] and we quickly became fast friends. We shared a love of [hobby] and a desire to [description], something that very few others connected with me on.

[Name] taught me a lot about [description], something I will never take for granted. Our other friends refer to [Name] and describe [him/her] as [description]. What I know for certain is that anyone who knew [Name], knew how [brave/special/funny/kind/unique] they were. You don’t meet someone like that every day.

One of my most cherished memories with [Name] was the time we [description]. If not that, then it’s definitely the time we [description].

I want to thank you all for gathering today in honor of [Name], I know it would’ve meant the world to [him/her]. Let’s honor [his/her] memory by continuing to spread love in this world and to try our best each and every day. Thank you.

For those who don't know me, [Name] and I have been friends for practically our entire lives. We grow up in [town] together, lived down the street from one another, and went to the same schools from elementary to high school. We planned on going to the same college together (but [Name] was smarter than I and got into some schools I didn't). We weren't just friends, we were [brothers/sisters].

When I was younger, [Name] used to take me to [area]. We'd play [game] and sit out in the field, talking about [subject] for hours on end. [Name] was there for my life's most important events. [He/she] was there for [list out important life events] and always remembered my birthday and other important anniversaries. [He/she] was beyond thoughtful -- [he/she] was one of the kindest and most compassionate people I've ever met and will ever meet.

Losing [Name] is akin to losing a family member. [He/she] is irreplaceable and their loss is felt deeply, more than words can ever describe. At the same time, I know [Name] would hate it if they saw me up here crying, talking only about their loss and ignoring all the wonderful things [he/she] did with their precious time here on Earth. So, I'd like to take this time, to thank [Name] for everything [he/she] taught me: [list out lessons or important takeaways]

Let's honor [Name's] memory today (and all days) by being kind to one another and remembering the struggles that we all have to face during our time here.

Joie and I met before we were born -- our mothers were in the same prenatal group and bonded over their hatred of the lack of sushi in their lives. We were born only a few days apart, spent our first years of life held by each other's moms and had almost no chance in not becoming great friends. Little did our moms know -- they'd given us more than friendship when they became friends. They'd made us family -- sisters.

Both of our families had decided to only have one child, so Joie and I filled the void that every only-child experiences. She was my sister, through and through. I was there for every one of her life's major accomplishments (and letdowns). She returned the favor in kind. Joie was my support through my first relationship, my first heartbreak, my first degree, my first marriage (and second!) and my first child. I was there for so many of her firsts, seconds, and thirds in life. That's the kind of person Joie was. Supportive. Constant. Foundational. She was my rock and the rock for so many people around her.

Even in death, Joie knew we'd be lost without her support. Her husband, Robbie, is constantly finding small notes that Joie left behind, just little reminders that she still cares for him and is supporting him, despite this complication we call existence. Two days after Joie was diagnosed with cancer, she gave me a call. She told me to sit down and to get ready for the "shit to hit the fan". I thought it was just another rant about her job or some stupid thing she saw at the store or a 30 minute monologue on the downfall of American reality TV.

When she told me she had cancer, I nearly passed out. But she explained to me that now, more than ever, she needed me to be the strong one. Not just for her, but for her husband, for her family, and for myself. She told me not to embarass her in this eulogy, so I'll restrain myself from doing that by going over the top. Please just know, if you're here today, you meant something to Joie. If you're here today, you matter and are important. If you're here today, please honor Joie's memory by being the rock for someone else in your life.

Joie, I love you so, so much. I can't wait to see you again.

Thank you all for being here today. I’m honored to share this time with our friends, family and community and join in remembering [Name]'s life and ongoing legacy.

I met [Name] at [location] around [number] years ago and instantly knew we'd become lifelong friends.

We spent all our time during that summer [description of activities] and the following years were spent periodically visiting [location] and inviting friends out for our annual [description of trip].

[Name] was the kind of person who you never forget. [He/she] was [describe personality]. [He/she] instantly made people feel like [description]. [He/she] was endlessly [selfless, loving, caring, etc.].

I know this loss is one that runs deep for many of us gathered here today, but I also know that [Name] wouldn't want us to sit around mourning [his/her] loss and instead would want us to look towards the future and think on what we can do to make this world a better place.

In [his/her] memory, let's try our best.

For those who don't know me, [Name] was my childhood best friend. We met when we were [age] and instantly connected. We bonded over [subjects], we spent summers at [location] and I could almost always be found at [his/her] house on the weekends. I spent so much time at [Name]'s house that I was known as [his/her] [brother/sister], even by [his/her] parents own admission.

A lifelong friendship is incredibly hard to find and even harder to live without once you've experienced it. To say that this loss is hard is an understatement. [Name] was one of the [describe personality] people I've ever met. [He/she] was unique. [He/she] was hilarious. [He/she] was irreplaceable.

For all those that are gathered with me today, I ask that you join me in honoring [Name]'s life by practicing the values they held so dear. Be kind, be loving, enjoy life, and live life slowly.

Before I get started, I wanted to thank each and every one of you for showing up to honor and remember the incredible life of [Name]. If you knew [Name] (which, if you didn't, why are you here?), you know how magnetic they truly were. Standing up here with only a few minutes to speak on how amazing they were and what they meant to me feels impossible. How can I describe [Name] in a way that's accurate? How can I sum up the impact they had on me, on those around them, on the field of [career field], on the world? It's a near impossible task, so I decided to list out the top 10 things I appreciated most about [Name]. I plan on integrating these top 10 things into the way I treat others as a way of honoring their memory.

Things I learned from [Name]:

Thank you for joining me and listening to me today. I hope you take some of these values and ways of being with you.

Memories of [Name]

Instead of a standard eulogy, I wanted to use this time to share some of my most cherished memories of [Name]. These are ones I've picked out intentionally as I feel they best represent the type of person [Name] was, at least to me. While not all of these memories are ""positive"", they are the ones that have stuck with me the most.

[List memories]

We are gathered here today to celebrate the life of a remarkable young man, who was taken from us far too soon. [Name] was a 25-year-old Marine, who loved hunting, woodworking, and theater. He had a stoic, but kind personality that drew people to him, and he had a deep passion for nature, exploration, and family.

[Name] was a skilled hunter, who spent many hours in the woods, quietly observing the world around him. He had a deep respect for nature and all of its creatures, and he loved nothing more than being out in the wilderness, breathing in the fresh air, and feeling the sun on his face.

In addition to his love for hunting, [Name] was also a talented woodworker, who enjoyed creating beautiful objects out of wood. He had an eye for detail and a steady hand, and his creations were always stunningly beautiful.

But perhaps most of all, [Name] loved theater. He was a gifted actor, who had a way of bringing his characters to life, and he had a deep appreciation for the art of storytelling. He loved nothing more than being on stage, basking in the spotlight, and entertaining his audience.

Throughout all of his endeavors, [Name] was guided by his dedication to his family. He was a loyal son, a devoted brother, and a loving friend, who always put the needs of others before his own. He had a heart of gold, and he never hesitated to lend a helping hand or a listening ear to those in need.

[Name] was a remarkable young man, who touched the lives of all those who knew him. He will be deeply missed, but his memory will live on in the hearts of those he loved. Rest in peace, [Name]. You will always be remembered.

First, I want to thank everyone here for showing up today. It means a lot.

Losing my dad is one of the most difficult hardships I’ve ever had to go through. That being said, this process has made me realize just how lucky I was to have a father like [Name]. Without his example, encouragement, advice, and love, I wouldn’t be the person I am today. I am eternally grateful for his life as an example for how I should live my own.

My dad was difficult to sum up in a few words, but some that come to mind are: [hardworking/gentle/loving/caring/strong/hilarious/funny/serious/crafty/intelligent]. When I was younger, we’d spend time [description of memory]. That’s where I first learned to [description of skill].

I remember once when I was younger, we [description of memory].

Dad, you will never be forgotten. Our family is eternally lucky to have had you as the head of our family. We will honor your memory by [way you’re going to honor memory].

Thank you all for coming today.

Growing up, my father was always [description of attitude / personality]. My friends would always say that he was [description of friends’ thoughts]. His coworkers would describe him as [description]. But to me, he was just my dad.

One of my favorite memories with him is when we [memory description].

Another time, we went to [memory description].

Those are the times that I keep in mind whenever I think of my dad, some of the best times of my life. It’s impossible to describe the amount of love I hold in my heart for my father, so I’ll leave it to someone else to describe for me. In the words of [author name], “[Quote]”.

Hello, everyone. Before I get started, I just wanted to acknowledge everyone's presence today. It means so much to me and to my family that you decided to be here with us today to remember my father's life. I know he's smiling on us from above and is absolutely thrilled that so many of you showed up today to remember him.

My dad is impossible to sum up -- we'd be here all day if I had the opportunity to share with you all all the wonderful things he did, taught, and accomplished in his life. To spare you all from that (and to shield you from watching me cry for a few hours) I've decided to restrict this to a short list of some of my favorite qualities of my dad. Without further ado, here's the things that made my dad the man he was:

• My dad taught me and my brothers the meaning of what is was to be a man.
• He was compassionate and kind, funny yet stoic, bubbly yet reserved, and quietly bonded our family together through difficult storms and joyful moments.
• He was the BEST on the grill and 5 year winner of the Best Chili award at our annual chili cookoff.
• He hated the Patriots, with a passion.
• He'd sneak out in the middle of the night when we were younger to take us to midnight premiers of our favorite movies -- much to Mom's dismay.
• He once drove over 500 miles to help me move out from an ex's apartment -- again, in the middle of the night.
• He was known by my entire group of friends as "The Cool Dad".
• Even during his last months, he was ensuring me and my brothers knew what to expect, knew what was coming, and what our responsibilities to each other were.
• His family was the most important thing in his life.
• My mom was the love of his life and never failed to put a twinkle in his eye.

My dad is the reason I am the person I am today. He was endlessly encouraging, loving, caring, and intelligent. To lose him is to lose a piece of who I am, though I know he's with me in spirit. Thank you once again for showing up to support our family and remember this great man.

[Author] once said, "[Inspirational quote]". Little did he know, this quote would go on to be the foundation of my father's life.

While most knew my dad as a [descriptor] person, those closest to him knew him for his [kindness, bravery, love, caring, tenderness, softness, etc]. A man of few words and many talents, my father spent much of his life in [work / career description] and caring for [his children/family/wife/etc.]. His greatest love in life was [Name] and his favorite pasttime was [pasttime]. Not a day goes by that I don't think of him and not a day goes by that I'm certain the world is worse off without him in it. Losing my dad has taught me two things: [list lessons]

Thank you all for joining me, please tell your parents how much they mean to you and please do kindness, wherever you can.

My father was not an easy man. He was someone who hated the idea of small talk, celebrated people who worked hard (but knew when to take a break), and would be more than happy if no one talked to him for months, leaving him to read through his favorite detective novels.

His life could also not be described as easy. My father grew up poor, he lost his own father at the young age of 8 and had a mother who could be described as absent (at best). His youth was spent attempting to make ends meet through illegal jobs he held while attending school. He ended up dropping out of highschool in order to pursue a job as a dishwasher and support himself.

It was at this point that he met my mother, who seemed to be one of the only people on the planet who could charm my dad. He described her as "The first sense of relief I felt on this earth." and would refer to her as the love of his life for the rest of his life. He did his best to shield me and my brothers from the harsh upbringing he endured. He pushed us to attend college, he pushed us to stay in school, and he pushed us to cherish those in our family -- something he never had.

He worked hard to get to where he was and without a doubt, could be described as a successful man. My father was resilient, generous, and reserved. Though he was a man of few words, he made sure that my brother and I knew we were important, were loved, and were cherished.

I love you Dad and I hope you rest easy. You did a wonderful job.

Lessons from [Name]

Instead of delivering a 20 minute eulogy on my father, that I know he would've hated, I've instead decided to share some of the lessons he taught that could go on to help others. These are lessons that have helped me navigate this life and are lessons I'll cling to now that he's gone. If they resonate with you, please feel free to take them for your own. I love you, Dad.

[List lessons]

My father laid the foundation for my life as a man. He took the lessons his father taught him (rather harshly), picked them up, brushed them off, and buffed them, turning them into the lessons he shared with me (much less harshly than his father did). He was patient. He was kind. He was handy. He was incredibly intelligent and well-spoken, yet preferred to let others speak. If there was a party, you'd often find him on the balcony, in the backyard, or in a corner somewhere, people watching and smiling kindly at anyone who wandered near him. He preferred learning above all else and would most often be seen in his study, with ten different books at varying stages of being read. I owe my father everything and I credit my success in life to the way he raised me, each and every day. To lose him, means to lose a piece of myself. Dad, I love you.

To say my dad meant the world to me is an understatement. A man of few words, and even fewer faults -- he was the stoic figure in my life, the foundation that stayed true no matter what was thrown at him, and the reason I became the woman I am today. I learned to let things go, to love people who loved me back, to befriend those without, and to stay close to those who mattered. My dad meant everything to me, and more. Rest in peace, Dad.

We all dream of having a mother who is kind, loving, and genuine. [Name] was exactly that type of mother. She guided us through years and years and years of hardship, difficulty, joy, and achievement. Our mother was the foundation of our family and without her, it’s difficult to know what to do or what comes next.

I’ll miss her [laugh/smile/generosity/humor/jokes/other descriptor], but am lost without her [guidance/thoughts/advice/other descriptor]. I know we’ll all miss her [insert personality trait or something she was known for].

One of my absolute favorite moments was when my mom [description of memory].

Another one of our family's favorite memories with [Name] was when she [description of memory].

Thank you all for showing up today to honor my mother’s memory and legacy. I know it would’ve warmed her heart to see you all here and I appreciate it greatly. In the words of my mother, “[quote]”

It is an impossible feat to sum up the importance that one’s mother has in one’s life, so I’d like to instead, share some of my favorite memories that I had with my mother. Before I start, let me give you a breakdown of the type of woman my mom was. [Name] was [hardworking/intelligent/ferocious/hilarious/kind/gentle/etc.]. She was always [description] and she never [description]. Her top three favorite things were: [name three things]. One of my favorite memories with my mom was the time we [description]. This is followed closely by the time we [description]. Her [smile/laugh/voice] would light up a room and bring joy to those around her. Her presence was deeply felt and her loss is almost too much to bear. So thank you to everyone who decided to come here today, it means the world to me. One of my mom’s favorite quotes is from [name of author]. It reads, “[quote]”. I’d like to leave you with that today as we celebrate my mother. Thank you.

Thank you for joining me today as I navigate the impossible task of summing up the life of someone incredible, in only a few minutes.

I guess I'll start by sharing one of my favorite moments with [Name]. I was [age] and had just [descriptor]. My mom took me to [location], one of my favorite spots. We had just gone to [location] the previous year, so this was a nice change. We spent the day [descriptor], working on [descriptor] and eating [food]. At night, we [description] and met with [people you met with].

Nights like this weren't uncommon with Mom -- she constantly made sure we had the most fun possible whenever we could. Her free time was spent supporting us, cheerleading for us, driving us to various activities, picking us up, hosting sleepovers, paying for our (many) mistakes, and being known to all as "the best Mom". My friends have all insisted I was blessed with her as my mom, and I know this to be true.

Today, I want us to join together to remember that. To remember the kind of woman she was and the kind of person she taught me and everyone who knew her to be. A woman of joy, light, kindness and warmth. A woman of love and positivity and a ray of sunshine that will be so desperately missed from this world. Mom -- I love you.

To my mother,

I miss you so much. You were the glue that held our family together. You were always there for me when I needed you. I am so grateful to have had you in my life.

You were an amazing woman and an even better mother. I will never forget all the things you taught me. I will never forget your unconditional love and support.

I know you are in a better place now, but I still wish you were here with us. I know that we will see each other again one day, but until then, I will cherish all of our memories together.

I love you, mom.

My mother was the most incredible woman I have ever known. She always supported me in everything that I did, and she was my biggest cheerleader. I know that she is up there looking down on me now, watching over me and guiding me as I navigate through life without her by my side.

Although my mother is no longer with us in this life, I know that she lives on in the memories that I have of her, and the love and support that she gave me throughout my life. She was strong, kind, and warmhearted, and I will always treasure the time we spent together.

I know that it is difficult to lose someone so important to you, but my mother's memory will live on forever in my heart. In her honor, I plan to spend the rest of my days living a life full of kindness and compassion, just as she did. She will never be forgotten.

I am so grateful to have had such an amazing mom, and I know that I will never be able to forget all of the wonderful things she taught me throughout my life. We will cherish all of the amazing memories we have of her until we meet again someday.

Hello all. Before I get started, I want to take this opportunity to thank everyone who has decided to join us today (and even those who reached out and mentioned they couldn't make it). We're gathered in this beautiful location to celebrate my mom's life. For all of those who decided to travel long distances, who reached out to us during our time of need, and who took the time to help us get this set up -- you have no idea how much this has meant to our family.

What's been most clear to me during this difficult time is simply the staggering amount of people my mom influenced, cared for, and loved. So many folks, even those she hasn't seen in over a decade, have written in and let us know the impact she had on their lives. To say she made you feel loved, seen, and appreciated at all times was an understatement. She was the pillar of our family, a pillar of her community, and would take each and every opportunity available to her to make those around her feel supported and seen.

This has been one of the hardest times our family has gone through and I'm so warmed to know all these bright and smiling faces here today. Thanks for coming to honor my mom.

To lose a mother is to lose a piece of your soul. My mother was no exception. Some would say our relationship was too close and my father used to warn me against "relying" on her too much, since he was trying to protect me from this exact day. My mom was the center of my life and without her, I feel lost. I'm angry, I'm confused, and I miss her so, so, very much. I want to ask each and everyone one of you visiting today, who took the time out of your busy schedules to show your support to my family -- please huge your parents. Please resolve any unresolved issues you currently have, if you love them -- none of it matters. Once you don't have the opportunity to make amends, it feels like everything was so silly. Mom, I miss you, I love you, and I'm lost without you.

Friends and family, today we gather to remember and honor the remarkable life of a woman who truly made a difference in this world. She was a devoted mother, a compassionate humanitarian, and an inspiration to all who knew her.

As we heard from her obituary, this incredible woman faced immense tragedy at a young age, losing her husband in a tragic accident. But instead of giving up, she channeled her grief into a powerful force for good. She joined the Peace Corps, dedicating her life to helping those in need in underdeveloped countries around the world. Her commitment to service was unwavering, and she spent years traveling the world, spreading love and kindness wherever she went.

But she was not only a humanitarian. She was a devoted mother to her son, who was her greatest joy in life. She instilled in him the values of kindness and compassion, and he is a testament to her incredible parenting.

Though we mourn her loss, we can take comfort in knowing that her legacy lives on. She touched so many lives with her kindness, generosity, and unwavering dedication to making the world a better place. She will be deeply missed, but her memory will always be a source of inspiration for us all. Rest in peace, dear friend.

Today, we gather to honor the life and legacy of Chef Kimmino, a beloved chef who has left us too soon. Chef Kimmino was a true culinary artist, whose passion and creativity inspired all who had the pleasure of experiencing their dishes.

Sadly, Chef Kimmino's battle with breast cancer came to an end at the age of 45. But let us not mourn their passing. Instead, let us celebrate the life they lived and the joy they brought to countless individuals through their delicious and unforgettable meals.

Chef Kimmino was a true master of their craft, always experimenting with new flavors and techniques to create dishes that were both innovative and mouth-watering. Their culinary creations were a reflection of their adventurous spirit, and they were never afraid to push the boundaries of traditional cooking.

But Chef Kimmino's impact went beyond their culinary talents. They were a mentor and inspiration to many aspiring chefs, always encouraging them to pursue their passion and follow their dreams. They were also a philanthropist, using their talents to give back to the community by donating their time and resources to various charities and organizations.

Chef Kimmino's passing is a great loss to the culinary world and to all who knew and loved them. But we can take comfort in knowing that their legacy will live on through the countless lives they touched with their passion and generosity.

So let us honor Chef Kimmino's memory by continuing to share their love of food and cooking with others. Let us keep their spirit alive by embracing their adventurous approach to life and always striving for excellence in all that we do.

Rest in peace, Chef Kimmino. You will be deeply missed but never forgotten.

We’ve all heard the heartwarming stories many have about just how great their [grandmother/grandfather] was, but I’m here to tell you today that mine was the best. Our [grandma/grandpa], [Name] was such a classic [grandma/grandpa] that it’s almost too difficult to believe. [She/He] was the best at [baking/cooking/fixing things/trips/parties/crafts/giving advice/etc]. [She/He] made the most amazing [food/hobby]. [She/He] also was a part of many clubs, including [list of clubs]. Loved by everyone around [him/her], [name] was the star of the show from the very beginning. When [she/he] was young, [she/he] participated in [activity]. As [she/he] grew older, [she/he] became a fan of [description of hobby/interest]. As [her/his] grandchildren, we were lucky enough to spend time with [him/her] doing [description of time spent]. Now that [she’s/he’s] gone, a hole is left in our hearts and in our souls, but we know we will see [her/him] again soon. One of [name]’s favorite passages was, “[passage]”. I think that sums up who [she/he] was quite well. Thank you all for being here today and I know that [Name] would’ve been in tears just seeing all of you who loved and cared for [her/him] show up for [her/him] today.

My [grandmother/grandfather] was one of those women who [description]. [She’s/He’s] incredibly difficult to sum up in just a few words so I’ll do my best. To start with, my [grandmother/grandfather] was most known for [his/her] [description of something they were known for]. Every single person who came into contact with [her/him] would tell me stories about how [he/she] would [story] and [story].

My favorite memory with [her/him] was the time we went to [description of memory].

I’ll always remember [her/him] as a [loving/caring/kind/gentle/wise/intelligent/hilarious] soul who would try [her/his] best each and every day to put a smile on the faces of others.

For those of you who knew my [grandmother/grandfather], you knew just how special and important [she/he] was to our family. I thank you all for spending time with us here today in honor of [her/him] and the person [she/he] was.

My grandmother was an amazing woman. She was always so kind and loving, and I will never forget all of the wonderful moments we shared together. I am so grateful to have had her in my life, and I know that she will be deeply missed by all who knew her.

She was a strong and independent woman, who always put others first. She was always there for me when I needed her, and she was such an important part of my life. I know that she is now at peace, and I take comfort in knowing that she will always be with me in spirit.

Those who knew her, knew how much she loved her family, and she was always so proud of us. She was the heart of our family, and we will never be the same without her. We will cherish all of the memories we have of her, and keep her in our hearts always.

Thank you for everything, Grandma. I love you so much.

My grandmother was one of the most influential people in my life and the lives of so many others. Never one to back down from a fight, she spent almost her entire life dedicated to trying to improve our system, to the best of her ability.

Whether this was through community service, time spent volunteering, or simply being a listening ear to those who needed one, her time spent on this planet was time spent caring for others.

I want to honor my grandmother's legacy by continuing in her footsteps and ask all here to do the same. Be kind to each other. Find ways to help those who cannot help themselves. Figure out how to invite joy into your life and how to cultivate it in the lives of those around you.

Grandma, thank you so much for being the bright soul that you so were. I adore you always and forever.

Before I get started, I wanted to say thank you to every single one of you who has shown up today to honor the life of my grandmother, [Name]. Each and every one of you meant something to her and I know that you know that, without a doubt.

Now, to the hard part -- summing up the life of such an accomplished, loving, and special woman. [Name] -- you were one of the most unique and special souls that has ever graced this earth. Everyone who encountered you immediately felt like one of your best friends. You held that special talent of conversing easily with strangers, of making newcomers feel like oldtimers, and of holding space for anyone and everyone that needed it. I have run into so many people that have said to me, "I'm so sorry for your loss, [Name] was one of my best friends." I've heard this phrase so often it's astounded me -- how did [Name] have so many best friends?! It's because she was special and she knew how to make others feel just as special.

To say the loss we've suffered is great is an understatement -- there is no way to describe the hole that is left by her passing. That being said, I aim to honor her life and legacy by attempting to make others feel just as loved, held, and cared for as she made them feel. I invite everyone here, to do just the same. Thank you.

I know my grandmother would be rolling in her grave if she could see me up here giving her even the slightest bit of praise. Always one to tut at any kind of recognition of her good deeds, she'd absolutely hate that we were all gathered here today to do just that. I can say, without a doubt, that my grandmother was the love of my life. She was the first person to make me feel like I had a home and a place in this world. She encouraged me to pursue my passions, no matter what they were. She was the first person I called when I decided to switch majors at college. She was the first person I called when I needed relationship advice, or advice on how to fix my toilet, or instructions on how to change a tire. She was endlessly crafty, knowledgeable, loving, and hilarious. She hated sad movies and loved a good horror film. Her church group referred to her as "The Old Commander" because she was so stringent in getting them to submit their projects on time. It didn't matter if it was for a church potluck or a wedding reception, she kept people in line and kept all of us in her orbit. Grandma, I love you endlessly and have no idea how I'm to navigate this scary world without you by my side. But I know you're out there, somewhere, looking over me. I love you.

Ladies and Gentlemen, friends and family, we gather here today to celebrate the life of a remarkable man, a loving grandfather, and a proud veteran - [Grandfather's Name]. He lived a full and fulfilling life, filled with joy, laughter, and countless precious memories that will be cherished by all who knew him.

[Grandfather's Name] was born in San Francisco and spent his early years exploring the city and all that it had to offer. He was an adventurous spirit, always eager to try new things and see new places. When he was called to serve in World War 2, he answered the call with bravery and honor, defending our country and our way of life. His service to our nation was a testament to his character, and it was a source of great pride for him throughout his life.

When [Grandfather's Name] returned home from the war, he began a new chapter in his life, one filled with family, friends, and all the things he loved. He was blessed with five grandchildren, and he cherished each and every one of them, spending countless hours camping, fishing, and exploring the great outdoors with them. His love of nature was second only to his love of his family, and he always took time to share his knowledge and appreciation of the natural world with those he loved.

[Grandfather's Name] was also a talented artist and woodworker. He spent many hours in his workshop, creating beautiful pieces of art and furniture that will be cherished by his family for generations to come. His passion for creating was matched only by his love of giving, and every year he donned a Santa Claus suit to bring joy to children in his community.

In the end, [Grandfather's Name] passed away peacefully in Florida at the age of 82, surrounded by the love of his family. He left behind a legacy of love, kindness, and generosity that will live on in the hearts of all who knew him. Today, we say goodbye to a beloved grandfather, a proud veteran, and a true friend. May he rest in peace and may his memory live on in our hearts forever.

Today, we gather to honor and remember the life of Louis Pereira, a Senior Program Manager and passionate writer. Louis had a love for writing, a passion that he was able to pursue in his final years, penning over six short novels that were close to his heart.

Though Louis may be gone, his legacy lives on through his family, particularly his two beloved grandchildren. His kindness, wisdom, and love will continue to guide them throughout their lives.

Louis's dedication to his work and his commitment to his passions serve as an inspiration to all of us. He was a beloved member of the community, known for his compassion and his willingness to lend a helping hand to anyone in need.

As we say goodbye to Louis, we take comfort in the memories he has left behind and the impact he has had on our lives. May he rest in peace, knowing that his spirit and his legacy will live on through his family and his writing.

You were always determined to be the best – on the field, on the court, in the classroom. You set your sights high and worked hard to achieve your goals.

I am so proud of everything you have accomplished in your short life. You were an amazing son, brother, and friend and you will be deeply missed.

You had a passion for sports and a natural talent for competition. You were always driven to win and I know that you would have gone far in your chosen field, no matter what that ended up being.

I will miss watching you play and excel at what you loved so much. You brought joy to everyone around you and I am grateful to have been a part of your life.

Rest in peace, my son. You will be forever in my heart.

First, let me take this moment to thank each and every one of you who showed up today (and to those who are joining us online). It means so much to our family to have this support system in place after the sudden passing of our beloved son, [Name].

I'm not a person of many words, but at this point in time it feels almost like there aren't enough words in the English language to describe how I feel or the impact my boy had on those he met throughout his short life. From the day he was born, I knew he was something special. It was in the glint of his eyes when he couldn't figure out a problem, in the sound of his laughter as it reverberated through our home, in the shine of his smile whenever he came home from school. He was special. I know every parent feels that way about their kid, but it's true -- [Name] was unique.

Losing him is the hardest thing I've ever dealt with and I know the spot left behind by him is irreplaceable -- I will deal with that for the rest of my days. At the same time, my son was absolutely not the kind of person who would want his friends, his family, and his loved ones to stand by and let grief consume him. He would want his memory to be celebrated and honored through love, laughter, adventure, and a deep appreciation of everything our lives have to offer.

In honor of my son, please hug your children a little tighter today. Please take a few minutes to appreciate what this planet has to offer. And please, most of all, be kind to one another.

I knew from the second I held you in my arms for the first time, how special, unique, and incredible you were going to be. And I was right.

My heart was overflowing with love and joy each and every time I saw your sweet face. Every time you said "Mom!", even if it was said in anger or frustration. I knew how much you loved me, our family, and life itself. Our talks were some of the most special moments of my life -- whether they lasted 2 minutes or were one of our infamous "loving debates" that lasted hours.

Your mind was brilliant, your passion for justice was admirable, and you were everything I wish I could've been at your age. I love you so very much son and to say this loss is unimaginable is simply an understatement.

I will follow your trajectory through life and attempt to celebrate your spirit in everything that I do. You are my sweet boy and I cannot wait until I get to see your sweet face and hold you in my arms once again.

I love you, son.

[Name] was my [youngest/oldest] [brother/sister] and one of the most important people in my life. I know [he/she] would’ve been amazed to see all of you who have come out today in support of [him/her] and us as a family. For those who don’t know me, I’m [Name]. From the very beginning, [Name] and I were inseparable. I loved having [Name] as a [brother/sister] more than anything else in my life. I’ve tried to protect [him/her] as though [she/he] was my own [son/daughter] throughout our lives and it is incredibly painful to be here letting [him/her] go today.

Even though [Name] was taken from us too soon, I know that I will see [him/her] again soon. [He/she] lived a full and happy life, one that touched the lives of so many people. I take comfort in knowing that [his/her] legacy will live on through the lives of others.

I’d like to leave you with one of my favorite quotes that I feel sums up [Name] perfectly: “[quote]”

Thank you all again for coming.

Today we’re gathered in memory of [Name], my [brother/sister] and biggest supporter. I’m [name], [Name] [oldest/youngest/older/younger] [brother/sister]. When we were younger, [Name] & I had a difficult relationship. Lots of fights, screaming, yelling; things that siblings tend to do. As we got older, I started to realize how important [Name] was to me and how much of a supporter [he/she] was to me as an individual.

A couple years ago, we went to [location] for [reason]. We [description of memory]. Another moment that I’ll always remember is the time we went to [description of memory].

[Name] was nothing but [generous/kind/loving/helpful/hilarious/determined/accomplished] and was the pride of our family. [He/she] was my best friend, my partner in crime, and someone I knew I could always rely on. Our family is not the same with their loss, but we will press on and live our best lives as a way of honoring [his/her] memory.

Thank you all for joining me and for allowing [Name] to have a space in your heart and in your life.

Every day, after school, my brother would wait (sometimes over an hour) for me to get out of my last class. He would stand at the bus stop, a huge smile on his face every time he heard the bell ring and saw me running towards him. This tradition continued all the way from when I was around 6 to my very last year of high school.

He was one of the most protective, kind, smart, annoying, hilarious, and goofy individuals I've ever known and will surely, ever meet. Going out of his way to stand at a bus stop just to make sure I had some consistency in my life, a friendly face at the end of the day, and a safe way to get back home was the kind of person he continued to be throughout my life (and throughout the lives of his own family).

Everyone who knew him knew what it meant to him to protect those around him, and that kind of protection was one he enacted until the day he passed away. Without my brother here, I feel a piece of me has shuttered itself away. At the same time, his loss has sparked a desire in me to be better. For him, for his family, for my family, and for myself. His impact on others was incalculable and immeasurable; his life is equally difficult to sum up in just a few words in just a few minutes. I don't doubt I'll be sharing small stories from his life for the rest of my own, but I do want to make sure I make one thing extremely clear.

My brother was the best of us and this world is less bright now that he has passed. Please, keep him in your memory and in your thoughts. Honor his memory by being kind and trying your absolute best. Thank you for coming and for joining my family in remembering my brother.

If I were to say that my sister was the most important person in my life, it might be a bit of a life. (Technically, my mom is the most important person in my life.) I didn't consider my sister as a separate individual -- she was part of me. We were two parts of a whole. Together, we were a full being. Without her, I feel as though half of me is gone.

When we were young, we would stay up until way past our bedtime, whispering down the hallway to each other as we slept in separate beds. We would share our dreams, our fears, our anger, and our joy for a few hours each night. I learned about her dream to be a veterinarian and she celebrated my desire to be a janitor. (We were young!)

Each summer we would go to summer camp together (which we hated), prompted by our parents' need to get some much needed alone time. We were fused at the hip and made almost no friends during summer camps (much to our joy and delight). When we'd get home, our parents would ask if we made new friends and had a great time, we'd lie and make up names for the friends we never made.

When we graduated from college (we both attended [name of college]), she was right behind me on the stage, clasping her degree in [subject] while I held mine in [subject] -- far from our dreams as children.

Throughout our 20's we played around with moving apart and traveling but would ultimately reunite in our hometown every two years or so. When we lost [name], we lived only 20 minutes from each other and would see each other nearly every other day. She was the first person I called when I needed someone to hear me out, someone to listen to me rant, someone to comfort me as I cried, and someone to advocate for me when I wasn't kind to myself.

Losing my sister is the hardest thing I've ever had to go through. I will never feel whole again. At the same time, I know she would want me to remember her in a bright light and know that I carry her with me at all times. I truly aim to do this. In her memory, please give your loved ones a hug today and let them know how much they mean to you.

Many of you attending today know my sister through her immensely successful career as a nurse, some of you know her through her brief stint as a filmographer, and many of you know her because she made a deep impression on you at some point during our childhood. To say she was a lifelong friend to many wouldn't be doing her justice. My sister was the kind of person who somehow found the stragglers, the outcasts, the nerds, the misfits, and the people who didn't feel like they had a community -- and gave them one. She opened up her home to those in need, rented out (and sometimes just lended out) her extra rooms, constantly helped people find jobs, resources, and connections when they were new to the city. She was everything to so many and I'm so blessed to see you all here today. Please try your best to fill your life with generosity and gratitude as a testament to her and her life. Thank you.

Thank you for joining me today in honoring my sister's memory. From a young age, I knew my sister was special. She would pick me up each and every day from school. When I went to college, she was there to drive me to the dorms. When I graduated, she drove me across the country. Without her constant and unrelenting support, I wouldn't have made it through the last 40 years of my life. She showed me how to be a better sister, a better person, and a wonderful mom. I owe everything to her and don't know how to navigate life without her.

My grandson, [Full Name] was an amazing young man. He made his family immensely proud of him every single day he lived. A teacher, an educator, a passionate writer, and a talented artist, his multifaceted personality and talent arsenal impressed everyone he met.

He was a strong and independent man, who always put others before himself. Even when he was younger, he'd be the first of my grandkids to ask how he could help. If I was fixing the car, he'd want to watch. If I was working in the garden, he'd want to help. If the lawn needed to be mowed, he'd be up on a Saturday morning taking care of it. When his grandmother, my wife, had hip surgery, he was the one to run and grab us groceries every week. All of this without complaint and without making us feel as though we were burdens.

I am so proud of the man that he had become and only wish he had the opportunity to live out the rest of his days. A rare and special soul, he will be missed so very much.

Thank you for everything, [first name]. I love you and miss you so much.

To my beautiful granddaughter,

You were the light in my life – always happy, always smiling. You lit up a room every time you entered it and I will miss that light so very much.

I am so proud of the woman you were becoming and I know that you would have accomplished great things in your life. You had such a bright future ahead of you and I am heartbroken that it has been cut so short.

I will cherish all the memories we have together – from your first steps, to your first day of school, to your high school graduation. You were always my pride and joy and I will miss you more than words can say.

Rest in peace, my sweet granddaughter. You will be forever in my heart.

Example # 3

Those of you who know me, know how much my grandson meant to me, our family, and our community. [Name] was a rare individual -- someone that, in today's day and age, is becoming increasingly more rare. He thrived on connecting with others and building up his community in any way he could. Countless hours were spent volunteering with the food bank, the humane society, setting up various cancer walks and runs and trying his hardest to do good in this world and to provide a sense of togetherness with the few precious years he had on this planet. His loss is deeply felt by everyone in our family and of course, many of those who are not (but according to him, would be called family). Please consider honoring [Name]'s memory by volunteering your time in any way that you find meaningful. Maybe that means setting up a walk or run (or any other fun activity) for a charity that you hold dear. Maybe that means picking up trash on the road. Maybe that means spending time in the community garden. In any case, know that any time spent building up the lives of others is time spent remembering and honoring the life of [Name] -- and for that, we are forever grateful.

When I gave birth to [Name], my life was permanently changed. I'd heard how this can happen from friends and family, stories about how having a child changes your life. I'd known this would happen but no amount of warning could've prepared me for how rapidly and totally my world was consumed by my baby. When I held her in my arms for the first time, I knew. I knew my life's purpose. I understood the unspeakable bond that tethers a mother to her child. I was hesitant to release her, to let anyone else but me hold her, even her father. I was obsessed.

With each day, she grew into the bright, confident, and cheerful little girl she ended up being. Every flower was a burst of laughter, interactions with puppies and dogs was a cause for joy, she cried incessantly and wouldn't let me sleep for over 2 months -- but it was so worth it. Seeing her bright, chubby cheeks light up as I turned the corner into her room made it so very worth it.

My daughter was my world and I have no idea how I am to cope with her loss. No parent should undergo the rage and grief that accompanies picking out a casket for your small child. Her life was tragically taken from her and I'll never get to know what kind of person she would've been -- though I have theories. I know she loved every day she got to spend on this earth and I know she felt loved for each and every day.

What I learned from her was to embrace joy, to find a spark of happiness in each and every day, and to cry it out when you have to. [Name], sweet girl, you are so loved and so very missed.

Thank you for joining me and my family today to celebrate, remember, and honor the life of [Full Name]. [Name] was a [man/woman] of [describe characteristics] with a penchant for [description] that always showed itself whenever [he/she] would [description]. A [man/woman] of many talents, [Name] showed us that it was never too late to start [hobby/career].

My [father/mother/sister/brother/relation] was, without a doubt, my best friend, my biggest cheerleader, and my constant supporter. When I was interested in [hobby], [she/he] showed up to all the events. When I decided I was obsessed with [hobby], [he/she] went out and purchased [item]. When I decided to [description], [she/he] was the first person to [description].

My [mom/dad/relation] was an unforgettable and truly remarkable human being. I endeavor, with all my heart, to follow in [his/her] footsteps for the rest of my life. I will honor [his/her] time on Earth and [his/her] contributions to our society by [describe how you'll honor their life]. I ask that everyone here today join me in this endeavour as we aim to honor the life of [full name]. Thank you.

To my wife,

You were my best friend and my partner in life. We shared everything – our hopes, our dreams, our lives. You were the love of my life and I will miss you forever.

We had so many happy years together and I am grateful for every moment we shared. You brought joy to my life and I will cherish our time together always.

I am so proud of the woman you were and I know that you touched the lives of everyone around you. You will be deeply missed but never forgotten.

Rest in peace, my love. You will be forever in my heart.

Choosing a favorite moment from my life spent with my wife is impossible. Was it the time that we went to Lake Minetonka and passed out on the shores after sharing a box full of wine? Was it when she surprised me with tickets to see The Black Crowes in concert, only two months after I'd mentioned it to her? When I'd wake up in the morning to a hot cup of coffee and a brief rant on the political state of the world? The way she mothered our children effortlessly and still took the time to ask me about specific relationships at work? My life has been full of these warm memories -- I can't land on one. What I do know is that my wife emanated love each and every day. Every single day I felt loved, supported, and known. It made me want to make sure she was taken care of in each and every way. I did my best. I tried to give her the life she so deserved, but even if I could give her the life of a queen, it wouldn't have been enough for what she deserved. My wife was everything and is the center of my joy. I miss her each and every day and I know I will see her again.

Ever since I was a little girl, I wanted to be married. I was obsessed with any and all films of prince charmings, beautiful and big weddings, and women being swept off their feet. I was convinced that my time would come by the time I was 20 (how naive!). I went through college and by the time I was 32 realized I'd never had a boyfriend. I'd never been courted. I wasn't even sure I liked men. My desire to be swept off my feet dwindled and I became secure in myself.

Until I met [Name].

Immediately, within the first 20 minutes of meeting [Name], I was absolutely smitten. I thought of almost nothing else when we were apart -- and we hated each other! She was competing with me for the same promotion at work and we were both tenacious and fierce women. She was stubborn, confident, and sure of what she wanted -- much like myself.

After she got the promotion I so desperately wanted, she invited me out for a conciliatory drink -- a move I never would've made. She would go on to refer to this as our first date, though I considered it the first brick towards building a bridge away from dislike and towards camaraderie.

I was swept off my feet, in a completely unexpected way. During our first years of dating, I found myself wanting to provide for her, take care of her, make her smile at all possible moments. When she ranted about work, I wanted to defend her. When she managed to burn chicken each and every time, you wouldn't hear a peep from me. When she suggested we get married, I wanted her to be the star of the show. I wanted to show her off to every important person in my life. She'd lovingly refer to me as her ""Princess Charming"" -- a role I happily inhabited.

My wife brought joy, kindness, love, courage, strength, and purpose into my life. Without her by my side, I feel an unhealable void. At the same time, in her way, she prepared me as best she could. I ask those gathered here today, in her memory, to help me keep her presence alive. Please spread joy in all the ways you can. Tell people how you feel. Advocate for yourself. Be free.

My life's greatest years were spent with [Name], the love of my life. She loved everything about life, even the downsides -- she embraced it all. Life was hard, but it was also worth it for her. From the moment I met her, I knw my life would be different and that I'd found the one.

[Name] made such a massive difference in the community around her, especially after becoming president of the charity she worked for. Her favorite things in life were witnessing others transform their lives for the better, helping people access community resources wherever possible, and advocating for those less fortunate. Go out today and try your best to emulate everything she did, and more.

I am so saddened by the loss of [Name]. We didn't always see eye to eye, but I always respected [him/her] as a hard worker and a great person. [She/He] was always so kind and helpful, and I will never forget all of the times [she/he] went out of [him/her] way to help me. [She/He] will be greatly missed by all who had the pleasure of knowing [him/her].

When we first met at [company], [name] was one of the first people to make me feel welcome. I’ll never forget how [she/he] took the time to get to know me and helped me feel like I belonged there.

I am so thankful to have had the opportunity to work with [him/her], and I know that [she/he] has left a lasting impression on everyone [she/he] met. [She/He] was an amazing person, and I know that [she/he] will be deeply missed. Thank you for everything, [name].

May you rest in peace.

Throughout my career, I've met plenty of personalities, characters, and people -- but none as special as [Name]. When [Name] first entered the front doors to our building, I immediately knew we would get on. [Name] was the type of person you'd easily become friends with. People who met [him/her/them] would immediately want to work alongside them. As one of my first direct reports, I can't tell you how many people would come to me on the side and request to be paired with or on a team with [Name]. Why? [He/she] was special. People gravitated towards them. People wanted to be in their sphere of influence. People wanted to work alongside them and get to know them.

That's rare. This is the first time I've seen the majority of my company in one room that wasn't our building -- and it's for the funeral of our very special friend and colleague -- [Name]. Thank you to [Name's parents] for raising such an incredible human being. Please know that your [son/daughter/child] changed the lives, every day, of so many people around them. I have never in my 50 years of managing imagined running into someone like [Name] and I am blessed to have known them. Rest well and peacefully, [Name], you did well.

Today we come together to honor the life and legacy of a beloved retired musician, who touched so many lives with his passion for music. He was a kind-hearted man who enjoyed pushing boundaries and exploring new horizons. He was an avid traveler, having visited countries all over the world. He also had a strong connection to animals, particularly cats. His home was often filled with cats of all shapes, sizes and colors.

He had a variety of musical influences, which he blended together to create his own unique sound. He was an incredibly talented musician who could play various instruments including the guitar, piano and flute. He wrote some beautiful melodies that will live on long after him.

He was also a generous soul, always ready to lend a helping hand. He had an open door policy and welcomed people into his home with open arms. More than anything else, he loved sharing stories and swapping ideas with those around him.

Today we celebrate the life of this incredible man who left behind a beautiful legacy of music and of kindness. He will be remembered for all that he has accomplished and the many lives that he touched. May we strive to follow in his footsteps and honor his memory by living our own lives with love, humility and caring. Thank you.

These eulogy examples are for those who would like to focus on a loved one's profession or career choices as their way of honoring their life's work.

Eulogy for a speech pathologist

Dear friends, family, and colleagues,

Today, we gather to honor the life and legacy of Sarah Kwambe, a remarkable woman who touched the lives of so many people during her time with us. Sarah was not only a skilled speech pathologist but also a former professional soccer player who had to leave the sport she loved due to a career-ending injury. However, Sarah didn't let that setback stop her from pursuing her passion for helping others.

Sarah's journey began in South Dakota, where she lived with her beloved cat, Sam. She dedicated her life to making a difference in the lives of young people, particularly middle schoolers, whom she worked with as a speech pathologist. She had a remarkable ability to connect with her students and inspire them to achieve their full potential.

Despite the challenges she faced early on in her life, Sarah never gave up on her dreams. She was an accomplished athlete who excelled in soccer, but when her injury put an end to her career, she channeled her passion and determination into her studies. She pursued a degree in speech pathology, and her dedication to her work was evident in everything she did.

Sarah was a compassionate, caring, and selfless person who always put others first. She was a mentor to many, a friend to all, and a source of inspiration to everyone who knew her. She had a warm smile and a kind heart that could light up a room, and her love for her students was evident in the way she interacted with them.

Although Sarah never had children of her own, she had a deep love for her cat, Sam, who was always by her side. Her commitment to her feline friend was just one of the many examples of her kindness and compassion.

In conclusion, Sarah Kwambe was a truly remarkable person who touched the lives of many people in ways that will never be forgotten. Her legacy will live on through the countless students she helped, the colleagues she inspired, and the friends and family who loved her dearly. She will be deeply missed, but her spirit will live on in the hearts of all who knew her.

Rest in peace, Sarah Kwambe.

Eulogy example for an environmental activist

Dear friends and family,

Today, we gather to remember and celebrate the life of Rachel Chen, a remarkable woman who dedicated her life to protecting and preserving our environment. Rachel was an accomplished environmental scientist, mother of three children - Irina, Bliss, and Mario, and a loving partner to her husband of many years.

From a young age, Rachel had a deep love and appreciation for nature. Her passion for the environment inspired her to pursue a career in environmental science, and she quickly became a respected expert in her field. She spent many years working tirelessly to protect our national parks, and her dedication to this cause never wavered.

Rachel was also an avid gardener, and she had a remarkable ability to bring beauty to everything she touched. Her love for nature was evident in everything she did, from the way she tended to her garden to the way she spoke about the natural world.

As a mother, Rachel was loving, patient, and kind. She instilled in her children a deep respect for the environment and a desire to make the world a better place. Her children were the light of her life, and she was so proud of the people they had become.

Rachel's passing is a great loss to us all. She was a remarkable person who touched the lives of so many people in countless ways. Her legacy will live on through the countless national parks and natural spaces that she helped to protect, as well as through the love and memories that her family and friends will always carry in their hearts.

Rachel, we will miss you dearly, but we know that your spirit will live on through the beauty of nature that you cherished so deeply. Rest in peace.

Eulogy example for a young adult

Today, we come together to celebrate the life of Zach Peterson. Zach was a talented mechanic, a loving son, and a loyal friend. He passed away far too soon, but his memory will live on in the hearts of those who knew him.

Zach had a passion for auto maintenance that was unmatched. He loved nothing more than working on cars, and he was always happy to help a friend in need. His skills were truly remarkable, and he had an uncanny ability to diagnose and fix any issue that came his way.

But Zach was more than just a mechanic. He was a gentle soul who cared deeply about those around him. He had a warm smile that could light up a room, and he was always quick with a joke or a kind word. He had a way of making everyone feel welcome and included, no matter who they were.

Zach's passing has left a void in our lives, but we take comfort in knowing that his memory will live on. We will remember his kind heart, his infectious laughter, and his unwavering loyalty. Zach was a special person who made a lasting impact on the world around him, and we are all better for having known him. Rest in peace, Zach.

Eulogy for an infant

With heavy hearts, we gather here today to mourn the loss of a precious child who has been taken from us too soon. We know that God has a plan for each and every one of us, but it is still difficult to understand why a young life has been cut short.

As we come together to remember this beautiful child, we take comfort in knowing that they are now in the loving embrace of our Lord. Though their time with us was brief, they brought immense joy and love into the world, and we will cherish the memories we have of them forever.

We know that this is a time of deep sorrow, but we can find solace in the fact that this child is now at peace in the arms of our Heavenly Father. May we all find comfort in our faith, and may we hold this precious child close in our hearts as we navigate this difficult time. Rest in peace, little one.

Eulogy for a grandmother

Today we gather to remember a truly remarkable woman - my grandmother. She was a woman of many talents: a masterful cross-stitcher, an incredible fudge-maker, and a loving grandmother to a whole gaggle of grandchildren.

Grandma was the kind of woman who made you feel like you were the only person in the world when she was talking to you. She always had a smile on her face and a twinkle in her eye, and she had a way of making even the most mundane tasks seem like an adventure.

And oh, her fudge! I think we can all agree that Grandma's fudge was a work of art. It was creamy, decadent, and so rich that you could only eat a tiny piece at a time - not that it stopped any of us from trying to eat the whole batch in one sitting!

But beyond her talents and her love of fudge, Grandma will be remembered most of all for the love she had for her family. She was a guiding light for all of us, a source of wisdom and strength when we needed it most.

So, as we say goodbye to this incredible woman, let us not mourn her passing, but celebrate the incredible life she lived. She was one of a kind, and we were all blessed to have known her. Rest in peace, Grandma - we will never forget you.

Eulogy for a farmer

Today we gather to celebrate the life of a man who loved nothing more than working hard under the sun, watching his land grow and thrive. [Name] was not just any farmer - he was a tireless advocate for agricultural reform and change. His passion for sustainable farming practices, conservation, and education knew no bounds.

He was never afraid to get his hands dirty or put in long hours because he believed that every crop mattered; every seed planted had the potential to make a difference. His dedication inspired those around him and helped shape the landscape of our community.

[Name] will be remembered by all as an honest, kind-hearted man who always put others first. I’ll miss his unwavering determination to better this world through agriculture and his infectious smile that brightened up everyone’s day.

One of my favorite memories with [Name] is when he taught me how to plant corn by hand while sharing stories about his childhood on the farm.

Another one of our community's favorite memories of [Name] is when he organized a fundraiser for local farmers affected by droughts and natural disasters.

Thank you all for being here today to honor my friend’s memory and legacy. In [name]’s words “Farming is not just a profession but also an art form”. May we carry on this art form in honor of him.

Eulogy for a teacher

We are gathered here today to say goodbye to someone very special: A teacher who dedicated her life towards social justice inside her classrooms, making sure each student felt valued and respected regardless of their background or ethnicity. She empowered students from underserved communities with access to quality education - she showed them they could achieve anything if they worked hard enough.

[name]'s legacy lives on through every student she touched during her career as an educator, instilling confidence in them whilst fighting against systemic oppression within school walls.

I’ll miss her contagious energy, witty humor, and deep compassion for everyone she met.

One of my favorite memories with [Name] is when she invited me to speak in her class about my personal experiences and background, empowering me to share my story confidently.

Another one of our community's favorite memories of [Name] is when she organized a rally with her students for Black Lives Matter movement that brought people together from all walks of life.

Thank you for being here today, honoring the memory and legacy of someone who dedicated their life towards ensuring social justice inside classrooms. In the words of [name], “Education can change how we view ourselves, other people, and the world”. Let’s carry on this legacy in honor of her.

Eulogy for a foster dad

We gather here today to celebrate the life of a man who was known for his unwavering dedication towards family, golfing and fostering kids - [name]. If there’s one thing that everyone knows about him- it's that he loved nothing more than spending time with those he loved and helping those in need.

[name] had an infectious personality which brought joy to all those around him. He made sure to always put his family first no matter what, while also making time for the sport he was passionate about: Golf.

He would often take foster kids along with him on these trips; providing them a chance at a once-in-a-lifetime experience.

I’ll miss his contagious laughter, generosity, and his commitment to living every day to its fullest potential.

One of my favorite memories with [Name] is when we went out golfing together by the lake, enjoying each other’s company over some good shots.

Another one of our community's favorite memories of [Name] is when he organized a youth-golf tournament fundraiser raising funds for underprivileged children.

Thank you all for being here today honoring someone who lived their life so fully dedicated towards their passions - Family, Golfing & Fostering Kids. In the words of [name], “Life is like a round of golf; try your best from tee to green but don't forget to enjoy the moments along the way."

Eulogy for a soldier

Today we come together as friends and family members mourning the loss of someone whose bravery knew no bounds- [name]. A soldier who sacrificed everything including her own life during deployment serving her country valiantly.

Her courage has inspired us all and reminded us that freedom sometimes comes at great cost—she gave up everything she had just so others could have something better tomorrow.

She will be remembered not only as a hero but also as a friend whose selflessness touched countless lives on and off-duty alike. Her positivity knew no bounds even in times where things felt like they couldn’t get any worse.

I’ll miss her infectious energy, unbreakable spirit and her ability to inspire people around her even in the darkest of times.

One of my favorite memories with [Name] is when we went on a vacation together after she returned from deployment, catching up on life post-duty and just enjoying each other’s company.

Another one of our community's favorite memories of [Name] was when she organized a fundraiser for veterans who had been wounded during active duty.

Thank you all for being here today. We celebrate someone whose profound sacrifice has given us the freedom that we enjoy today- Freedom which comes at great cost. In [name]'s words: "Duty first; self second." Let us never forget this sentiment as we honor those brave men and women who serve their country valiantly.

Eulogy for an animal activist

Today marks the passing away of a woman whose compassion for animals was unmatched - [name]. She served as President at local ASPCA chapter where she inspired others through her dedication towards animal rights advocacy and protection. Her tireless efforts led to increased awareness within our community regarding animal welfare issues such as abuse or neglect.

[name] will be remembered not only as an advocate but also as a friend to all animals; big or small. Her kindness knew no bounds and it extended beyond just domesticated pets like dogs or cats- advocating for wildlife preservation too!

I’ll miss her infectious energy, unwavering passion and her ability to inspire empathy in those around her.

One of my favorite memories with [Name] is when she rescued several abandoned kittens outside our office building during lunch breaks.

Another one of our local communities’ favorite memories with [Name] was when she coordinated fundraisers which helped raise funds for medical treatment costs associated with pet care amongst low-income families.

Thank you all for being here today honoring someone who made it their mission to ensure well-being among some oft-forgotten members in society: animals. May we strive each day to extend kindness towards them, carrying on what [name] started so passionately.

Eulogy for a writer

Thank you so much for attending the services today as we gather to say goodbye to Kaleb Morris, an incredibly talented author and journalist. His work delved into the darkest corners of human behavior, shining a light on the most heinous and unthinkable crimes. Kaleb had a gift for telling stories that not only captivated readers but also helped to shed light on important issues that might have otherwise gone unnoticed.

Tragically, Kaleb's life was cut short in a boating accident, leaving behind his child and former wife, Shareece. Though we grieve for the life that has been taken from us too soon, we can also take comfort in the legacy that Kaleb leaves behind.

His writing was not just a means to entertain, but a way to make a difference in the world. Kaleb shone a light on issues that needed to be addressed, and gave a voice to those who had been silenced by violence and tragedy. He was a gifted storyteller, and his impact on the true crime genre will be felt for years to come.

Kaleb will be deeply missed by all who knew him, but his work will live on as a testament to his incredible talent and dedication to his craft. Rest in peace, Kaleb.

Eulogy for a nurse practitioner

We gather to remember and honor Cherish Abrams, a beloved nurse practitioner who touched the lives of countless patients and colleagues during her 25 years of service. Cherish was known for her compassion, dedication, and expertise, and her loss is deeply felt by all who knew her.

Cherish was like a ""grandma"" to the NICU where she worked, comforting and caring for infants and families during their most vulnerable moments. Her gentle touch and kind words provided solace and hope to those in need, and her wisdom and guidance were invaluable to her colleagues.

Cherish's tragic passing is a reminder of how precious life is and how quickly it can be taken away. But even in death, she continues to inspire us with her selflessness, her unwavering dedication to her patients, and her love for her profession.

Cherish's memory will live on in the hearts of those she touched, and her legacy will continue through the lives of the countless patients she cared for and the colleagues she mentored. May she rest in peace, knowing that she made a profound difference in the world and that she will be deeply missed.

Eulogy for a community leader

Today we gather to honor and remember the life of Michael Patel, a beloved community leader and philanthropist who dedicated his life to making the world a better place. Michael was a self-made businessman, a devoted family man, and a passionate advocate for those in need.

Throughout his life, Michael demonstrated a deep commitment to his community, supporting countless charitable organizations and causes. His generosity knew no bounds, and his impact on the lives of those he helped will never be forgotten.

Michael's passing is a great loss to us all, but his legacy will continue through the countless lives he touched and the causes he supported. We are grateful for the time we had with him and for the inspiration he provided to us all. Rest in peace, Michael, knowing that your life made a profound difference in the world and that you will be deeply missed.

Eulogy for a high school teacher

We gather here today to remember and celebrate the life of Samantha Liu, a beloved high school teacher who passed away far too soon. Samantha was a bright, energetic, and dedicated educator who brought out the best in her students and inspired them to reach for their dreams.

In her 15 years of teaching, Samantha touched the lives of countless students, colleagues, and parents. Her passion for education was infectious, and her positive energy was felt by everyone who crossed her path.

Though we mourn the loss of Samantha, we take comfort in the memories she has left behind and the impact she has had on our lives. Her legacy lives on in the countless students whose lives she touched, and in the hearts of all those who were fortunate enough to know her. Rest in peace, Samantha, knowing that you made a profound difference in the world and that you will be deeply missed.

Eulogy for a philanthropist

Eulogy example for loving mother.

We gather here today to celebrate the life of Emily Thompson, a beloved mother and grandmother who passed away peacefully surrounded by her family. Emily was a kind, caring, and nurturing woman who devoted her life to her loved ones.

As a mother of four and a grandmother of nine, Emily's love and devotion knew no bounds. She was the heart and soul of her family, providing comfort, support, and wisdom whenever it was needed.

Though we mourn the loss of Emily, we take comfort in the memories she has left behind and the love she shared with us all. Her legacy lives on through her family and the countless lives she touched during her lifetime. Rest in peace, Emily, knowing that you made a profound difference in the world and that you will be deeply missed.

Eulogy example for teacher

Marcus was a beloved teacher who dedicated his life to helping his students achieve their goals. He had a gift for teaching and his enthusiasm for learning was contagious. Marcus always went above and beyond to help his students, whether it was staying late to help them with homework, or just lending an ear when they needed to talk. He truly believed in the power of education to change lives, and he worked tirelessly to make sure his students had the tools they needed to succeed. Marcus was also a devoted husband and father. He met his wife, Sarah, when they were both in college, and they were inseparable ever since. They had two children together, and Marcus loved nothing more than spending time with his family. He was always there for his kids, whether it was coaching their sports teams or just reading them a bedtime story.

Marcus was diagnosed with cancer three years ago, but he never let it slow him down. He continued teaching, even when he was undergoing chemotherapy, and he always had a positive attitude. Marcus fought his illness with courage and grace, and he never lost his faith in God.

Marcus was a shining example of what it means to be a good person, and he touched the lives of everyone he met. He will be deeply missed by his students, colleagues, and his loving wife and two children.

Eulogy example for a chef

Isabella was a talented chef who had a passion for creating beautiful and delicious food. She was always experimenting with new flavors and ingredients, and her dishes were a work of art. Isabella had a natural talent for cooking, but she also worked hard to hone her skills. She attended culinary school and worked in some of the best restaurants in the city. But Isabella's love for cooking wasn't just about creating amazing dishes. She also loved the way food brought people together. Isabella was always hosting dinner parties and potlucks, and she loved nothing more than seeing people enjoy her food. She had a big heart and loved to share her food with family and friends. Her food was a way for her to show her love for the people in her life.

Isabella was also a devoted partner. She met her girlfriend, Maria, when they were both working in a restaurant, and they were inseparable ever since. They built a life together, and Isabella loved nothing more than spending time with Maria and their two dogs.

Isabella's death was a shock to everyone who knew her. She had so much talent and so much to give to the world. But even in death, Isabella's spirit lives on through her food and the memories she created for those who knew and loved her.

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Prepare, Write & Give a Eulogy

January 3, 2022 - Dom Barnard

• Eulogy overview
• Thinking about your audience and the person
• How to write a eulogy
• Speaking on the day – how to give a eulogy
• Eulogy examples from the famous
• Eulogy quotes to calm, comfort & heal

1. Eulogy Overview

Writing and giving a eulogy is a way of saying farewell to someone who has died that, in a sense, brings the person to life in the minds of the audience. You don’t have to be a great writer or orator to deliver a heartfelt and meaningful eulogy that captures the essence of the deceased.

For some people, the opportunity to speak during the funeral service about the person they knew is a welcome one – but many of us still do not realise this is possible and believe that eulogies are just for the famous. You’re being asked to do something at the very moment when nothing can be done. You get the last word in the attempt to define the outlines of a life.

There is no right or wrong way to write a eulogy: each is as unique as the person giving it and the person it describes. But even if you’re used to speaking in public,  finding words to say  can be difficult because of the special circumstances of a funeral. You may be coping with your own grief. You may feel a heavy burden of responsibility to get it ‘right’, in terms of both content – what to say – and tone – how to say it. You may prefer to ask someone else to write it, or perhaps have them on standby to give it for you.

Whatever your thoughts, you should not feel pressured into giving a eulogy or guilty if you feel unable to do so. If you feel you did not know the person well enough, or are simply not that interested in characterising this person’s life, suggest someone else do it, stating that you’re too overcome with grief. This is a hugely important job.

Eulogy Definition

A speech or piece of writing that praises someone or something highly, especially a tribute to someone who has just died.

Late Middle English (in the sense ‘high praise’): from medieval Latin eulogium, eulogia (from Greek eulogia ‘praise’), apparently influenced by Latin elogium ‘inscription on a tomb’ (from Greek elegia ‘elegy’). The current sense dates from the late 16th century. ( Oxford Dictionary )

President George W. Bush delivers a eulogy during funeral services for former President Gerald R. Ford at the Washington National Cathedral in Washington.

2. Thinking about your Audience and the Person

Start by thinking of the people you are addressing, as well as the person you are describing: the eulogy is about the person, but for the audience.

Key thoughts about your audience

Who are they – family and close friends only or others too? There may be specific things to say or avoid.

How will they feel? Listening to you will obviously be highly emotional for those closest to the person, and some people will be in tears. But this doesn’t mean the eulogy should be mournful and depressing. People will be grateful if what you say is uplifting and inspiring.

What do they want to hear? Most people want to hear good things about a person who has died, and forget the bad things. But people don’t become saints just because they die. Your audience will want to feel you have captured the essence of the person – what makes them special. So be honest, but selective.

How long should it be? Even in the circumstances of a funeral, many people find it difficult to listen to one person talking for a long time, so a eulogy should really be over in a matter of minutes – just how many is a matter of individual choice.

Think of the person

A good eulogy doesn’t just tell the audience about the person – in a sense it brings the person to life in their imagination and gives them something by which to remember them. You can do this by  telling stories about the person : the happy things, the funny things, the sad things, the unusual things that happened, which sum up their life. Talking about these and the enduring qualities which describe what they were really like as a person, will help you build a picture for the audience with your words.

You may have all the information you need, or you may want to speak to other people close to the person to get precise details and check your facts. You may have arranged the funeral as a friend of the deceased, not knowing too much about them and having no relatives to turn to for information, in which case you can base your eulogy on your impressions of them as a person. Once you have the material and have thought about it in relation to the people you are talking to, you are ready to start putting it together.

Use these points to help build memories and stories.

• You could start by looking around the house and pulling out old photo albums, going through old letters or emails, and any other memorabilia.
• Perhaps go for a walk around your loved one’s house and garden as this may trigger memories and ideas.
• Talking to close relatives, friends, and acquaintances is also an excellent way to remember things.

Here are some prompts to help you get started:

• Who am I speaking to?
• How would the person like to be remembered?
• What made them special? Favourite pastimes and interests, likes and dislikes?
• When were they happiest?
• Who was really close to them?
• What did I really like about them? What did other people really like about them?
• What are the highlights of their life story?
• If I could say only three things about them, what would they be?
• Who can help me check my facts?
• Do I want someone else to give the eulogy on my behalf on the day?
• Is anyone else planning to speak about the person at the funeral? Do we need to avoid saying the same thing twice?

3. How to Write a Eulogy

The hardest task in preparing any talk is often not so much deciding what you’re going to say as deciding how to organise it into a structure with a beginning, middle and end. There are no hard and fast rules – here are some suggestions about preparation and use our  Guide to Public Speaking  for more in depth tips.

Write the eulogy with the deceased’s family and loved ones in mind

Dwell on the positive, but be honest. If the person was difficult or inordinately negative, avoid talking about that or allude to it gently. Make sure you don’t say anything that would offend, shock, or confuse the audience. For example, don’t make any jokes or comments about the deceased that would be a mystery to the majority of the crowd.

Decide on the tone

How serious or light-hearted do you want the eulogy to be? A good eulogy need not be uniformly sombre, just appropriate. Some eulogy-writers take a serious approach, others are bold enough to add humour. Used cautiously, humour can help convey the personality of the deceased and illustrate some of his or her endearing qualities.

The tone can also be partially determined by the way the deceased passed away. If you’re giving a eulogy about a teenager who met an untimely death, then your tone would be more serious than it would if you were giving a eulogy about a grandparent who happily lived to see his ninetieth birthday.

Do I write it word for word?

Yes, if it helps. But if you do, speak it out to yourself as you’re writing, otherwise your words may sound stilted when you actually come to deliver it. When we speak normally, we don’t speak in perfect sentences. What’s important isn’t the grammar, but the points you are making and the stories you are telling. So if you can, don’t write word for word, but put key points on a card to have with you. An exception to this is where you are using a piece of poetry or song, in which case you may want the exact words to hand.

Briefly introduce yourself

Even if most people in the audience know you, just state your name and give a few words that describe your relationship to the deceased. If it’s a really small crowd, you can start with, “For anybody who doesn’t know me…” If you’re related to the deceased, describe how; if not, say a few words about how and when you met.

Avoid clichés like “We are gathered here today…” and begin as you mean to go on, with something special to that person. After introducing yourself, it may be best to get straight to your point as everyone knows why there are there. For example: “There are many things for which she will be remembered, but what we will never forget is her sense of humour…

State the basic information about the deceased

Though your eulogy doesn’t have to read like an obituary or give all of the basic information about the life of the deceased, you should touch on a few key points, such as what his family life was like, what his career achievements were, and what hobbies and interests mattered the most to him. You can find a way of mentioning this information while praising or remembering the deceased.

Include Family

Write down the names of the family members especially closed to the deceased. You may forget their names on the big day because you’re overwhelmed by sadness, so it’s advisable to have them on hand.

Make sure you say something specific about the family life of the deceased — this would be very important to his family.

These points are discussed in more detail in the  Funeralcare Well Chosen Words  guide.

Illustrate parts of their life with a story and give specific examples of great or kind things they have done.

Use specific examples to describe the deceased

Mention a quality and then illustrate it with a story. It is the stories that bring the person–and that quality–to life. Talk to as many people as you can to get their impressions, memories, and thoughts about the deceased, and then write down as many memories of your own as you can. Look for a common theme that unites your ideas, and try to illustrate this theme through specific examples.

• If the deceased is remembered for being kind, talk about the time he helped a homeless man get back on his feet.
• If the deceased is known for being a prankster, mention his famous April Fool’s prank.
• Pretend that a stranger is listening to your eulogy. Would he get a good sense of the person you’re describing without ever meeting him just from your words?

Organise & Structure your Speech

Give the eulogy a  beginning, middle, and end . Avoid rambling or, conversely, speaking down to people. You may have a sterling vocabulary, but dumb it down for the masses just this once. The average eulogy is about 3-5 minutes long. That should be enough for you to give a meaningful speech about the deceased. Remember that less is more; you don’t want to try the patience of the audience during such a sad occasion.

Decide the best order for what you’re going to say:

• Chronological? This would suit the life-story approach, beginning with their childhood and working through the highlights of their life.
• Reverse chronological? Beginning with the present or recent past, then working backwards.
• Three-point plan? Decide three key things to say and the order for saying them.
• Theme? Choose one big thing and give examples, anecdotes, stories to explain and illustrate it.

Get feedback

Once you’re written the eulogy and feel fairly confident in what you’ve written, have some close friends or family members who know the deceased well read it to make sure that it’s not only accurate, but that it does well with capturing the essence of the deceased. They’ll also be able to see if you’ve said anything inappropriate, forgotten something important, stated incorrect facts or wrote anything that was confusing or difficult to understand.

How will I end?

If you intend to play a piece of music or give a reading after your eulogy, you can end by explaining why you’ve chosen it. If not, then a good way could be to end with a short sentence of farewell, maybe the very last thing you said to them – or wanted to say to them – before they died.

4. How to Give a Eulogy – Speaking on the Day

As with thinking and writing about the person, there is no right way to speak about them. However people sometimes do things, usually when they’re feeling nervous or self-conscious, which can interfere with the audience’s ability to follow and reflect on their words.

Practice your eulogy and get feedback on your performance with  VirtualSpeech .

Rehearse the eulogy before the big day

Read the draft of your eulogy aloud. If you have time, read it to someone as practice. Words sound differently when read aloud than on paper. If you have inserted humour, get feedback from someone about its appropriateness and effectiveness. Consider using a virtual reality app to help immerse you in a realistic environment while practising.

This could help you polish the text as well as giving you greater control over your emotions on the day itself.

Have a standby

Though you should hope that you’re emotionally prepared to give the speech on the big day, you should have a close friend or family member who has read the eulogy be prepared to read it for you in case you’re too choked up to read it. Though you probably won’t need one, you’ll feel more relaxed just knowing that you have a backup if you need one.

Use a conversational tone

Talk or read your eulogy to the audience as if you are talking to friends. Make eye contact. Pause. Go slowly if you want. Connect with your audience and share the moment with them; after all, you’re not an entertainer, you’re one of them. There’s no need to be formal when you’re surrounded by loved ones who share your grief.

Wear suitable Clothes

Wear clothes  appropriate to the occasion , the audience and the person who has died. If you look out of place, you will only distract people from your words.

Stand up to give the eulogy

Even though you may at first feel a little exposed, it helps people see and hear you better. While standing, try not to fidget or make nervous gestures, it will only distract people.

Speak slowly

When we are nervous, we tend to speak too quickly. By speaking slowly, you give yourself time to think and choose your words. You also give people time to take in and think about what you’re saying. And if you’re in a large room, speaking slowly helps you project your voice.

Don’t worry if Overcome with Emotion

Don’t worry if you find yourself losing your words or overcome with emotion. Pause, take a few deep breaths and carry on. There’s no requirement on you to give a slick and polished talk and people will be supportive.

Memorise as much as you can

Memorise as much of the speech as you can. On the day, try not to read word for word. Or if you do, make sure you have written it to be spoken, not read. Your words will sound more heartfelt if you’re not reading every sentence right off the page.

5. Examples – Eulogies for the Famous

Earl spencer’s funeral oration for princess diana.

“We are all united not only in our desire to pay our respects to Diana but rather in our need to do so. For such was her extraordinary appeal that the tens of millions of people taking part in this service all over the world via television and radio who never actually met her, feel that they too lost someone close to them in the early hours of Sunday morning. It is a more remarkable tribute to Diana than I can ever hope to offer her today.

Diana was the very essence of compassion, of duty, of style, of beauty. All over the world she was a symbol of selfless humanity. All over the world, a standard bearer for the rights of the truly downtrodden, a very British girl who transcended nationality. Someone with a natural nobility who was classless and who proved in the last year that she needed no royal title to continue to generate her particular brand of magic.

Today is our chance to say thank you for the way you brightened our lives, even though God granted you but half a life. We will all feel cheated always that you were taken from us so young and yet we must learn to be grateful that you came along at all. Only now that you are gone do we truly appreciate what we are now without and we want you to know that life without you is very, very difficult.

We have all despaired at our loss over the past week and only the strength of the message you gave us through your years of giving has afforded us the strength to move forward.”

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“Diana was the very essence of compassion, of duty, of style, of beauty. All over the world she was a symbol of selfless humanity. All over the world, a standard bearer for the rights of the truly downtrodden, a very British girl who transcended nationality.”

Mona Simpson’s Eulogy for Steve Jobs

When I met Steve, he was a guy my age in jeans, Arab- or Jewish-looking and handsomer than Omar Sharif. We took a long walk – something, it happened, that we both liked to do. I don’t remember much of what we said that first day, only that he felt like someone I’d pick to be a friend. He explained that he worked in computers.

I didn’t know much about computers. I still worked on a manual Olivetti typewriter. I told Steve I’d recently considered my first purchase of a computer: something called the Cromemco. Steve told me it was a good thing I’d waited. He said he was making something that was going to be insanely beautiful.

I want to tell you a few things I learned from Steve, during three distinct periods, over the 27 years I knew him. They’re not periods of years, but of states of being. His full life. His illness. His dying.

Steve worked at what he loved. He worked really hard. Every day. That’s incredibly simple, but true. He was the opposite of absent-minded. He was never embarrassed about working hard, even if the results were failures. If someone as smart as Steve wasn’t ashamed to admit trying, maybe I didn’t have to be.

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“Steve worked at what he loved. He worked really hard. Every day. That’s incredibly simple, but true. He was the opposite of absent-minded. He was never embarrassed about working hard, even if the results were failures. If someone as smart as Steve wasn’t ashamed to admit trying, maybe I didn’t have to be.”

Jawaharlal Nehru’s Eulogy for Mahatma Gandhi

He has gone, and all over India there is a feeling of having been left desolate and forlorn. All of us sense that feeling, and I do not know when we shall be able to get rid of it. And yet together with that feeling there is also a feeling of proud thankfulness that it has been given to us of this generation to be associated with this mighty person.

In ages to come, centuries and maybe millennia after us, people will think of this generation when this man of God trod on earth, and will think of us who, however small, could also follow his path and tread the holy ground where his feet had been.

“In ages to come, centuries and maybe millennia after us, people will think of this generation when this man of God trod on earth, and will think of us who, however small, could also follow his path and tread the holy ground where his feet had been.”

Martin Luther King’s Eulogy by Robert F. Kennedy

Martin Luther King, the American civil rights leader and winner of the Nobel Prize for Peace, was born in Montgomery, Alabama. He rose to prominence in the civil rights movement of the 1950s, led the famous March on Washington in 1963, and the March from Selma to Montgomery, Alabama, in 1965. A brilliant orator and writer, whose insistence upon nonviolence in the Gandhian tradition accounted for the success of the movement, Dr. King was assassinated on April 4, 1968, in Memphis, Tennessee, by a white man.

What we need in the United States is not division; what we need in the United States is not hatred; what we need in the United States is not violence or lawlessness, but love and wisdom and compassion toward one another, and a feeling of injustice towards those who still suffer within our country, whether they be white or they be black.

“What we need in the United States is not division; what we need in the United States is not hatred; what we need in the United States is not violence or lawlessness, but love and wisdom and compassion toward one another”

Barack Obama’s Eulogy for Sen. Ted Kennedy

Mrs. Kennedy, Kara, Edward, Patrick, Curran, Caroline, members of the Kennedy family, distinguished guests, and fellow citizens:

Today we say goodbye to the youngest child of Rose and Joseph Kennedy. The world will long remember their son Edward as the heir to a weighty legacy; a champion for those who had none; the soul of the Democratic Party; and the lion of the U.S. Senate – a man whose name graces nearly one thousand laws, and who penned more than three hundred himself.

But those of us who loved him, and ache with his passing, know Ted Kennedy by the other titles he held: Father. Brother. Husband. Uncle Teddy, or as he was often known to his younger nieces and nephews, “The Grand Fromage,” or “The Big Cheese.” I, like so many others in the city where he worked for nearly half a century, knew him as a colleague, a mentor, and above all, a friend.

Ted Kennedy has gone home now, guided by his faith and by the light of those he has loved and lost. At last he is with them once more, leaving those of us who grieve his passing with the memories he gave, the good he did, the dream he kept alive, and a single, enduring image – the image of a man on a boat; white mane tousled; smiling broadly as he sails into the wind, ready for what storms may come, carrying on toward some new and wondrous place just beyond the horizon. May God Bless Ted Kennedy, and may he rest in eternal peace.

“But those of us who loved him, and ache with his passing, know Ted Kennedy by the other titles he held: Father. Brother. Husband. Uncle Teddy, or as he was often known to his younger nieces and nephews, “The Grand Fromage,” or “The Big Cheese.” I, like so many others in the city where he worked for nearly half a century, knew him as a colleague, a mentor, and above all, a friend.”

Further Eulogy Examples

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6. Eulogy quotes & funeral readings to calm, comfort & heal

Attitude toward death.

Live your life that the fear of death can never enter your heart. Trouble no one about his religion. Respect others in their views and demand that they respect yours. Love your life, perfect your life, beautify all things in your life. Seek to make your life long and of service to your people. Prepare a noble death song for the day when you go over the great divide. Always give a word or sign of salute when meeting or passing a friend, or even a stranger, if in a lonely place. Show respect to all people, but grovel to none. When you rise in the morning, give thanks for the light, for your life, for your strength. Give thanks for your food and for the joy of living. If you see no reason to give thanks, the fault lies in yourself. Touch not the poisonous firewater that makes wise ones turn to fools and robs the spirit of its vision. When your time comes to die, be not like those whose hearts are filled with fear of death, so that when their time comes they weep and pray for a little more time to live their lives over again in a different way. Sing your death song, and die like a hero going home.

The Teaching of Tecumseh

All Return Again

It is the secret of the world that all things subsist and do not die, but only retire a little from sight and afterwards return again. Nothing is dead; men feign themselves dead, and endure mock funerals and mournful obituaries, and there they stand looking out of the window, sound and well, in some new strange disguise. Jesus is not dead; he is very well alive; nor John, nor Paul, nor Mahomet, nor Aristotle; at times we believe we have seen them all, and could easily tell the names under which they go.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

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How to Start a Eulogy: 55+ Examples

Updated 12/10/2023

Published 10/25/2019

Belinda McLeod, BA in Secondary Education

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If you’re tasked with writing someone’s eulogy, you’ve probably lost someone dear to you. Even if the death was expected, the process isn’t any easier.

You may feel comfortable with the writing process. Or, maybe you do a lot of public speaking for your job. Even if you’re used to presenting, nothing really prepares you to write and share a eulogy.  

Jump ahead to these sections: 

• Introduce Yourself
• Use a Eulogy Quote
• Offer Condolences
• Establish a Theme
• Start with a Funny Story
• Start with a Reading of the Obituary
• How to Start a Eulogy: More Examples
• Famous Eulogy Introductions
• More Tips for Writing and Delivering a Eulogy

Pro-tip: For help with all of the complicated tasks you might be facing after losing a loved one, check out our post-loss checklist .

We’re here to help with some tips and examples on how to start a eulogy. Some of the first lines will be poignant, and others will be funny. Regardless of how you begin the obituary, write your tribute from the heart.

Also, check out the Example Opening Lines for a Eulogy we have listed below.

Pro-tip:  If you're hosting a  Zoom funeral  using a service like  GatheringUs , make sure to test your audio before the service, so both online and in-person guests can hear you clearly.

Ideas on How to Begin a Eulogy

Are you stumped with how to start the eulogy ? Here are some ideas to help you get over your writer's block. 

1. Talk with the family members.

We know what to expect at a funeral . We understand that a well-written eulogy celebrates the life of one who passed. If you’re not an immediate relative of the person who died, talk with the family members to get their opinions on how to start the eulogy. 

The family probably knows plenty of stories or background material to help you get started. If they’re in a reflective mood, they can list their loved one’s traits and characteristics that will develop the eulogy’s theme. Before you give the eulogy, have family members read through it, too.

2. Start with an introduction.

Introducing yourself is one of the most appropriate ways to start a eulogy – even if you think that everyone knows who you are. Of course, this is only done if the officiant doesn’t introduce you to the crowd.    

Regardless, tell the audience your name and your relationship with the deceased.

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3. Offer condolences.

If you aren’t a member of the immediate family, it is proper to begin a eulogy by offering condolences or expressions of sympathy to those in the family. Even if you are hurting, the immediate family would appreciate hearing these sentiments.

Avoid speaking about your own pain. The eulogy should not be about you and your suffering. 

4. Start with a quote.

It may be appropriate to start the eulogy with a quote from a song or a poem. Maybe you’d like to start with a passage from the Bible or Koran. There are plenty of lists of funeral quotes for a eulogy online, but a quote is always more meaningful if it was important to the family and the deceased.

5. Establish a theme.

As you begin your eulogy, think about the theme you want to establish for your listeners. Your audience doesn’t want to hear a series of disjointed memories and lists of accolades. Figure out what tone you want to take from the start, and ensure each point backs up that central idea. 

6. Start with a funny story.

As you begin your eulogy, this isn’t the time to tell your favorite joke. But, if the deceased was known for having a particularly good sense of humor, it may be appropriate to start with their favorite story.

7. Start with a reading of the obituary.

An obituary is not the same as a eulogy. An obituary reads more like a news article. It often lists the names of the family members, the deceased’s place of employment, military service, and memberships in religious and civic organizations. 

Even though your eulogy should be more personal than a biography of their life, reading the obituary may be an excellent way to lead into that discussion. 

Example Opening Lines for a Eulogy

Although the above tips may give you food for thought, we’ve also decided to provide a few opening lines to help you start the writing process. Here are some sample lines to begin a eulogy for a friend, a family member, or a spouse/partner.

Starting a eulogy for a friend

Speaking at a friend’s funeral may be one of the hardest things you ever do. Not only are you feeling grief at losing someone close to you, but you may also be nervous about how the mourning family will react to your words. Here are some opening lines you may consider using. 

• Good afternoon. My name is Mary Smith, and I’ve had the privilege of calling Jane Johnson my friend for the last thirty years. I was honored when Jane’s family asked me to write this eulogy, but I’m also nervous about finding the right words to speak as a tribute to her.
• Good morning. Before I introduce myself, I’d like to thank you all for being here today to celebrate the life of Jane Johnson. The number of you who took the time to gather here is a testament to how important Jane was in many of your lives. I would also like to take this time to express my sincere condolences to the love of her life, Matt, and her precious children, Allison and Michael.
• Benjamin Franklin once wrote, “Well done is better than well said.” This quote reminds me of Mike. He was a man of few words, but his actions spoke volumes. Let me tell you about some of the amazing things Mike accomplished in his life.
• Probably everyone sitting in this audience today has a favorite Frank joke. Let me tell you my favorite.
• Whether you knew Jane as a wife, mother, co-worker, or friend, we all benefited from her wisdom and heartfelt advice. Jane was always an old soul, and she always knew how to focus on the big picture instead of the pesky details of life. 

Starting a eulogy for a family member

Saying goodbye to a family member is particularly hard. Remember to speak slowly and from the heart. If you have to pause to cry, so be it. Your audience will understand.

• Saying goodbye to my dad today is one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do. I’m Ryan, his son, and on behalf of the rest of my family, we would like to thank you for being here today to celebrate Dad’s life. 
• When I was a kid, my mom repeated, “This, too, shall pass.” Although her words were helpful when a bully was mean to me at school or when I was going through sleepless nights as the mother of infant twins, I don’t think her advice will help me with the grief I am feeling today. 
• Uncle Roy came to this country when he was 15. He didn’t speak English, and he didn’t know anyone. Let me tell you stories about his bravery and how that trait carried him through his long life.
• My dad grew up on a farm in the Ozarks. Even though he spent most of his life in suburban Kansas City, his heart never left those beautiful hills where he wandered as a youth.
• I feel as if I could write a book about my father’s life. He accomplished so much and meant a great deal to everyone in this room. Here’s what I want you to know about my dad. 

Starting a eulogy for a spouse or partner

It's hard to imagine the strength it would take to recite a eulogy for a spouse or partner. For those of you who are able to honor your loved one at the funeral, here are some opening lines you may want to use.

• As I say goodbye to my husband today, I am reminded of this verse in Isaiah. “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God.” This verse has meant a great deal to my husband and me as he has struggled with illness for the last several years.
• I know Jane is looking down on me today, shaking her head because my funeral attire is wrong and my socks don’t match. Jane also took great care of those details in my life. 
• The kitchen was the center of my wife’s world. It was in her kitchen that she prepared countless meals for our daughters and me. It was there she counseled friends. It was at the kitchen table, where she read her Bible every morning. I will never enter that room again without expecting to see her there. 
• Mike’s brothers and sisters like to tell stories about how he was the first person to defend someone who was mistreated. That was the first attribute that drew me to him thirty years ago. 
• The first time I met Jane, she was a shy girl who always avoided talking to me when we worked at the movie theatre together. I never would’ve imagined that forty years later, I would be standing here telling you about this fantastic, strong woman with whom I shared my life for the last several decades. 

Starting a eulogy for mom or dad

Writing your parent's eulogy may be one of the most challenging things you have ever had to write. Here are some sample eulogy beginnings to help you get started with the task:

• My relationship with my father was complicated. My Mom always said we had difficulty getting along because we were too similar. Unfortunately, it took me years to realize this, but my Mom was probably right.
• Today, we gather together to celebrate Mom's first day in Heaven. She once told me her vision of Heaven was being a part of a massive choir of angels singing Handel's Messiah. That's one reason we played that piece for you this morning. Perhaps Mom was singing along during the chorus.
• Michael Robert Smith was born in 1926 in the family home. He was the sixth of what would be nine kids, but only seven survived to adulthood. Several of Dad's siblings are attending today. I loved it when they would all talk about their childhood. Even though they grew up in poverty, they all smiled when thinking about those times. They spoke about household chores that sounded like something from "Little House on the Prairie," like churning butter, milking cows, and heating water for their Saturday night bath. 
• My mom loved peonies, dark chocolate, and poems by Mary Oliver. She was a good singer but a horrible artist. And even though she didn't particularly enjoy cooking, she made the best lasagne I’ve ever had. Now that she's gone, I am afraid I’ll forget some of those characteristics that made her unique. So, thank you for indulging me for a bit as I share some details about my beloved mother. 

Starting a eulogy for a grandmother or grandfather

Perhaps you have been charged with writing the eulogy for your grandma or grandpa. If so, here are some sample beginnings:

• "The Lord is Near! Do not be anxious about anything. Instead, in every situation with prayer and petition with thanksgiving, tell your requests to God. And the peace that surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus."
• This hand-written verse from the Book of Philippians was taped on my Grandma's bathroom mirror all my life. The paper was old, faded, and curled up around the edges. But even though she changed bathroom decor periodically, that piece of paper remained a constant.
• I never really talked to her about it, but that verse probably meant a lot to her when my Dad went to Vietnam. She probably read it to herself when Uncle Peter was in that horrible motorcycle accident. And she probably cried while reading that verse when she was taking care of Grandpa at the end of his life. 
• Grandpa was a man of few words. Yes, go ahead and laugh — because we all know that's not true. We lived next door to Grandpa and Grandma, and I had a neighborhood paper route when I was a kid. One day, I left to deliver the papers while Grandpa stood outside talking to our neighbor, Mr. Smith. I delivered all 60 papers, stopped, and got an ice cream sundae, and when I got back, Grandpa was still talking to a worn-out-looking Mr. Smith. Grandpa certainly had the "gift of the gab."
• Today, I stand before you broken-hearted. I know Grandma had a good, long life, but I still needed her. So, even though I’m happy that she’s been reunited with Grandpa, I can't help but feel a little jealous. 

Starting a eulogy for a sibling

Unsure of how to start a eulogy for a sibling? Here are some unique ways to begin your speech.

• Dan asked us to play the last song, "Live Like You Were Dying," at his funeral. He also made an entire playlist of songs for the slideshow you'll see in a little bit. You see, Dan knew he was dying. While the rest of us urged him to try experimental therapies and visit other doctors, he knew four months ago that his time was short on Earth.
• Even though I was frustrated at the time by his stubbornness, I am so thankful we had these last four months with him. Our family spent a lot of time with him — just talking and listening to music. We laughed and cried as we talked about our childhood. He said he was scared, and we cried some more.
• I can't believe I am standing here before you to eulogize my baby sister. Honestly, it all feels like a bad dream. However, here we are, and there she is, and even though I wish I could wake up and hear her snorting, obnoxious laugh, I know she's gone.
• Even though I’m angry Susan is gone and feel like screaming and yelling, I’l l push those feelings aside and share memories of my little sis. 
• The first memory I’d like to share is about her first year of college . . .
• Mom and Dad always said they didn't have a favorite child. Even though it was kind of them to say, none of us believed it. Freddie was their favorite — and deservedly so. He was everyone's favorite.
• Freddie had a contagious smile, a zest for life, and a loving, open spirit. That's why there's not an empty seat here today.

Starting a eulogy for a child

We are sorry if you’ve been tasked to write a eulogy for a child. Few things are as heart-breaking as a young person not getting to live to see adulthood. We will attempt to share some words or phrases that might help you.

• This is the hardest thing I've ever had to do. Even though I was honored when Blake and Emily asked me to speak today, I have not slept well since they asked. I know my words will do nothing to ease any of our pain. It's too deep. 
• I was so excited when Patty announced her pregnancy to the family. I had never been an auntie before and was looking forward to having a little niece or nephew to spoil. Unfortunately, however, it was not meant to be. And even though we wish we could all change that fact, our beloved Bethany is now looking at us from Heaven.
• I'm still in shock that Caroline is gone. I went to St. Bart's to watch her play volleyball just last week. We went out for tacos afterward, and she told me how much she looked forward to prom the following week. Now, I am standing before you, to sum up her too-short life. Here's what you should know about Caroline.
• First, we all know that Caroline was bright, but you may not know the extent of her gifts. Even though her schedule was loaded with AP classes, she was ranked first in her class. She was planning on using her talents to become a doctor.
• Mikey loved Tonka trucks, playing in the mud, and laughing with Great Grandpa Pete. He always had a mischievous smile, but he was such a sweetheart. He would sing while digging up worms and loved offering dandelions to everyone he met. 

Starting a eulogy for a coworker or boss

Perhaps you have been tasked with "sharing a few words" at a coworker's funeral. Here are some suggestions on how to start your eulogy.

• Before I begin, please allow me to extend my deepest condolences on behalf of the entire staff of Wilson and Wilson. Betty, Francine, Don, Jr., you have been in our thoughts and prayers. 
• I met Roger 28 years ago when he sat across my desk telling me why he was the right person for a sales job. Of course, I agreed with him, and he started immediately. Little would I know that this person would become one of my best friends in my entire life. We played golf together, raised our kids together — and occasionally, we would work together. 
• Patricia was a valued staff member for more than 16 years, and I say this with certainty — she will be missed. Patricia had a way of making everyone feel valued and respected. And everyone showed up early to work on the Fridays she promised cinnamon rolls. They were, without a doubt, the best cinnamon rolls I've ever had. 
• For those of you who don't know me, my name is Ethan Draper. I had the pleasure of working with Martin at Infinity Roofing for the last 13 years. Today, I offer my condolences and share a few memories of Martin.
• Martin was known for his fantastic work ethic. No one could keep up with his energy. Even the younger guys on the crew were amazed at all he could accomplish in one day.
• While he certainly was a productive employee, he stood out because of his attitude on the worksite. As you can imagine, it gets sweltering on top of those roofs, and it's hard to keep a good attitude when the temperatures climb during the height of the summer. But Martin never complained.

Starting a eulogy for yourself

I hate to break this to you, but we will all die someday. Since you know it is coming, you might consider writing your own eulogy and leaving it in an easy place to find.

Need help figuring out how to start? Here are some ideas.

• If you are reading this, I am dead. I'm sorry if that sounds harsh. We all knew that this day was fast approaching. Or at least I did.
• After spending a lot of time on Cake, a funeral-planning website, I decided to write my own eulogy. After reading their blog, I decided to take control of this event. I chose the music, poems, and flowers and wrote my obituary. Some of you may think I took it too far by writing my own eulogy, but only those who didn't know me very well are probably surprised.
• Thank you all for coming to my funeral. Wow. That is a weird statement to write. However, there are some things I would like to share with you all now that you are a captive audience. 
• First, I want to send love to Cynthia and the kids. I know how hard the last year has been on you, and I'm sorry for not being the best patient at times. I want you to know that I love you all with my whole heart, and I am thankful to you for letting me die at home. 
• Next, I want to address my parents, siblings, nieces, and nephews. I love you all! I always felt sorry for my friends who weren't close to the people in their families. I can't imagine life without you all. I have lovely memories of our family vacations, volleyball tournaments, Christmases at the cabin, and summers at the lake. 

Starting a Eulogy Off Right

Take time when writing a eulogy, especially as you write the opening lines. Have others look at the text before you deliver your speech, and practice reading it in front of a mirror. 

Writing the eulogy for a friend, family member, or spouse is one of the highest honors you will have in your life. Honor your deceased friend or loved one with a well-thought-out send-off full of love, care, and warm memories.

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How To Start a Eulogy: 15 Heartfelt Examples

Nov 17, 2023

Writing a eulogy can be a daunting experience, especially as you’re grieving the loss of a loved one. Many people find starting the eulogy is the hardest part of writing it because you want to create something meaningful but also correct. 

To help you write the perfect beginning to a eulogy, we put together some tips on where to start, plus a list of 15 heartfelt examples.

Key Takeaways 

A good way to start a eulogy is with a simple introduction of yourself and to thank the audience for coming to the service. 

You can add certain things to your eulogy, like quotes, poems, and fond memories.

Avoid talking about yourself for too long in the eulogy, talking too fast, or using super long quotes in your eulogy. 

How to Start a Eulogy

Being chosen to write a eulogy for a loved one is a great honor, which means you want to write it in the best way to pay tribute to the deceased. Here are some tips on how to begin.

Introduce Yourself 

At the start of a eulogy, one of the first things you should include is who you are. Introduce yourself to the listeners, and explain how you know or are related to the deceased. This helps them feel more connected to you.

If you aren’t a family member, you can also offer your condolences to the deceased’s loved ones.

Thank People for Coming 

Thank the audience for coming out to the funeral, memorial, or whatever type of service you are having. This makes them feel appreciated and starts the service off the right way. 

If there are any people who brought food, were part of the planning, or deserve a special mention, you can thank them as well. 

Talk About Your Relationship with the Deceased 

After introducing yourself, you can lead into talking about the relationship you had with the deceased. Mention things they taught you, something special you will always remember them for, or the effect they had on your life.

Share a Quote or Poem

Some people like to start the eulogy with a nice quote or poem they feel is appropriate for the service. It sets the tone for the rest of the speech.

If your loved one had a special saying that people associated with them, it’s appropriate to use it at the start of the eulogy. 

Share a Fond Memory 

There is no right or wrong way to start a eulogy, and you can always share a fond memory of the deceased. 

Sharing memories can evoke feelings of nostalgia and positivity toward the person who passed. Remember, the eulogy is a celebration , a tribute to the deceased. 

Professional Eulogy Writer, Darcey Peterson , advises:

“For a simple example, ‘Aunt Jane was kind and she loved animals.’ Consider instead a memory like, ‘I still remember summer vacations and overnights with Aunt Jane. I always loved helping her with her evening ritual of feeding the dogs and the birds and even the stray neighborhood cats; all before we even sat down for our own dinner!’”

Tell a Story 

You can begin the eulogy by sharing a short story after your opening lines. This is a great way to engage the audience and build a connection with them.

TedX speaker and teacher at the Swiss International School, Brett Simner , advises:

“Tell stories, great stories, the ones that some will know, but not everybody. They can, of course, include professional accomplishments, but they can also be funny or quirky.”

15 Heartfelt Examples of a Eulogy Introduction 

Finding heartfelt words to begin the eulogy with can be difficult. Here are some examples to use as inspiration. 

Starting a Eulogy for a Parent 

Good afternoon. Thank you all for coming. Before I begin, I wanted to read a meaningful poem that reminded me of my mother, [deceased’s name]. [ Poem .]

Dear friends, family and colleagues of [deceased’s name], I am [your name], and it is my greatest honor to reflect on the life of my father, [deceased’s name], today. I’d like to take a moment to share my fondest memory of him. [Share fond memories.] 

For those of you who don’t know me, I am [deceased’s name’s] daughter.

My mother always used to say [insert funny saying], and if she were here with us today, I have no doubt she would think so, too. 

Starting a Eulogy for a Partner 

[Partner’s name] was my prince charming and the man that I loved from the moment I saw him. I remember that day so clearly [insert memory of how you met the deceased.] [Partner’s name] always wore a smile, and if you were having a bad day, he would always try to cheer you up.

Example 5: 

[Partner’s name] once said, [add saying], and I feel like she was speaking about us as a couple. [Partner’s name] was someone I knew I would spend the rest of my life with. [Share memories.] 

Example 6: 

Every love story is beautiful, but ours was my favorite. As [deceased's name’s] partner in life and adventures, I am deeply honored to stand here before you today, not to mourn his passing, but to celebrate the vibrant and inspiring life he led.  

Starting a Eulogy for a Friend 

Example 7: 

[Deceased’s name] was my best friend on and off the basketball court, and I’ll miss all the afternoons we spent playing together. [Share memories.] 

Example 8: 

Good afternoon, my name is [your name], and [deceased’s name] was my friend. I have known [deceased’s name] since we were young children, and I will always remember the time that we [share memory of the deceased].

Example 9: 

Good day, friends and family. I just want to start by thanking you all for coming out this afternoon to celebrate the man we all loved, [deceased’s name], and his family. I know many of you traveled from far to be here with us, and I’m very grateful for that.

Starting a Eulogy for a Child 

Example 10: 

Good day. Thank you all for coming. I know that [child’s name] would be so touched to see you all here honoring her life. [Child’s name] always loved it when the family got together, especially at Christmas. [Share memory.]

Example 11: 

Dear friends and family. I wanted to start with a quote I know [child’s name] would like by Thomas Jefferson : [quote]. [Child’s name] always enjoyed learning about history, and we often visited the local museum. [Share memory.]

Example 12: 

While the passing of [child’s name] is tragic, I know that he would have wanted us to take this moment to celebrate their life and hold our loved ones near. My name is [your name], and [child’s name] was someone who was always cheerful even when things were bad. 

Starting a Eulogy for a Sibling 

Example 13: 

Hi everyone, most of you know me, and to those that don’t, [sibling’s name] was my sister. Growing up with a sister older than you can be tough, [share a funny story], but it also meant that I always had a friend who was there for me. 

Example 14: 

[John 14:27] My sister [sibling’s name] always loved that Bible verse and would often read it to me during times when I was nervous about something. [Sibling’s name] and I were always close. We would often [share a memory].

Example 15: 

Dear friends and family, thank you all for being here. [Sibling’s name] was my younger brother and best friend. If [sibling’s name] were here today, I know he would have said, [insert deceased’s favorite saying]. 

Mistakes to Avoid in the Introduction of Your Eulogy

A eulogy doesn’t have to be perfect, and there are no rules on what to include. It’s all personal. However, there are some mistakes that you should avoid making in the introduction.

Speaking Too Fast

Speaking in front of a bunch of people can be nerve-wracking, especially when you’re talking about something so personal and emotional. However, you should avoid speaking too fast, as some people may struggle to understand you, and the eulogy will feel rushed.

Using Long Quotations or Religious Passages

Beginning the eulogy with a long quotation or religious passage can make it feel impersonal. Long passages can cause the audience to become distracted or lose interest, as they cannot relate to you and the eulogy. 

Giving Too Much Detail About the Death

Avoid oversharing too many personal details about the deceased’s passing, their life and their family. This may cause feelings of embarrassment, especially if the death was a controversial one, like an overdose of drugs. If you’re unsure whether to include something, ask your friends and family first.

Making Unnecessary Jokes

It’s okay to keep things upbeat and lighthearted when starting your eulogy. You can even make a joke or two. However, you should avoid unnecessary humor that can come across as offensive and tasteless. 

Telling Embarrassing Stories About the Deceased

You are welcome to share any fond or (appropriate) funny memories you have of the deceased, but this doesn’t mean you should share embarrassing stories. This can come across as disrespectful and hurt the family’s feelings. 

Bringing Up Grudges

When writing the introduction of the eulogy, you should not bring up any grudges you have between the deceased and their family. Not only is this disrespectful toward the person who passed, but it’s also hurtful to the family. 

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)

What is a good opening line for a eulogy.

Good afternoon, everyone. My name is [insert name], and [deceased’s name] was my father/mother/sibling/etc. 

How long should a eulogy last?

Generally, you should keep your eulogy between three to seven minutes . Every eulogy is unique, though, so it might be shorter or longer. There is no exactly right answer.

What makes a powerful eulogy?

Make your eulogy powerful by sharing your favorite memories about the deceased and telling stories the audience can relate to.

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In his final public appearance before the series finale of “ Curb Your Enthusiasm ,” Larry David joined MSNBC’s Ari Melber Friday night for a special discussion in Manhattan hosted by Tribeca Festival.

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When asked why “Curb” has endured for 24 years, David had a simple answer: “It’s funny.”

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And when Melber provided a lengthy theory about thematic parallels between David’s character in Woody Allen’s “Whatever Works” and his self-fictionalization in “Curb,” David said: “I didn’t understand any of that.”

“I’m not an intellectual,” David insisted. “I’m just an idiot from Brooklyn.”

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“Yeah!” David laughed. “I’ll get up and I’ll go, ‘Who’s Brockhampton?’”

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Understanding the Purpose of a Eulogy

Choosing your subject, researching the subject's life, writing tips, using visual aids, body language and eye contact, structuring your eulogy, practicing and delivering your eulogy, frequently asked questions.

Public speaking can be a daunting task for many, and writing a eulogy for a speech class might seem like an overwhelming challenge. Eulogies can carry deep emotional significance, and effectively delivering one in a speech class requires careful preparation, heartfelt writing, and practice. In this guide, we will provide you with useful tips on how to craft the perfect eulogy for a speech class, ensuring you leave a positive and lasting impression on your audience.

A eulogy is a speech that pays tribute to the life of someone who has passed away. Its purpose is to honor, remember, and appreciate the individual by telling their story, sharing memories, and highlighting their best qualities. Keep this in mind as you write to ensure your speech reflects the essence of a eulogy.

For a speech class, you may be asked to write a eulogy for a fictional character, a historical figure, or even someone you know personally. Make sure you select someone you can connect with and whose life story will engage your audience.

Gather information about the person's life, achievements, contributions, and any relevant stories or memories. This will help you create a more accurate and vivid portrayal of their life.

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A well-structured eulogy ensures that your speech unfolds smoothly and logically. Consider the following structure as a starting point:

1. Introduction - Introduce the deceased and express your gratitude for the opportunity to speak about them in front of the class.

2. Background - Briefly give an overview of the person's life, including birth, family, education, and career.

3. Stories and memories - Share anecdotes that highlight the person's character and values.

4. Achievements and contributions - Describe any significant accomplishments or contributions the person made to their community or the world.

5. Personal impact - Explain how the person's life has influenced you or left an impact on others.

6. Conclusion - Leave your audience with a final thought or message that encapsulates the essence of the person you are honoring.

• Use descriptive language and sensory details to paint a vivid picture of the person's life.
• Keep the tone respectful and sincere, even if humour is involved.
• Focus on the person's positive attributes and their most remarkable moments.
• Remember to balance personal anecdotes with broader information about their life.
• Edit and revise your eulogy to ensure it flows well and conveys your message effectively.

Once your eulogy is written, it's crucial to practice and refine your delivery to ensure a confident and heartfelt performance.

Practice reading your eulogy out loud several times, focusing on pacing, volume, and tone of voice. Make adjustments to your script as needed to improve clarity and flow.

While it's not necessary to memorize your entire eulogy, being familiar with key points and stories will help you deliver a more natural and engaging speech.

Visual aids, such as photos or slide presentations, can help illustrate the person's life and strengthen your connection with the audience. Keep them simple and relevant to avoid distracting from your speech.

Maintain good posture and make eye contact with your audience to build rapport and demonstrate confidence.

How To Write An Eulogy For A Speech Class Example:

Imagine you've been assigned to write a eulogy for a speech class about the life of famous scientist, Marie Curie. Your eulogy might include:

- An introduction expressing your admiration for Curie and the honor of sharing her story with the class.

- Background on her early life in Poland, her pursuit of higher education, and her move to Paris.

- Stories of her perseverance in the face of adversity and gender discrimination in the sciences.

- A description of her groundbreaking work on radioactivity and discovery of two new elements.

- A reflection on her legacy as the first female Nobel Prize winner and how her achievements have inspired generations of scientists.

What is a eulogy?

A eulogy is a speech given during a funeral or memorial service that pays tribute to the deceased. It highlights their life, legacy, and the impact they had on others. Writing a eulogy involves reflecting on the person's character, experiences, and the moments that defined them.

Why might one write a eulogy for a speech class?

One might write a eulogy for a speech class to learn how to convey emotions effectively, practice public speaking skills, and understand the structure and elements of a commemorative speech. It can serve as a meaningful exercise in crafting a touching tribute, even if hypothetical.

How do I begin writing a eulogy for a speech class?

Start by choosing a person (real or fictional) to eulogize. Then, gather information and stories about their life, focusing on moments that showcase their personality and achievements. Begin your draft with a meaningful introduction that sets the tone for the tribute.

What are some key elements to include in a eulogy?

A eulogy typically includes an introduction, a brief biography of the deceased, personal stories or anecdotes that highlight their qualities, the significance of their impact on others, and a conclusion that provides closure.

How long should a eulogy for a speech class be?

The length may vary, but a typical eulogy for a speech class should be between 3 to 5 minutes. This allows enough time to convey the essence of the person's life without being too lengthy for a classroom setting.

Should I write the eulogy from a personal perspective?

Writing from a personal perspective can add depth and sincerity to the eulogy. Share your experiences or imagine ones that would logically resonate with the audience and provide insight into the character of the person being eulogized.

Can I use humor in a eulogy for a speech class?

Yes, when appropriate, humor can be a warm and fitting tribute to a person's life. However, it must be tasteful and respectful, keeping in mind the solemnity of the occasion.

How can I make my eulogy engaging?

To make your eulogy engaging, include personal anecdotes, use descriptive language, and speak from the heart. Vary your speech delivery by altering your tone, pitch, and pace to maintain audience interest.

What is the importance of practicing the eulogy beforehand?

Practicing is crucial as it helps you become familiar with the content, manage your emotions, refine your delivery, and ensure you keep within the time limit. It also aids in building confidence and reducing anxiety.

Is it acceptable to read from notes?

Yes, it is acceptable to read from notes during a eulogy, as it can help you stay focused and convey your message accurately. However, strive to maintain eye contact with the audience to keep the speech personal and engaging.

Should I edit and revise my eulogy?

Definitely. As with any important speech, editing and refining your eulogy is key. This allows you to improve clarity, eliminate redundancies, and ensure that the speech flows smoothly.

How do I deal with my emotions while delivering a eulogy?

It's natural to feel emotional when delivering a eulogy. To manage your emotions, practice several times, take deep breaths, pause when needed, and remember that it's okay to show feelings as it demonstrates your genuine connection to the person.

How can I connect with my audience during the eulogy?

Connect with your audience by making eye contact, sharing universal themes of life, love, and loss that resonate with everyone, and by speaking in an authentic tone that reflects your true emotions about the person's life and passing.

Should I include the person's shortcomings in my eulogy?

Generally, a eulogy focuses on celebrating the positives of a person's life. If mentioning shortcomings, it should be done with care and perspective, often highlighting how these aspects contributed to their humanity or personal growth.

What tone should I aim for in a eulogy?

The tone of a eulogy should be respectful, honoring, and, where appropriate, uplifting. It should reflect the spirit and personality of the deceased while resonating with the audience on a heartfelt level.

Can I include quotes or poetry in my eulogy?

Including quotes or poetry that were meaningful to the deceased or that articulate your feelings can enhance the eulogy. They should be used sparingly and only if they contribute to the overall message and flow of the tribute.

How important is the conclusion of a eulogy?

The conclusion is extremely important as it offers a sense of closure. Summarize the person's legacy, offer thanks or a farewell, and end on a note that leaves the audience with a lasting impression of the individual's life.

Is it appropriate to make a call to action in a eulogy?

In some cases, a call to action may be fitting, such as encouraging the audience to live out certain values exemplified by the deceased or to support a cause that was important to them. This should be done thoughtfully and in a manner that honors their memory.

What if I make a mistake while delivering the eulogy?

Making a mistake is perfectly human and often goes unnoticed by the audience. If you stumble, simply pause, take a breath, and continue. Your sincerity is more important than perfection in delivery.

How can I ensure my speech is memorable?

To ensure your speech is memorable, focus on telling a story that captures the essence of the person. Use vivid details, express genuine emotions, and structure your eulogy so that it has a clear beginning, middle, and end with a cohesive theme throughout.

What resources can help me write a eulogy?

There are many resources available, including books on speech writing, online articles dedicated to eulogy composition, bereavement groups, and writing workshops. Reach out to family members and friends of the deceased for personal stories and insights as well.

Writing a eulogy for a speech class can be a rewarding and educational experience when you approach it with care and dedication. By researching your subject, thoughtfully structuring your speech, and practicing your delivery, you'll be able to honor your chosen individual's life while leaving a lasting impression on your audience. As you explore other guides and resources on Eulogy Assistant , we encourage you to share this article with others who may be facing a similar assignment or looking for guidance in crafting a heartfelt eulogy for any occasion.

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